What to do about favoritism in class

[charliecat]

Some classes have those professors who show favoritism to a certain group of students and it's always frustrating when that happens. This semester, though, I'm finding that I'm one of the favorites and I'm scared it's hurting my relationship with the other students in my class. I sit in the front and in doing so, end up participating more than if I sat in the back. I get uncomfortable with awkward silences so if I know an answer and no one speaks up, I answer. I like to do the right thing and generally do what I'm told. I volunteer to do extra things outside of class when asked. I've gone back to school so I'm not one of the younger ones just there to have fun. I'm taking it seriously because when I was young and in school for the first time, I didn't take it seriously back then. This feels like a second chance, so I do take nursing school very seriously. Sometimes I feel like an outcast for having that go-getter attitude.

I'm new to this site and am hoping for some insight/advice.

[caliotter3]

Since you're an older student, you know that there is nothing wrong with showing ambition and interest in your schooling. The opinions of your fellow students really are not that important. Chances are not high that they will be there for you when you need a job a few years from now. Don't let any negativism on their part drag you down. There is a difference between a brown noser and someone who is truly a hard worker. Don't overdo your enthusiasm and there won't be cause to lump you in with the first group.

[llg, PhD, RN]

I agree with caliotter3. In the long run, it's unlikely to matter. Don't let your classmates dominate your life or dictate your life. However, nobody likes a "know-it-all, do-gooder" either. Be careful you are not overdoing it. Be a good student, but don't aggravate the situation by being "over the top" with your enthusiasm. That's just not smart.

[TakeTwoAspirin, MSN, RN, APRN]

In 10 years you probably won't even remember any of the other students names, unless of course they are working for you at that point. Keep doing what you are doing.

[CBsMommy]

I agree. I'm in good with some of my teachers and couldn't care less what the other students think about it. The other students are giving me grades or writing me letters of recommendation. You can't please people all the time.

[charliecat]

Thanks everyone. I know at the end of the day, what other people think doesn't matter. But, it's also good not to overdo it either. Sometimes I need to learn how to "play it cool."

[HyperSaurus, RN, BSN]

I don't think this is the same kind of favortism as what you first talk about. Legitimately participating in lecture and being well prepared isn't the same thing as getting through class undeserved simply because the professor likes you best.

[DolceVita, ADN, BSN, RN]

As the others have said. I would add that "participating" too much is monopolizing. That may be what is affecting your relationships with other students (you did say you thought there was a problem).

We have a woman who considers participating to be the same thing as telling us about all of her and her family's medical stuff. She will even go on about things completely unrelated to anything -- i.e. political stuff. I believe she just considers herself a very engaged student. It makes people crazy. It really sucks the air from the room.

Maybe sit through an awkward pause -- it will be good practice for your therapeutic communication techniques.

Good Luck

[happy2learn]

I personally think it's rude to ignore the professor when they ask a question.

Maybe you can talk to your professor about the lack of participation in class. This is what I would say,

"I have a concern with my participation in class. I personally feel I am being rude if I do not answer a question when you ask, but I feel like I may be taking away from other students chances to participate. Is there any way you can make mention of the importance of everyone's participation?"

On another note, who cares what the other students think of you. In the end, the only thing that will matter is how you make a patient feel.

[Bob_N_VA]

Is it favoritism or that they are engaging with the students that have something to contribute to the discussion? I think its easier for people with some life experience under their belts to get into the flow of the class than some of the younger students. Of course it can be taken to an extreme, if every discussion has to have one persons personal perspective, that can get very old. And it could change with different instructors too. I agree with the others, don't sweat what they think of you, contribute as you see fit and hope that the others join in.