The kids

madwife2002, BSN, RN · Dec 2, 2006

Hi there, reading your post with interest I also have kids who don't particularly want to move. (The oldest at 10 tells me she is going to move in with her gran!!) We went on holiday to the states recently, looked at houses etc. even the oldest was picking her new room! The kids also liked the pools (community park had waterslides and stuff) it swayed her a little towards moving, but it is a worry, I suppose you can only do your best to prepare them, daughter getting laptop for xmas...can use MSM in the states:icon_biggrin:

They settle in so quick your head spins and they soon have a US accent:lol2:

gods · Dec 5, 2006

Well what can I say, my 12yr old has finally come round to the idear of living in the states. My eldest who is 13yrs old is still adiment that he his not going.

Today I have just got my fingerprints done, I said this to my eldest son, he just glared at me. Maybe has things progress he will start to accept it. I hope so.

apriljan · Dec 6, 2006

My 18yr old came over reluctantly (he was 17 almost 18 at the time). He was very keen to come at the start of the process but 3 years down the line, and a girlfriend he started to change his mind. He could not settle and went back with his dad after a month. His dad planned to go back after a month to sort out things back home, sale of the house etc, which is pending. So my son took the opportunity to go back with him. He didn't really try to settle, we enrolled him in the local school, that was his choice before we left the UK. He went to the school for one day only then said he'd tried it but made his mind up he wasn't going to go again and that he was going back to the UK with his dad. He spent all his time on MSN (sometimes the internet is not such a good thing!)

It really upset us all. He was a real pain in the butt.

However, he has recently changed his mind and wants to come back and has a flight booked on christmas eve.

My husband will hopefully join us soon when the house is sold.

RGN1 · Dec 6, 2006

Oh what a nice Xmas present for you!!! I really hope it all settles down in the New Year.

I also hope things are okay at work for you - I'd love to know how it's all going, what it's like etc - dooooooo spill the beans when you get a chance/feel like it!!

gods · Dec 6, 2006

Apriljan,

I hope this time he gives it a longer try. Keep us posted on how things progress with your son.

Have you any more children?, If so how have they settled?

Greeney · Dec 6, 2006

It sounds really difficult to settle kids who aren't keen to begin with. I hope it all goes well for you.

I was also concerned about continuing education for post 18yr olds in the US, just wanted to know of any Brits experiences of this matter, ie paying for further education, availability of scholarships and grants to non citizens etc, any info gratefully received.

apriljan · Dec 7, 2006

Thanks, I'm hoping things will work out for him this time, but at least it's his decision now to come back. I have a 20 year old daughter, she's back in the UK at uni but lives with her boyfriend. She has permanent residency though, as long as she keeps coming back and forth. She may decide not live in the US permanently in the future, but she has a choice. She is also coming over at christmas with her boyfriend for 2 weeks.

madwife2002, BSN, RN · Dec 8, 2006

My Son went to school when he got here but decided he didnt want to continue with his education. So no college and dead end jobs-sad but he wont listen, so at 19yrs he needs to get on with his life and his decisions.