I'm sitting here at 3 a.m., and I cannot sleep. I spoke with my 74 year old father tonight. The news isn't good. He desperately needs to have hip replacement surgery, as he's in so much pain. He has it scheduled for next month, but there is where the problems begin. You see, my father is the primary caregiver for my mother who has moderate to severe Alzheimer's disease. Although they have a woman that is living with them, providing respite care and helping with meal preparation, she is not able (and, understandably willing) to be the 24-hour caregiver for 2-3 weeks while my dad recovers in a rehab facility. So, I sit here asking myself, now what do we do? Do I pull my youngest child out of school for a few weeks while I go across the state to care for mother? Will my employer understand my needing to take off from work for that time period? Am I going to lose my job? Although I'm the youngest child, and my 2 brothers live within walking-distance of my parents, why does this responsiblity always seem to fall on me? It just drives me crazy that I'm the only one with the patience to be with my demented mother--everyone else seems to run the other way when it comes to her care. Believe me, it's not easy taking care of your mother like this. It's not easy having to be the one to bathe her, dress her, take her to the toilet. It tears me up inside to see her like this, but I'm her daughter. What else CAN I do but to care for her? It's so very dark outside right now....I'm praying that the light comes soon.