Very respectful for a man to be anurse

ADONLTC · Jul 31, 2005

I've been a male RN for 12 yrs.
~faith.

What where you before?? a female RN????

Sorry, just had to say that... Im not a "male" RN... Im a RN, period!

renerian, BSN, RN · Jul 31, 2005

My hubby has been an RN since 77 and he has heard all of what I have read here. Occasionally has people call him Dr. LOL.

renerian :rotfl:

ocb_dave_ocb, LPN · Jul 31, 2005

yeah I dont see the point of having to say "MALE" in front of it.. I am a male and i am a, well, Graduated nurse take the test aug. 2nd.. I heard some of the same wise cracks everyone else did.. But people usually making those comments are dead beats. or they have no life...

Im not gay, and i dont see why everyone assumes nurse's that are male are? I mean i was in a realationship for 2 year and 2 months with my ex-gf. But I mean i plan on meeting new women when i move.

I think it takes ALOT for ANYONE m or f to be a nurse..

Renerian...... I have been asked by neumorous patients if i was there doctor when i was in clinicals supporting the "WHITE SCRUBS"

DANu3........ See if people were less judgemental you wouldnt have to worry about everyone assuming that you are gay just because you are a non-married or single nurse.

That is the problem that I see today, to many people assume to much and they are to quick to pass judgement before they even take the time to get to know someone else... (SORRY IM JUST VENTING THIS SUBJECT UPSETS ME SOMETIMES)

Bluespruce · Jul 31, 2005

I've been a male RN for 12 yrs.
In the beginning, I'd get 'the look' - somewhere in the conversation I'd mention wife (divorced now though) and/or kids and 'the look' would change.
I don't get that look anymore. Men in nursing is becoming more accepted.
I've never been discriminated against. My teammates and I do tend to juggle some patients (e.g. young female suicide watch patients -- best to avoid fending off a complaint from somebody already pre-disposed to emotional problems) -- but on the other side: I tend to get more of the 220lb 6'2" ETOH withdrawal males - so balances out.
Women CAN be catty towards each other sometimes. Hey I work w/ women, I'm entitled to say!!! That's another advantage: my co-workers kid me alot cause more often than not, if I interject into a conversation, it's to say 'BE NICE!'
I also find that if I'm on duty w/ say, 3 women, that I tend to get asked to help turn patients, etc. by all 3: but that's cool.
Doctors respect me more --- I'm just saying!!!!! I can remember my first week of nursing school when I didn't know squat and some doc asked me a question and I didn't even know what he was asking -- when my Master's trained instructor tried to answer, he gave her an icy stare and responded, "I didn't ask you!" It's sad but a fact (although I'd like to think that some of the respect I get is that I don't call in the middle of the night for BS -- if I'm calling, the docs tend to know from previous experience that maybe, just maybe, they should pay attn). I tend to be the one that makes 3 am phone calls for everybody (but that might not just be a guy thing -- deep down, I LIKE WAKING UP DOCS! - OH and especially the rude ones; you ladies think of that as a chore, but it's oh so satisfying - and it doesn't take a doctor's review board because the chief of staff was woke up at 2am because you ordered "don't call me back regardless" to make a doc think more than twice before being a jerk the next time. LOL).
I can remember an older lady telling me awhile back: 'I like you men nurses; to the women, i'm just another patient - but y'all always treat me like I'm your grandmother'
I haven't been given too much grief about nursing and when I do get grief, my response is not rude but also not polite: I point out to so-and-so jerk that (and more often than not it's true) I make more money then he does. So who gets last laugh!
Anyway, until I make my millions, this job is just fine, and besides, I'm very good at it.
~faith.

I agree with your statements...although I'm female, I'm coming from an IT desktop support backround where I mostly worked with males. It was refreshing...if we had a spat we got over it & got on & worked very well together. With women, they're more passive agressive & can't just be open & get on with any issues they have. Granted there are many women that aren't like this, but unfortunately women tend to be better at the passive aggressive form of coping.

I think men in nursing are cool & I hope we get more of em. Granted - I don't think ALL men in nursing are cool. Most of them are though. :-)

hollyster · Jul 31, 2005

I love working with men. Nursing is the first job I have workedwhere women make up the majority of the staff.

In my previous job(Fire/Rescue,) my sister and I worked the same shift in the same unit and for a long time everyone thought we were a couple until a female police officer asked my sister out and she had to explain that she was married and had a child and that I am her sister(We are adopted and look nothing alike.) So I understand the misconceptions people come up with just because you are working in a field dominated by the opposite sex.

**RosesrReder, BSN, MSN, RN** · Jul 31, 2005

I think it shows overall compassion and caring- something ALOT of men lack-especially the ones who make fun of male nurses. :)

I think it is a wonderful thing, because it breaks stereotypical barriers and the men add a spice to the nursing profession. Best wishes to you all

adagiogray · Aug 1, 2005

Not sure what you're asking... What happens? If you're a guy who has made it through nursing school, chances are you're secure enough in your sexuality that the occasional 'look' won't phase you.

This got me thinking... what happen if you are a nurse, male, never married, always single, not in any kind of a relationships, not looking for any kind of relationships, no kids, but as "straight" as they can come?

Someday-C.R.N.A. · Aug 1, 2005

This got me thinking... what happen if you are a nurse, male, never married, always single, not in any kind of a relationships, not looking for any kind of relationships, no kids, but as "straight" as they can come?

Dude, I know EXACTLY what you mean.

I am currently a steel worker. Never married, haven't been in a relationship in years, not particularly looking for one, no kids, and straight.....Oh, and I am going to nursing school.

What happens??..........Life happens, bro.

I'm not in a relationship because I don't want to be in a relationship.

I don't have kids because I have been responsible enough to wait until I was ready. (And I was a little bit lucky, I won't lie).

I'm straight because I am.

I don't want to be a menial laborer for the rest of my life. I want something better for myself. Looking at what I wanted to do (options wide open) , I decided that I did NOT want to lie to people. I hate liars. I decided that I did NOT want to cheat people. I hate cheaters. I decided that I did NOT want to steal from people. I hate thieves. Pretty much cuts out the "business" world entirely, don't it?

So what's left for a young man to do??.........I like helping people. I like knowing what I'm doing. I like having enough knowledge about a given job/situation to make correct judgement calls very quickly. I like the rush of "gotta go NOW" work, and the judgement calls and responsibility that go along with that type of work. I like feeling as though I have EARNED my paycheck when I go to cash it. ....................WHAT ABOUT THAT MAKES ME A HOMOSEXUAL????????????????????

For the record, I think that the fat, ugly, smelly, IGNORANT 'men' (who tend to be the majority concerning themselves with 'gays'), need to wake up. .....And grow up...........I'm not gay, but I can SMELL..........idiot... and I'd rather not be around you.

BTW....So what of the women working in my steel mill...........All lesbians, I suppose...... :uhoh3: