What would you do if someone in your household, ie husband or other family member, were doing drugs? ie, smoking pot, meth, hallucinogenics... Or what if it were a boyfriend, fiance, or sibling whose home you visited frequently? Couldn't this affect your job/license/nursing student status? What if they had something in their house/apartment when you were there, or in the vehicle when you were riding with them? Couldn't you get in trouble with the law too? If the person were given a citation and not arrested, could that affect your career? Remember, this is not just a friend - it is a family member. I have a vested interest in obtaining your opinion, but I decline to be more specific as this board isn't completely anonymous.
That probably wouldn't do much though, unless the person was a dealer. They don't just lock drug users up in jail forever, I think its usually a fine and community service kind of thing. If anything then she'd have to deal with her family member calling her for bail money. :/
Um. I think I know because it's what I do for a living.
Um. I think I know because it's what I do for a living.
Well, that's a commendable career, but without knowing the situation, I wouldn't recommend telling people that the smartest thing to do is have their family members arrested. I fail to see what that would accomplish except causing more family drama. She could potentially be facing a divorce, so I think the thing to do is to figure out how bad the situation is, what, if anything, she could do to help the family member in a way that could save the marriage, etc. What would a few hours of her spouse or sibling in jail solve for her?
Well, that's a commendable career, but without knowing the situation, I wouldn't recommend telling people that the smartest thing to do is have their family members arrested. I fail to see what that would accomplish except causing more family drama. She could potentially be facing a divorce, so I think the thing to do is to figure out how bad the situation is, what, if anything, she could do to help the family member in a way that could save the marriage, etc. What would a few hours of her spouse or sibling in jail solve for her?
Interesting that you say that. I find when we've gone over topics in mental health that lead people with psychiatric disorders to commit crimes that many nursing students in my class suggest that "locking them up" won't solve anything.
I couldn't care less. They need to be taken out of society for a while. Recidivism is what it is, but sometimes you gotta stop caring about the individual and start caring about everybody else instead.
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I don't do any of the above, but smoking pot is entirely different from meth....I think you should establish what it is first and respond accordingly. For me, meth would be reason to leave altogether, 100% a deal breaker; pot, annoying, yes, but I'd think that was more of a bad habit than anything else and be fine if they kept it out of the house and just with friends or something - as long as they were gainfully employed, it wasn't affecting the relationship and I never had to deal with it or be around it. (Depending on the state, I know Utah and Florida consider it a felony, others its barely a misdemeanor).
What would you do if someone in your household, ie husband or other family member, were doing drugs? ie, smoking pot, meth, hallucinogenics... Or what if it were a boyfriend, fiance, or sibling whose home you visited frequently? Couldn't this affect your job/license/nursing student status? What if they had something in their house/apartment when you were there, or in the vehicle when you were riding with them? Couldn't you get in trouble with the law too? If the person were given a citation and not arrested, could that affect your career? Remember, this is not just a friend - it is a family member. I have a vested interest in obtaining your opinion, but I decline to be more specific as this board isn't completely anonymous.
If you were riding in a car with them and were stopped, then drugs found, you as well as your passenger could very well be arrested. This happened to my daughter 1 year ago, a 'friend' was in her car and had heroin in his possession. She was stopped for a broken taillight, The person in her car was known to the police. She is still going back adn forth to court on this and could well have to do time. As a nursing student, you DO NOT want to be involved! You most likely will not be allowed to complete your program or take the NCLEX, because the offense may be a felony. Not good at all!
15 years ago my child married and had a baby..her spouse grew it in the yard, and used all the time. And he was a surgical tech...I reported him to his job, Child welfare, and licensure board after offering to get them help. He also abused her.
