My ex and I have been seperated for about a year and a half, divorced since sept. He is currently living out of state. He is the father of my 10 yo and my 4 yo and he claims my other dd as his own.
Last night I got a call from a girl in the state he is living in, apparently my phone number showed up on her cell bill.
She wanted to know if I was related to him, and I said well sort of Im his ex wife.
Once I realized that this sounded bad for him (like he was calling to caht with his ex) I said He just calls here to talk to his kids.
LOL, this poor girl said "HE HAS KIDS!?!?"
Basically he has ben seeing this girl for 5 months and told her he had never been married (were married 5 yrs.) and that he had no children, she has children of her own.
I just said "oh honey you will get used to the lying if you spend much time with him"
He is a nice guy, and I thought he was a great father, he does have a serious issue with the truth, he only lies if his lips are moving. I really do believe it is a compulsion, he lies about things that are so totaly unimportant, for instance he told this girl he has 3 german shepherds, Okay *I* ended up with his ONE AND ONLY GSD when he left, he also told her he got the dogs from germany LOL.
She told me that at xmas when he was in he had the kids in the car with him and was talking to her on the cell and she asked who the kids were and he told her the correct ages and names but said they were his little cousins. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.
I promised her I would let her get to him first, what do you think I should say to him? I am PIZZED that he would deny his kids.
I was thinking along the lines of when he calls and asks to speak to the kids saying something like "what kids, do you mean your little cousins?" OR do you think I should just jump right in and let him have it?
