We've had a few threads recently about whether or not it's acceptable to date patients. (former patients, hopefully )
My question is regarding an RN and a doctor. I met a doctor for the first time on Friday and I can't stop thinking about him. It's embarrassing, really. He and I had several conversations regarding a patient for whom he had been consulted. He is a heme/oncology resident, and my pt had been diagnosed with lymphoma. He's new to our facility, and he's a wonderful, caring doctor with an obvious passion for his work and the patients he cares for.
Our conversations began with the patient, and ended on a more personal level. We talked about our ages, (he's 7 years my junior), kids, both of us being single, etc etc. I'm not kidding you when I tell you that at one point during one conversation, I felt the incredible urge to lean over and kiss him, full on! I've never felt this way about anyone.
Would it be wrong for me to DO something like ask him out for a drink? I don't know how to handle this, I just know that I won't be seeing him much as we don't often have reason to consult his team on my PCU. I really don't want to be rejected, but I get the feeling that I wouldn't be. I wonder if he's thinking the same thing... I just don't know, and I'd hate to think that I allowed this "opportunity" for what could be a fantastic relationship to go nowhere if I do nothing.
Well, I for one am ready to hang up my ballerina shoes.
He calls. I call. We are both working adults. This just seems a disjointed way to start a new relationship. Trying to coordinate schedules and be respectful of his need for sleep is putting this budding relationship on the skids.
I am ready to move into a more serious style of dating. Something that leads to two rocking chairs on the front porch and sunday dinners with the grandkids. I'm no longer attracted to the bad boy, the drunk or the scrooge. I want a genuine nice guy who is as happy to see me as I am to see him. Maybe I am expecting too much. We seemed to have such a chemistry and now it seems to have fizzled.
I would look outside the healthcare field, but I want someone who shares my love of taking care of people. I seldom have in the past even given the guys where I work a second look. This was a complete fluke, and I have enjoyed it. It's just too bad it isn't going anywhere.
whimsie,
does he seem more interested in a friendship? i'm asking because, the guy is willing to call you. it sounds like he may be interested just cautious.
dh and i were separated for 3 months at the start of our relationship. we sent cards back and forth. we also talked on the phone when we could afford it.
and there is e-mail. nice notes back and forth can give each of you a look into the other's soul to see whether you both want to "date."
I've been waiting on pins and needles too!! I asked my crush out last weekend, he agreed, and then we went out to lunch on Sunday. But haven't heard from him since. Stupid boys....
Ok it's Friday (again), dying to know what has happened. Did he call you today? I hope so
Ugh, I am so glad I'm not dating anymore. I hated waiting for "the phone call." I was only slightly rejected by one man in my entire life. He didn't call when he said he would, he was always aloof etc... I thought, he just isn't into me, but he kept sending mixed signals. One day he was all lovey dovey and I wouldn't hear from him the next day. Finally I got fed up, emailed him and told him to never come around again. I said I was tired of the high school games. That night he called, of course I answered:uhoh3:, and he's been different ever since and guess what...we got married and have been married 5 years now. LOL I guess girls aren't the only ones who play hard to get.
Specializes in ub-Acute/LTC, Home Health, L&D, Peds.
My fiend and I have been following this thread for weeks now. We are very dissapointed that there are no updates!!! Please let us know!! :)
I know me too. I have a feeling he didn't call and there may be some embarassment. I hope that is not the case though for her sake! She probably is too good for him anyway Men or should I say boys
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whimsie,
does he seem more interested in a friendship? i'm asking because, the guy is willing to call you. it sounds like he may be interested just cautious.
dh and i were separated for 3 months at the start of our relationship. we sent cards back and forth. we also talked on the phone when we could afford it.
and there is e-mail. nice notes back and forth can give each of you a look into the other's soul to see whether you both want to "date."
so far, what you are writing looks good to me.