Hi all, I am wondering if anyone has taken a break from this site and come back to it, and if so why? How long did you stay away, and did you come back "refreshed?" I've been on much more than usual during shelter in place. I previously logged on a few times a month, to ask a question, see what's new, and answer questions. I've always appreciated the answers and feedback I've gotten, and as I gained more experience I enjoyed answering questions from new grads and hoping I helped.
Lately I've found the site triggering, especially the recent thread after the Derek Chauvin verdict (thread now closed). It hurts me that there are nurses who believe racism is over or "black people are racist for having their own, exclusively black organizations." I tried to explain these organizations were created because black people were excluded from all organizations, and to promote civil rights. It scares me there are nurses who think like this, and I wonder how they treat their black pts. There are statistics about black people receiving worse care, less pain meds, etc.
I saw this when a pt was having chest pain but nothing showed on the ekg so resident labeled her drug seeking, didn't call cardiologist. Turns out she was having ischemia to the back wall of her heart which doesn't show on ekg. She died. Cardiologist was livid. I knew her for 4 years and it hit me hard. Also, there have been posts about people in mental health crises. I give my advice based on my experience w/ bipolar, but they come back and make the same posts and it scares me. Maybe I'm too sensitive and need to realize I don't even know these people, but I feel I need to take a break for my own mental health, as it exacerbates my bipolar and makes me more scared about my black in-laws and friends. There have been more killings of black people arrested for traffic stops, air freshener in their window, etc. I don't understand how people can't notice the pattern of black people being pulled over for nothing, then ending up dead, or someone like Breonna Taylor shot while sleeping, completely innocent of any crime. It makes me cry to read that people don't care and think it's "overrepresented in the media." There is hard data showing it's not. Any advice? It seems hard to avoid threads w/ triggering topics, because threads start about one thing and take sharp turns to end up talking about other topics. thanks. ❤️
That makes sense. Other than initiating conversations with my partner who is black, I wait for my friends of color to bring up race and injustice, in case they don't feel like talking about it. They have said sometimes it is difficult to talk to white friends no matter if the white friends agree with their opinions, because they end up having to explain and educate, and sometimes deal with "white fragility" of white friends getting defensive and feeling they are accused of being racist if a person of color brings up something they said that offended them or brings up white people being racist in general. They have to hear a "not all white people" and "I'm not racist" speech, and reassure their white friends when THEY are the ones who need support.
I like that.
If you approach the subject with the foolish superiority that you can relate or understand because your next door neighbor is black or that the Filipino owner of Jolibee knows you by your first name. Don't speak. Ask don't imply that you know.
If someone doesn't want to get into it. No problem. Maybe the next time or someone else will. Just don't pull out the superiority card and get all insulted when someone doesn't want to give a you a lesson on race relations.
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5 hours ago, DesiDani said:
Me jokingly asking my filipino coworker if she cooked this pansit for the potluck.
Her "Heck no. Went to Jolibee to pick it up. I don't cook."
Jolibee is legit really good LOL there is one here in SF. I'll go introduce myself to the manager. And I'll make sure to give him a 10 min speech about how much I love Filipinos and how I have many Filipino coworkers, and then say all the Tagalog phrases I know. "Good morning! Would you like to walk? Would you like to eat? Would you like to pee? Good afternoon!" awesome conversation ?
Jolibee is legit really good LOL there is one here in SF. I'll go introduce myself to the manager. And I'll make sure to give him a 10 min speech about how much I love Filipinos and how I have many Filipino coworkers, and then say all the Tagalog phrases I know. "Good morning! Would you like to walk? Would you like to eat? Would you like to pee? Good afternoon!" awesome conversation ?
Jolibee is legit really good LOL there is one here in SF. I'll go introduce myself to the manager. And I'll make sure to give him a 10 min speech about how much I love Filipinos and how I have many Filipino coworkers, and then say all the Tagalog phrases I know. "Good morning! Would you like to walk? Would you like to eat? Would you like to pee? Good afternoon!" awesome conversation ?
DesiDani
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I like that.
If you approach the subject with the foolish superiority that you can relate or understand because your next door neighbor is black or that the Filipino owner of Jolibee knows you by your first name. Don't speak. Ask don't imply that you know.
If someone doesn't want to get into it. No problem. Maybe the next time or someone else will. Just don't pull out the superiority card and get all insulted when someone doesn't want to give a you a lesson on race relations.