am so upset and have no one to vent to. :cry:I've been working at a hospital for 6 months now and we have an interim manager on the floor who can be a bit high strung. The other day I got spoken to from another manager on another floor who is also covering (I have never interacted with her before) and I am fairly certain it is because the interim manager went to her.
The meeting started off by her saying that there were concerns about my practice on the floor and if they were safe. After that I was somewhat speechless. She proceeded with a list of things that happened lord knows when and an incident that just happened. She said she was going to work on a professional development plan for me because I ask too many questions for such a busy floor.
I had a very hard time processing this (they took me off the floor at noon to discuss). I have never been spoken to previously and now that I have had time to process, I am feeling like I was thrown under the bus. Not one thing that was mentioned was unsafe. From the way the meeting went, I think the manager on my floor thinks that my asking questions about certain procedures means that I am not "getting it". I am not sure how to proceed...and I am feeling a bit uneasy about asking any questions of my colleagues and also feel like if someone had an issue, they should have approached me first. I also feel like they were stretching it abit (one of the commments was that I called a doctor for a diet order when there was one..I mean, c'mon..I didn't know I was supposed to be perfect)
If my manager came at me with a list of complaints I'd be asking them why they have chosen to come to me now rather than after these 'incidents occurred'. I really do think this is a form of bullying, to make you lose your confidence because you've been told you've done all these things wrong at once. Sounds like an ambush to me.
And if she tells you that all these things you've done 'wrong' mean that you are unsafe then maybe ask her what strategies she has done in the meantime to maintain patient safety if she is so concerned. Keep putting it back onto her.
Oh and I agree, look for another position in the meantime. They don't sound very supportive at all.
What you say concerns me because it is the ones that DO NOT ask a lot of questions are the ones they should be worrying about.
Thank you!! That was my point exactly!! I've been nursing for more than 17 yrs and in that time, I have asked a lot of questions, and if I make someone mad by asking them, that is their problem. And the ones who dont ask are the most dangerous ones at times.
Specializes in cardiac rehab, medical/tele, psychiatric.
Thanks for your advice. There were no dates, just information received "3rd hand" (this is what was said in meeting). I did my best to give my point of view, but there were instances, such as the doctors order, that I couldn't speak to because it was never brought to my attention. There was one incident that occurred that morning about an order and I asked a colleague, who agreed that it didn't look right. Apparently this was over heard by the interim manager because this was also brought up..I was told that "these are basic nursing skills". After the meeting I approached the person I had asked and apologized, thinking that maybe I had bothered her. She said I didn't need to, that the question was valid. Later she told me that she was taken aside and was told that should have responded "well, what do you think." So part of my concern is that it's someones perception or bias towards me that is really blowing things out of proportion. (sorry, venting again!)
and if anyone uses that line "what do you think" on me i just about blow a gasket......because i dont ask till i have exhausted my own thought process...to come to a conclusion, i dont need/want that reflective....nonsense
Specializes in Community Health, Med-Surg, Home Health.
Okay, so, you ask too many questions for a busy floor and they are questioning if you are safe?? I would be more worried about the arrogant person who doesn't ask questions at all, does what they want and risk patient safety! Sometimes, reading these things give me headaches, because nursing is so condradictory when you compare to school, who encourage you to ask to the real world, who really don't want to help you.
Specializes in cardiac rehab, medical/tele, psychiatric.
Okay, so, you ask too many questions for a busy floor and they are questioning if you are safe?? I would be more worried about the arrogant person who doesn't ask questions at all, does what they want and risk patient safety! Sometimes, reading these things give me headaches, because nursing is so condradictory when you compare to school, who encourage you to ask to the real world, who really don't want to help you.
I know..they say they want you to ask questions, or to let them know if you need anything; then it comes back to bite ya in the butt.
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If my manager came at me with a list of complaints I'd be asking them why they have chosen to come to me now rather than after these 'incidents occurred'. I really do think this is a form of bullying, to make you lose your confidence because you've been told you've done all these things wrong at once. Sounds like an ambush to me.
And if she tells you that all these things you've done 'wrong' mean that you are unsafe then maybe ask her what strategies she has done in the meantime to maintain patient safety if she is so concerned. Keep putting it back onto her.
Oh and I agree, look for another position in the meantime. They don't sound very supportive at all.