I got laughed at...I was the"mother in law b*****! Even child welfare did nothing. My child did not speak to me or any other family for 8 solid years, until she got the guts to get out. But the clincher is she is still married as she is so afraid he will run off with the kids. So no matter what he does, including still smoking it in his home with his girlfriend and kids are there 1/2 the time.. nothing happens. And yes he sells it too. Youngest is 9, so this could continue for another 9 years. I have tried to talk till I have no more breath so I just listen now. This guy is ex-con let out on mirandra right violation after 10 yrs. I know she is scared and has the abused PTSD stuff but....
I do not get it...I never visited there after the first episode. I would say get your kids and get out. But do not count on the law or anyone else to help or protect you.. help yourself! Sorry for this happening to you
I have actually BEEN in this situation. My ex of 7 years was a closet oxycontin drug addict. Let me say, he hid it very well. I left the very second I found out (he was buying and using around my son and driving high with him). I did try to help him through outpatient rehab and marriage counseling but he quickly went back to his old ways. I don't give 3rd chances. If you are in a similar situation and have children, don't expect the authorities to do much. Apparently my child has to have a bruise or some other physical scar to show he is not safe around his father. If he is a functioning drug addict, OH WELL they say. It still burns me up.
As for getting in trouble with your state board, yes, you probably will. Get yourself far, far away from this person. Not just for professional reasons but personal safety.
I've already stated, for me, I would not throw a marriage away over a man that smoked pot on occasion, and I would immediately divorce a man involved with meth. Your logic is completely flawed. Using your logic, murder is an illegal crime, and stealing a candy bar is an illegal crime, so there must be no difference.
I've already stated, for me, I would not throw a marriage away over a man that smoked pot on occasion, and I would immediately divorce a man involved with meth. Your logic is completely flawed. Using your logic, murder is an illegal crime, and stealing a candy bar is an illegal crime, so there must be no difference.
:confused:what does anything of this nature have to do with your flawed logic?
I personally will not allow any illegal drugs to enter my house or my vehicles. My 18 y/o niece smokes pot but its not allowed in my house, she lives with me, or in my vehicles..... I used to smoke pot in my younger days too.
If I was married to a pot smoker I would not immediately leave them and probably would not bat an eye at it as long as there is no stash anywhere that could get me in trouble. If they were meth heads or cocaine addicts.... any other top tier drug.... I would give them one try at rehab immediately, if they refused I would leave immediately.
truthfull I have been there and done this (hubby) POt smoker and guess what i gave him an ultumatem to get clean or get out by such a date when that date came (end of the month) i had to go my own way and i prayed on it and 3 mos later he returned a clean man and our marriage is soooo much better due to him being a better person in a better place!!!
truthfull I have been there and done this (hubby) POt smoker and guess what i gave him an ultumatem to get clean or get out by such a date when that date came (end of the month) i had to go my own way and i prayed on it and 3 mos later he returned a clean man and our marriage is soooo much better due to him being a better person in a better place!!!
I've been there with my husband too, he only smoked pot in the garage, and never had a stash around (except, I persume, in the garage.) but I asked him if he was happy with the amount of money I make, "yes". I told him that any legal trouble he might get into could affect my job and our kids (though once I called child services on a heavy meth user and they indeed did ask, "is the house clean? do the kids have bruises? then we won't bother.") He didn't call my bluff, but started attending NA and quit using. He's been sober for over a year now, life's better.
On the other hand, many long years ago, I had a baby by a man who used meth (I know, big mistake.) I told him he could live with me as long as he never used meth again. I ignored all the warning signs of using, even found a light bulb and straw hidden in the house. When I confronted him on the light bulb, he freaked out in such a scary manner that I told him as long as he never did it again, I would forgive him. I continued to ignore the danger signs and he left our 3 month child at home alone. When I found her, I secretly began packing and when he came home I gently explained that we don't ever leave infants home alone and said nothing else. Next day when he went to work, we left forever. I also reported him to child services to ensure that if he ever tried to get custody, he wouldn't stand a chance. Years later, I wonder at how crazy I was.
To make a short story long, I would confront a pot head directly. I would not ever confront a meth head, just run, fast...
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Um. I think I know because it's what I do for a living.