I applied to UBC nursing for the 2013 intake and I have some questions. I hope people here won't judge me and will be open-minded.
I'm 22 years old and I've been dancing as an exotic dancer for 3 years to put myself through university. I just recently finished up a double major at UBC in women's studies and psychology and now I feel like going back and getting a degree in nursing. I feel it's my destiny (my mom was a nurse and a single-mom).
I am wondering how heavy the work-load is in UBC's 2 year program. I really love my job as an exotic dancer for a variety of reasons. First of all, I make great money. It has put me through school and has allowed me to live quite the posh lifestyle. I also love the feeling of empowerment it gives me. I feel super sexy and it gives me a rush every time I step on stage. Would I be able to continue to dance part-time while doing nursing?
I am also wondering if stripping part-time is frowned upon. Omg I just hate lying so I did mention in my application that I am a dancer.
It's been a while since I've lived in BC but don' "escorts" have to be licensed? That will show up on a background check and may raise all sorts of questions.
Breast implants? Unless they are "Jordan/Katie Price" sized I wouldn't worry. I've worked with a couple of RNs who have them. One was due to breast cancer.
Recognition could be a problem, due you have a thick skin? Patients can be pretty crude and insensitive towards nurses.
What you do in your personal life is your business, so long as it is not illegal and does not affect your professional life. However, I would be sure to not strip near where you work as a nurse or you may be recognized, which may be um, awkward.
There's very little likelihood of 'hiding' your part time pursuits once you begin applying for health care positions since Federal regulations require a thorough background check. This process will uncover any and all jobs for which there has been any FICA activity - or generated a W2. I know (don't ask me how - LOL) that 'adult entertainers' in my part of the country are not actually hired, but enter into an 'independent contractor' arrangement with the strip club. If this is the case, you may not be outed in the background check.
Nursing is a profession in which success is dependent upon your ability to successfully establish a therapeutic relationship with each and every patient. The patient's ability to trust you is based upon his/her perception of your competency/professionalism. What is going to happen when the patient is aware of your double-life? How would this impact your relationship with co-workers and colleagues? I can guarantee you that it would put the kibosh on any chances of promotion or career advancement. In today's world, if you are a stripper, your pictures are available on the internet.... even if your employer did not use them for marketing purposes, I assure you that a 'customer' has posted them. So it would only be a matter of time.
Maybe you could do it, but IMO, this is an untenable dichotomy to maintain. Nursing has been rated as the "most trusted profession" in the US every year except 2001 (when we were #2 to fire fighters). OTOH, I wouldn't even hazard a guess as to whether sex workers are even classified as a profession but would imagine that they are on the other end of the scale. Trying to balance both of these pursuits would be a crazy-making endeavor even if you are a great 'compartmentalizer'.
You sound judgemental, dear. Seriously what does one have to do with the other? That's right...nothing. She is not doing anything illegal. And an exotic dancer is not a " sex worker". You make her sound like a hooker. Also, I know MANY nurses who are former strippers. Has not mattered.
You sound judgemental, dear. Seriously what does one have to do with the other? That's right...nothing. She is not doing anything illegal. And an exotic dancer is not a " sex worker". You make her sound like a hooker. Also, I know MANY nurses who are former strippers. Has not mattered.
Are you implying that stripping is not a job that involves sex? Are you arguing that stripping is a profession and not just "sex work"? I could be wrong, but I'm pretty sure people who go to strip clubs aren't particularly interested in artistic expression.
The fact is, it can affect your professional life especailly if you have incorporated stripping into your professional life, right? Let's face it: Social Media can be a career killer. Heck, Google Image searches can be a career killer (my name is Shye Johnson - I know what I'm talking about!)
Also, the OP is not talking about being a former stripper, she's talking about continuing to strip when she is an RN. There is a difference, IMO.
Are you implying that stripping is not a job that involves sex? Are you arguing that stripping is a profession and not just "sex work"? I could be wrong, but I'm pretty sure people who go to strip clubs aren't particularly interested in artistic expression.
The fact is, it can affect your professional life especailly if you have incorporated stripping into your professional life, right? Let's face it: Social Media can be a career killer. Heck, Google Image searches can be a career killer (my name is Shye Johnson - I know what I'm talking about!)
