I work for an agency on top of my regular job (which is a reputable company). I was working in a small hospital in the next town over and decided to break in the designated break room. So a staff nurse comes in there and tries to kick me out! And was being EXTREMELY rude about it. She literally said "shoo" (On top of other things)
Staff nurse: " I need five minutes from people"
Me: "Well so do I"
Staff nurse: "Well I actually WORK here"
Me: That still gives you no right to kick me out. I am entitled to a break too, you know!"
Staff nurse: " I dont care where you go just get out of here!"
Me: How about you TRY to pick me up and throw me out?"
Then she left in a huff. She was rude to me all day long finally I told her that if she keeps speaking to me that way I will have to hurt her feelings and just go off on her. Her nurse manager saw wat she was doing and said something to her about it, when she tried to apologize I just said, "yeah whatever" and walked away. I only did this because I knew that her apology was not sincere. She was told that she would be written up if she did not apologize and continued her behavior (she was rude to other float nurses as well. This is why no one likes to go there on asignment. Even her co workers dislike her as they tell me constantly) Maybe I was wrong for holding a grudge (which I normally do not do) but if she had not continued to be rude the remainder of the shift, then I would not have either. She pushed the right button today.:angryfire Was I wrong in my actions?
I'm with you!! I probably wouldn't have been as level headed as you . If you would have let her walk all over you, it wouldn't have been the last time.
After 15 years of nursing, I can never understand why you want to be rude to someone who is there to help.
Man, who peed in her cheerio's? I wonder if some people are always that nasty in and out of work, and why. If they are that nasty at work where we usually put on our happy face and pretend all is well with the world, what is she like at home? I feel sorry for her spouse and children. (If she has any) We ALL have bad days and bring our home stresses to work sometimes, but that is still no excuse for the way she "shoo'd" you! Thats just poor manners. I would see to it that the DON is made aware of WHY you will not return to that facility.
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Well...I kinda got a feeling from her when a smile seemed impossible for her! LOL! Heck...I even said I thought a smile may make her head cave in! LOL...well that and something about a rectal large anthropod that can not be surgically removed for sake of taking away all her personality! LOL!!!!!!!!!!
Naaaaaa...I worked in a hospital when I graduated where this was the norm...and since I was more from the Fire and Paramedic end of medical...well, I was a bit more...ummmm...well, black sheep of nurses locally comes to mind! LOL!
I usually do two things...either I rationalize my actions to the point of nauseum and they never ask or go over me again r/t a long lecture explaining my reasons..LOL! That one works SOOOOOOO well! LOL, or I use light sarcasm to redirect the person into realizing what they did! Trick is...I have this smile that makes people wonder if I am being sarcastic or not...yeah yeah yeah..one of those 0-60 smiley happy sorts! LOL!!!!!!
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Someone did that to me as a new nurse. Said "get up that is my chair". Soooooo I stood up, walked to the back of the chair and said, "I will be damned, I just don't see a plaque with your name on this chair!!!" ----and I proceeded to sit back down and ignore her. Never happened again. We were able to laugh about it when they got to know me. I have an off-the-wall sense of humor like that. It surely defused the tension w/o my getting one bit angry.
(At which point I'd get my coffee and plop down with a magazine and effectively ignore her for MY ten minutes.)
I agree with the OP - there is always a better way of doing it than her reaction but heck - sometimes we ALL reach our limit. I've had situations like that where I've done the "right" thing, and...others where I could have been a bit different.
I don't blame the OP one bit!
(She should be lucky she never met my grandmother - who would have told her to "go s*** in your hat" - her favorite phrase!)
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