Tired of all the Anal Stuff and Horizontal Violence

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Specializes in Gerontological, cardiac, med-surg, peds.

Why is it ANYWHERE you go in nursing, it is like this??? Thanks for letting me vent. I just need to get away from this place for awhile.

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Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

I am unsure what you are talking about . But i am listening....anything I can do to help?

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Specializes in Gerontological, cardiac, med-surg, peds.

Thanks for your concern. Can't get very specific. Let's just say this past year has been VERY wearing and I am fighting burn out and having a bad attitude. I found, to my amazement, that horizontal violence AMONG nursing faculty DIRECTED TOWARDS each other, is much worse than ANYTHING I encountered while at the bedside. On a more positive note, things are getting much better around our school... I really want us to work together and celebrate one another's strengths, rather than harping on each other's weaknesses. All this negativity and miscommunication really, really has a bad effect upon the students.

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Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

I saw a lot of that when I was a student in nursing school. it was dog-eat-dog among them and us. I would not care to repeat it for all the Tea in China. Bless your heart. At least I graduated and got away...you are really stuck in it. I am sorry!

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Specializes in Rehab, Med Surg, Home Care.

Hopefully you can at least create a little island of peace and respect involving you and your most immediate co-workers...sometimes it even short-circuits some of the surrounding nastiness.

Good luck and stay strong!

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Specializes in Hemodialysis, Home Health.

So sorry, Vicki. :o

I wish you peace.

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Ah, the fading memories of nursing school, they were good times!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Specializes in Med-Surg.

Vicky, stay the light you are. It may dim and flicker, but you are an inspiration to so many of us, your students included. Vent, take care of yourself, don't give in.

I've see the horizontal violence every day, between managers, between nurses, between CNA's when there is nothing to gain. Gets very frustrating.

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Specializes in NICU, Infection Control.

By 'anal', Vicky means [i believe] colleagues or teachers who are nit-picky and excessively compulsive; horizontal violence refers to colleagues whose anger is directed to a peer, and who might otherwise behave inappropriately and unpredictably. Probably not textbook definitions, but I don't have a textbook handy.

Please don't hijack what is otherwise a constructive and supportive thread--we need good nursing instructors to give us good new nurses--some of us are old, tired and worn out.

Vicky, I think the academic environment is very competitive [nice word for it, huh], and that makes folks anxious and that makes some of them less than pleasant to work with.

I hope things get better for you, and your students.

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Originally posted by VickyRN

Thanks for your concern. Can't get very specific. Let's just say this past year has been VERY wearing and I am fighting burn out and having a bad attitude. I found, to my amazement, that horizontal violence AMONG nursing faculty DIRECTED TOWARDS each other, is much worse than ANYTHING I encountered while at the bedside. On a more positive note, things are getting much better around our school... I really want us to work together and celebrate one another's strengths, rather than harping on each other's weaknesses. All this negativity and miscommunication really, really has a bad effect upon the students.

Wow, are you teaching where I got my BSN??? :chuckle It was really obvious which professors hated each other, in fact they would even complain about each other. There was also lots of miscommunication-- what was the worst was when a class was team taught by a few different professors.

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Specializes in LTC, CPR instructor, First aid instructor..

My two main instructors literally hated eachother. They tried to show us how well they supported one another, but one afternoon I spent in the library during my lunch hour, and I heard them in a vicious arguement with one another. Their office was located across from the library.

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Specializes in Community Health Nurse.

It's not about them being nurses. It's about them being "women" I do believe. :rolleyes:

What is it about "women" (and yes, I'm a woman) that makes a LOT of women behave that way? :confused:

I can now see why the Old Testament stated for women to be "seen and not heard" in the Synagogues. Perhaps it was for reasons such as this. Whenever women get together, the environment takes on a whole new meaning, and once they are allowed to speak.........well.........you know what comes from that by working with women all day. :p

How can women learn to get along? What is it going to take women? Help me out here! :rolleyes:

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