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The most annoying student

There's this guy in my class who I need to rant about. He's just the worst. He always has to be the center of attention, is loud, and constantly interrupts others. He is a know-it-all and has to be right all the time. Today he disagreed with another student about a test question, and as the debate went on he melted down and yelled "I hate people like you! I hate your ********!" The other student was being surprisingly professional about it.

The thing I hate most that he does, is he dances around me air boxing at my head. Pretending he is an MMA fighter or something. He insults the people of color in the group by trying to suck up to them by "talking like them." It makes me cringe. He calls our professor "yo, teacher!" He comes in and pretends that he is teaching the class and says stupid things to everyone when the professor isn't watching, like "you're fired!" One day I was preparing medications and he whispered in my ear "I can't stand you." I said "what are you doing??" and he laughed and danced away.

He calls all the women "honey" and "sweetie" and is really condescending. He "corrects" people with wrong information and then says "don't worry, you'll get it sweetie." He's currently a CNA and he loves to tell everyone about his "years of experience" and how he is "on a different level than the other students."

He constantly screws up in clinical and blames it on others. He got ripped a new one by the CI for messing up a simple IV drip calculation, and meanwhile he turned around and yelled at one of the other students, saying she was talking and messed him up.

The worst part is this guy is in his forties. I just honestly can't stand him. My program is over in 4 more weeks and I can't wait until I never see this guy's face again. This guy is so bad that I think the world would be a better place if he dropped dead. I don't know if he has ADD or mania or something he needs to be medicated for, or if he is just a terrible person.

If this guy really has all the terrible personality and judgment flaws you've mentioned, your school is doing the profession a disservice in passing him.

classicdame, MSN, EdD

Specializes in Hospital Education Coordinator.

could be a dangerous person. I would not to interact with him. I am sure the CI is aware of the situation and, if he is making the grades and following rules, do not know how he could be failed for being a jerk. He will flub up with a family member or patient and then it will all be over.

He definitely seems to have some type of psychiatric disorder that needs treatment. However, saying that the world would be a better place if he would drop dead is over the top and uncalled for.

I wish I could give you advice on how to deal w/ him better but I'm at loss. I've never heard about anyone else who acts that way.

However, saying that the world would be a better place if he would drop dead is over the top and uncalled for.

I agree, don't wish death on someone...regardless of how annoying and unprofessional they are. Also, why does his age matter?

I agree, don't wish death on someone...regardless of how annoying and unprofessional they are. Also, why does his age matter?

I would guess the OP mentioned it because it's the kind of behavior you'd expect out of an immature 20 year old, and this person should be all grown up by now. Apparently, though....not.

OP, you've gone on this long with this guy in your class, one more month isn't much more to go. OTOH, you might have to see him again if he's hired by the same hospital you are, after graduation!

If he's this much of an idiot, he probably won't last too long anyway. Then he'll be here posting about how he was unfairly fired, everyone was jealous of him, etc etc. Seen that before!

OP, you've gone on this long with this guy in your class, one more month isn't much more to go. OTOH, you might have to see him again if he's hired by the same hospital you are, after graduation!

If he's this much of an idiot, he probably won't last too long anyway. Then he'll be here posting about how he was unfairly fired, everyone was jealous of him, etc etc. Seen that before!

Fortunately for me, I'm planning to move out of state, so there's a much smaller chance I'll end up working with him.

I think you're probably right- in the end he'll do some of this nonsense with a patient or family member and that will be that.

Julie Reyes, DNP, RN

Specializes in pediatrics, occupational health.

He sounds like a scary guy. Like, someone who would end up on the evening news or CNN with some crazy incident. I would consider using pepper spray if he got in my personal space! haha!

JBudd, MSN

Specializes in Trauma, Teaching.

Try addressing the behavior: if he whispers to you, say loudly enough for others to hear, "please don't ever whisper insults to me again". If he calls you anything unprofessional, again say loudly, "please do not ever call me that again". If it continues, then write a letter to your program detailing the behavior continuing despite your asking it to stop. Be professional, own your own statements ("I am uncomfortable and feel harassed when he does this". Be specific and use quotes.

If things are as out of control as you describe, you may be sure the faculty is aware of it. What they are doing about it behind closed doors is private, you should not as a student be aware of it, but that doesn't mean they aren't doing anything about it.

Don't worry, every class has it's a-hole. He'll get what's coming to him when he gets to clinicals. I would suggest moving seats elsewhere to get away from him if possible. If it becomes too much, you can always talk to your professor about it. Some of what youj said sounds like borderline harrassment.

Wow - this is horrible - as I read this I pictured a young punk with a foe hawk and then I got to the end.

He is 40? That is really disturbing behavior and I am surprised he has made it this far in the profession and in life in general.

The universe seems to have a way of dealing with people like this. So just cross your fingers and wait.

NurseGirl525, ASN, RN

Specializes in ICU.

We have a guy kind of like that but not as bad and seriously, everyone hates him. He is always late and is never prepared and expects everyone else to do his work for him. Thank goodness he is not in my clinical group. I would probably kill him. He was in one of my classes last semester and was such a jerk. I warned several people in my class about him and they all thought he was funny in the beginning. Now they realize what a jerk he is and no one can stand him. He's on strike 2 in the program. He called on of our instructors a witch but another word and has been in the head instructor's office complaining since the start of the semester. I'm honestly hoping he fails out. He takes up lecture time with his useless comments and questions that have nothing to do with what we are talking about. I just don't want to deal with him next semester. You will have one in every class though and they never seem to go away.

