Too many life changes at once...

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Specializes in med-surg.

Hi all - I just need to vent. I graduated in December, passed my boards in January and started a new grad residency program with a surgical floor in February. It is an intense program at a Level 1 trauma center, with a three year contract. I was so excited when I applied for and accepted the position. But now things have changed as my husband is divorcing me. So on top of the stress of learning a new job, I am coming home and filling out financial affadavits, etc. I am so worried about not being able to handle all of this. We have a condo together that he doesn't want, and I do, so I'll be taking it on myself (if we sell now we loose/owe a lot of $ that we don't have). We have two dogs that he wants to split up, which is breaking my heart even more. :bluecry1: Plus, even with me keeping one dog I now need to figure out a way for someone to let her out since I'll be gone 15 hours at a time (13 hour shifts plus a one hour commute each way). At least I only work 3 days a week!

I guess I just need to hear some words of encouragement! thx

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Specializes in LTC.

Hang in there you have a lot on your plate I will be praying for you and Im very sorry that during such a time when you should be walking on cloude nine you have this life changing event going on...by the way hug the dog its a different world for her/him also

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Specializes in Adult Acute Care Medicine.

Oh, I am so sorry. These are both HUGE life changes.

Take just one day or one minute at a time...

You can and will get through this. :heartbeat

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Specializes in Peds Hem, Onc, Med/Surg.

At this point in time everyone goes through life changes maybe not as big as yours but you will get through them. Then one day you will wake up and say you know what I am glad things happened this way! =D

Just hang in there!

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Hang in there hun, after you make it through the frustration and heartache, there will be a brighter day and you WILL be a stronger person from it all.

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Specializes in NICU Level III.

When I started my first nursing job, I was going through a divorce, too...in fact that's why I even moved back to Texas.. It was NOT fun and NOT easy. Take it one day at a time, seek a support group (at least online), and a counselor can help. It it definitely makes the new job thing a lot harder. Lemme know if you want to talk!

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Specializes in Rehabilitation.

:heartbeat

hang in there!!! {{{Hugs}}}

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Specializes in Cath Lab, OR, CPHN/SN, ER.

Hang in there!

Check and see if your facility has a counseling program for employees (most do). If so, take advantage of that.

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Specializes in Tele; Med/Surg; ED.

I went through a divorce soon after graduating, too. First - get counseling. Talk to your doctor about what's going on and take his advice, even if he wants you to take a medication. Utilize your support system and communicate with your supervisor. They can't help you if they don't know what's going on. Above all else - remember that your emotional health is just as important as your patient's. We as healthcare providers sometimes tend to slap a band-aid on ourselves and forget to take time for ourselves. Don't make any big decisions right now if you can help it, eat right, get enough sleep and be selfish with your time. Stick to a routine and hire a neighborhood kid whom you can trust to walk your dog a couple of time a day when you're working. My thoughts and prayers are with you - you're not alone!:icon_hug:

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Specializes in med-tele.

Praying for you. Broke up with my partner in within my first year of nursing. Take it a day at a time. :redbeathe

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