I put in a request for PTO in July for 3 days off. I requested the days off because it is the day that I removed my son from life support after drowning. I wanted to go home and put flowers on his grave and see my other son. I received an email from my manager stating that he was not going to approve my pto time because she doesn't want to fill the holes with agency. I have a lot of pto and we lose it if we don't use it. I am frustrated and disappointed. I always pick up extra. I don't know what to do. Not being allowed to use pto, a benefit that I have earned, is a deal breaker for me.