Also, the OP is not talking about being a former stripper, she's talking about continuing to strip when she is an RN. There is a difference, IMO.
Why actually I am. Stripping does NOT involve sex.She is not having sex with men for money. Stripping involves dancing provacatively for men. Whether you think it is right or wrong, it is perfectly legal. I have worked in that industry and many of those girls were teachers, nurses, etc who did it to supplement their income. She didn't say she planned on incorporating it into her professional life. She wants to keep it separate. If she wants to strip on the side or waitress on the side, big whoop? One thing has nothing to do with the other. I wouldn't worry too much about social media. Strippers don't tend to use their real names. So unless she advertises it or someone knows her stripper name and where she works and is specifically LOOKING to expose her she will be fine. I know many former strippers who are now lawyers, social workers, healthcare providers etc. In fact, that is how many of them put themselves through school.
Why actually I am. Stripping does NOT involve sex.She is not having sex with men for money. Stripping involves dancing provacatively for men. Whether you think it is right or wrong, it is perfectly legal. I have worked in that industry and many of those girls were teachers, nurses, etc who did it to supplement their income. She didn't say she planned on incorporating it into her professional life. She wants to keep it separate. If she wants to strip on the side or waitress on the side, big whoop? One thing has nothing to do with the other. I wouldn't worry too much about social media. Strippers don't tend to use their real names. So unless she advertises it or someone knows her stripper name and where she works and is specifically LOOKING to expose her she will be fine. I know many former strippers who are now lawyers, social workers, healthcare providers etc. In fact, that is how many of them put themselves through school.
You seem to have a different definition of "involving sex" than I do. I think you're oversimplifying/omitting the truth of the profession by defining it as "dancing provocatively for men". It sounds like a rationalization to me.
No one is arguing the legality of it. Mediaography is also legal. So is smoking marijuana in some states.
I think if you argue that exotic dancing is a profession, you cannot also argue that it is separate from your professional life. It's not necessarily a "big whoop" to take a side job, but you can't control what your employers think about you. Finding out that your employee is also currently an exotic dancer could (and historically has) influenced opinions about said employee. No?
I personally don't see anything wrong with stripping or nursing while stripping; but I think that's a choice you have to realize might come with some reprocussions. It's naive to think that society's largely negative view of that profession will not impact you in some aspect of your professional life.
You seem to have a different definition of "involving sex" than I do. I think you're oversimplifying/omitting the truth of the profession by defining it as "dancing provocatively for men". It sounds like a rationalization to me.
No one is arguing the legality of it. Mediaography is also legal. So is smoking marijuana in some states.
I think if you argue that exotic dancing is a profession, you cannot also argue that it is separate from your professional life. It's not necessarily a "big whoop" to take a side job, but you can't control what your employers think about you. Finding out that your employee is also currently an exotic dancer could (and historically has) influenced opinions about said employee. No?
I personally don't see anything wrong with stripping or nursing while stripping; but I think that's a choice you have to realize might come with some reprocussions. It's naive to think that society's largely negative view of that profession will not impact you in some aspect of your professional life.
I am just saying it shouldn't matter.I wouldn't care if she is a Mediaographer, as long as it does not interfere with her ability to do her job. Live and let live. If she wants to do it, she should be discreet , not because she is wrong but because people are judgemental. And I am not rationalizing anything. It is what it is. But I want to know what YOU think goes on in a typical strip club. What is YOUR definition of " involving sex" ?
LOL..Don't know how much energy you will have from doing a 12 or 14 hour shift to getting up on the stage to dance for another 8 hours. I'd be careful though...you must just be in the situation where you are about to give a private dance to a gentleman you once had to care for. I mean, if you're into that. I guess it's kinda weird to me since you've seen their genitals, and now they're seeing yours? lol Weird.
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It's been a while since I've lived in BC but don' "escorts" have to be licensed? That will show up on a background check and may raise all sorts of questions.
Breast implants? Unless they are "Jordan/Katie Price" sized I wouldn't worry. I've worked with a couple of RNs who have them. One was due to breast cancer.
Recognition could be a problem, due you have a thick skin? Patients can be pretty crude and insensitive towards nurses.