Nah, I totally lost it when you said he was in his forties...what the heck?? You need to stay away from him. Also, I am honestly surprised no higher ups have noticed his behavior. Have you told anyone? If not, I would suggest you do so. But be careful not to complain about him to others in your program, go straight to a higher up so things don't get messy. I would suggest you report him ASAP but if you want/can wait until your program is over, definitely say something. Please don't stay quiet about it. By reporting him you increase the chance that someone else doesn't need to work with him in the future.

He sounds very annoying, I agree. Take this as an opportunity to hone your skills in dealing with inappropriate people. You'll encounter irritating people in your career as well.

JBudd gives sound advise. Document these inappropriate instances. Your fellow students should as well. Some of what you describe is just social ineptitude, but others sound like harassment. Learn to handle this type of stuff professionally, without wishing for this poor fellow to drop dead.

LPN709

Specializes in LTC.

I agree, all of the previous posters have very good advice. I understand exactly how you feel, we have a girl in one of my classes that is loud and obnoxious as well. She constantly is talking over the teacher and throughout the entire class period. Just reading your post made me feel very irritated in your honor! Its crazy how some people act :facepalm: But, like was previously stated, this guy sounds dangerous so you should get away from him as quickly as possible!

SeattleJess

Specializes in None yet..

Try addressing the behavior: if he whispers to you, say loudly enough for others to hear, "please don't ever whisper insults to me again". If he calls you anything unprofessional, again say loudly, "please do not ever call me that again". If it continues, then write a letter to your program detailing the behavior continuing despite your asking it to stop. Be professional, own your own statements ("I am uncomfortable and feel harassed when he does this". Be specific and use quotes.

If things are as out of control as you describe, you may be sure the faculty is aware of it. What they are doing about it behind closed doors is private, you should not as a student be aware of it, but that doesn't mean they aren't doing anything about it.

I agree, you absolutely must address the behavior. It's hard, I know. Just know that it will be so useful to you in your professional life. My experience as a CNA and the stories I read on allnurses and hear from my instructors where make me believe that it's just not reasonable to think we won't encounter all kinds of obnoxious, jerky behavior. You could just be passive and try to wait him out, but what will you do when the next human tromples you? If you aren't sure about how to be assertive with this guy, talk to one of your instructors for advice.

I'm so grateful that my program has a communications course with a lab where we address topics like this. It's got to be the toughest thing to learn about being a nurse. Wishing you the best. It's a tough situation but nurses are made for tough, right?

Thanks for the advice, guys. Update: today we were in clinical, and for the third week the clinical instructor got irritated with him for making a stupid mistake with a patient (because he was busy like always talking too much and being nosy about everyone else). Well, apparently today was the last straw for her, because she lectured him on his behavior in front of the class and he almost cried (seriously, you're going to cry in front of everyone?) She told him that it's up to her whether he passes or not and she doesn't like what she sees. He tried to blame everyone else, but she wasn't having it.

This guy already failed a class previously for plagiarism ( I couldn't believe he didn't get kicked out), so if he fails another class, he's out of the program. I can't say I'll be sorry.

I just can't get over that this guy is middle aged and this is the best he can do.

PMFB-RN, BSN, RN

Specializes in burn ICU, SICU, ER, Traum Rapid Response.

Sounds like upper nursing managment potential there. Seriously in some of the hospitals I have worked in he would be headed strait to the top. Can also see him eventualy getting high up in the ANA.

OneDuckyRN

Specializes in ICU.

We had someone like this, although not quite as obnoxious, in my cohort. She basically passed classes and clinical by the skin of her teeth, until the very last class. She was frequently late or cutting it very close with assignments, blaming everyone else for her short-sightedness. She blamed one of our classmates for "ratting her out" to a clinical instructor when she chose to have the classmate drive her car so she could do her paperwork on the drive to clinical one day (we had about a 90-mile drive), even though she'd had an entire week to get it done. There's a long backstory here that I won't go into, but she ended up getting chewed out for it because she was STILL working on it when the instructor walked in. She tried really hard to blame it on the other girl. Nobody bought it.

Long story short, this girl ended up failing out of our last class in the program ON THE LAST DAY OF CLINICAL. And since it was her second time failing out, she cannot be admitted to this particular program again. I have run into her on occasion because we work for the same facility, and right after graduation she had all kinds of excuses of how it wasn't her fault, the instructors were out to get her, WE were all out to get her, and so on.

I really have no patience for people like this! So my point, OP, is that even though you're only 4 weeks away from being finished, there's still a decent chance that your annoying classmate could end up not graduating with you!

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Jen_Loves_Nursing

Specializes in ICU/ER, Maternal, Psych.

I agree, don't wish death on someone...regardless of how annoying and unprofessional they are. Also, why does his age matter?

Initially, I thought he was a young guy by his immature action (by reading the text oh course) to hear that he is in his 40s, he should be one of the students who is an leader by example because of his "years of experience"... in the medical field and otherwise. His maturity is clearly lacking.

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