I live in a university owned 2 bedroom apartment, and I share a room with the most inconsiderate, immature 26 year old I have ever met.
Since she moved in last quarter I have tried to find at least one sensible thing about her, but I must say it has been very hard. Anyway, I was washing the dishes when I noticed that her loaf of bread (which was on top of the refrigerator) was growing mold. She was sitted in the living room watching TV, so I told her about it. She took the loaf of bread and put it in the refrigerator. Yes, she took the bread from the top of the refrigerator and put it inside. I was so shocked I asked her why she would put it in there. She said it was none of my business and she did not see why I was getting so worked up about it. I told her the mold would only spread to our (mine and the other 2 girls) food. She told me it was covered in a bag, and I should leave her alone.
I go into my room, angry and disgusted of course. But I tried to keep my cool. I googled up mold, and found an article that explaine dthe dangers of mold and what to do with moldy food or surfaces. I showed her the article (I left the computer with her) and went back to studying. About an hour later I went to get my computer, and I asked her if the article was helpful. She immidiately went off on me stating that I was always on her case. That I had to leave her and her bread alone. She called me a nazi and stated that I should have never pointed out the moldy bread. That thats the only reason she moved it to the refrigerator. I tried to explain to her that it is unsanitary for her to leave moldy food in the refrigerator and that I was not going to have it. I also told her that if she was offended by me pointing out her moldy bread she should have to me that from the start. At this point Im yelling at her. Hey you dont call me a nazi without getting some sort of reaction! She called me a b**** and I called her a dirty pig! Okay maybe Im getting a lil too detailed but you get my gist...
I ended the conversation by telling her I would report her to the RA, and I did. The RA left her a note (she left befor the RA got there) stating that she had to trash the moldy bread. As I type that bread is procreating in my refrigerator!
I dont understand why some people cannot use their common sense. I really dont. I am soooo angry. No more playing nice. I will apologize to her for yelling at her, but I will keep my distance. I cant wait to graduate and move out. At least I can hope move in with compatible characters.
Thanks for listening guys. Oh, if you have any suggestions on how to handle or if you feel I was wrong in being so forward please tell. Words of wisdom always help.
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I'm going to agree with some of the other posters and say it's obvious she wasn't too attached to her bread to begin with. Curiousity begs to ask, how much was left of the loaf? I would have just tossed it. I know in my apartment foodstuffs are communal, so it would have never gone bad in the first place without someone noticing. I'm not saying encourage her bad habits, but maybe she just doesn't use the bread that often and it would help. I don't want to sound like I'm supporting her but I will admit that I can be somewhat slobbish sometimes and need a hint if it's too much.
Dolcebellaluna, more than 2/3 of the loaf was moldy. She claimes 4he bought the bread 2 days b4 I noticed the mold. Food is not communal in this apt unless you are given permission. I understand what u r saying however, the main point here is not d fact that the bread was growing mold but her refusal to despose of it n to subsequently store it in the refrigerator.
you're a lot better than me cause i'd be damned if this roomie would use *my* tv while giving me the silent treatment :icon_roll. i'd remind her that it's not a communal thing either! i'm sorry ~
A couple of recruits that had gotten to ripe for us to stand it any longer got a "shower party" while in Basic Training in the Army in my unit. Ajax and scrub brushes got put to them in the shower. A few of us held them down and some others did the scrubbing. It only had to get done once. Too bad those methods can't be applied everywhere.
Was this the first instance of disgusting behavior, or was this the straw that broke the camels back? Living in a community is HARD - I've done it for 4 years now with 5 other moms and their children - talk about community. What I've learned is the necessity of choosing battles and finding the right way to talk to people without putting them on the defense.
Maybe she was going to throw it away - later but just not when you first told her about it as to not having to listen to what you say. I would have let it go till the next day and see if the bread ended up in the trash. Her independence was threatened.
But if she is generally a messy person and stuff like this happens often, then I would have to say something to her. But away from the initial situation - it is easy to become defensive and that does not accomplish anything.
I don't know this seems like something very small to have such a big disagreement over - seems like there is history here.
Good luck with the roomate though - seems like at this point she might do some messy things just to spite you. I would try my best to ignore them - and if they don't get the attention she is seeking the behavior will change (Ok in a perfect world, but can't we hope). And be careful what you do, because the standard of going to the RA has been set - she may be looking for things to do the same for you.
Wow, who revived this thread? It's like a year old... Anyway, the girl moved out a month after the incidence of the moldy bread and I got a better (mature and polite) roommate. I did graduate in the summer, and since then I moved out into my cute little studio which I share with me, myself and I!
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I'm going to agree with some of the other posters and say it's obvious she wasn't too attached to her bread to begin with. Curiousity begs to ask, how much was left of the loaf? I would have just tossed it. I know in my apartment foodstuffs are communal, so it would have never gone bad in the first place without someone noticing. I'm not saying encourage her bad habits, but maybe she just doesn't use the bread that often and it would help. I don't want to sound like I'm supporting her but I will admit that I can be somewhat slobbish sometimes and need a hint if it's too much.