Thinking of Leaving my Long Term Job..HELP!

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Hi All,

I have been a long time reader of allnurses, but have never posted until now. I am at a crossroads and need the advice of my peers..more importantly I need the advice of peers that I don't directly affect by the decision I'm weighing.

I have been an employee with the Federal Government for almost two decades. I have good benefits, a good salary, good hours and I love the patients..the veterans that I work with.

However, I find myself discontented and wanting to take a different path. I have been offered a per diem job, and my family would still be comfortable with the money we'd bring home. I would have more time with my son..time I've been putting off for far too long, trying to get to a safe point.

For awhile..the last year especially.. I've struggled...with my 3 hour commute, with the inability to commit my time to my special needs son, with coworkers who I feel don't pull their weight..and moreover aren't spoken to when brought to managements attention. I have trouble sleeping at night, I'm stressed, I'm burnt out.

I've been at my current employer since I was 18..I don't know anything else..but I feel that I'm a strong nurse who would be successful in a variety of areas in nursing. My husband is supportive, we have money saved, and we would be able to be reasonably ok on his salary and my per diem salary.

I have this nagging feeling that I am giving up...but then I fear that I'm really just having trouble with not being "comfortable" anymore in this job that I've always known. Please help!

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Specializes in Neuroscience.

Make a list, look at the reasons you want to take this job.

Family > job

You know the answer to this question.

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Seems to me you would be giving up trouble sleeping at night, stress, and burn out.

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Seems like you have already made up your mind. Ask yourself, on my death bed will I regret not staying longer at a job I'm unhappy at, I'm guessing the answer is no. If spending more time with your son is what's important to you and you can swing it financially, then I say that's the path you should take.

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Specializes in Critical Care; Cardiac; Professional Development.

Usually in these types of situations, the scary/brave choice is the right one. You deserve to see what else is out there. Leave on good terms so you can return if you decide it wasn't worth it.

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Yes I agree..it is SCARY..but also there is I'll admit excitement in there too! Also, as you mentioned I am leaving on a high note..no burnt bridges!

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Specializes in School Nursing, Pediatrics.

GO! Your family needs you and you will be much happier!

Jobs will always be there! This time with your son wont!

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Specializes in Case manager, float pool, and more.

Weigh the benefits vs. burdens for you. Sounds like you already have your answer though.

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