We've had a few threads recently about whether or not it's acceptable to date patients. (former patients, hopefully )
My question is regarding an RN and a doctor. I met a doctor for the first time on Friday and I can't stop thinking about him. It's embarrassing, really. He and I had several conversations regarding a patient for whom he had been consulted. He is a heme/oncology resident, and my pt had been diagnosed with lymphoma. He's new to our facility, and he's a wonderful, caring doctor with an obvious passion for his work and the patients he cares for.
Our conversations began with the patient, and ended on a more personal level. We talked about our ages, (he's 7 years my junior), kids, both of us being single, etc etc. I'm not kidding you when I tell you that at one point during one conversation, I felt the incredible urge to lean over and kiss him, full on! I've never felt this way about anyone.
Would it be wrong for me to DO something like ask him out for a drink? I don't know how to handle this, I just know that I won't be seeing him much as we don't often have reason to consult his team on my PCU. I really don't want to be rejected, but I get the feeling that I wouldn't be. I wonder if he's thinking the same thing... I just don't know, and I'd hate to think that I allowed this "opportunity" for what could be a fantastic relationship to go nowhere if I do nothing.
I know me too. I have a feeling he didn't call and there may be some embarassment. I hope that is not the case though for her sake! She probably is too good for him anyway Men or should I say boys
*sigh*
He didn't call. And I haven't seen him since. Like I said, he's not normally a team we have on our unit, so unless/until we get another heme/onc consult, I doubt I'll run into him.
I'm certainly not going to lose sleep over this, although I really think it we hit it off and would have at least had a friendship. I also think it may have been a cultural thing. He might not be used to American women making that first move. His loss, I say! :)
I'm not embarrassed though. I'd do the same thing again if I felt that sort of chemistry. I'm certainly not looking for a white coat, I'm talking wherever/whenever it may happen.
So sorry there won't be any invites any time soon though.
i'm so sorry! i was so excited for you!!! keep your spirits up, you'll run into someone else when you least expect to. thanks for the updates, it's a fun thread
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*sigh*
He didn't call. And I haven't seen him since. Like I said, he's not normally a team we have on our unit, so unless/until we get another heme/onc consult, I doubt I'll run into him.
I'm certainly not going to lose sleep over this, although I really think it we hit it off and would have at least had a friendship. I also think it may have been a cultural thing. He might not be used to American women making that first move. His loss, I say! :)
I'm not embarrassed though. I'd do the same thing again if I felt that sort of chemistry. I'm certainly not looking for a white coat, I'm talking wherever/whenever it may happen.
So sorry there won't be any invites any time soon though.
Thanks for letting us know. I agree if you feel a chemistry with someone you should try to see where it will lead! Good luck and I know you will find the right one!! Take care.
Aww, man. I forced myself to read every single post before I went to the end. I sure was hoping he would call. Kudos to you, it took guts to ask him out. I was just talking to a single girlfriend at work tonight and it really makes me appreciate my loving husband. I really got a good one and I guess I don't let him know how much he means to me enough. Your guy is out there waiting to find you, hon. I just know it.
Love this thread. Sometimes I miss the excitement of dating...
Leslasic, I'm glad you don't feel embarrassed that he didn't call. You were the brave one, put yourself out there and took a chance by calling someone you had an interest in. You won't be left wondering "what if..."
We've had a few threads recently about whether or not it's acceptable to date patients. (former patients, hopefully )
My question is regarding an RN and a doctor. I met a doctor for the first time on Friday and I can't stop thinking about him. It's embarrassing, really. He and I had several conversations regarding a patient for whom he had been consulted. He is a heme/oncology resident, and my pt had been diagnosed with lymphoma. He's new to our facility, and he's a wonderful, caring doctor with an obvious passion for his work and the patients he cares for.
Our conversations began with the patient, and ended on a more personal level. We talked about our ages, (he's 7 years my junior), kids, both of us being single, etc etc. I'm not kidding you when I tell you that at one point during one conversation, I felt the incredible urge to lean over and kiss him, full on! I've never felt this way about anyone.
Would it be wrong for me to DO something like ask him out for a drink? I don't know how to handle this, I just know that I won't be seeing him much as we don't often have reason to consult his team on my PCU. I really don't want to be rejected, but I get the feeling that I wouldn't be. I wonder if he's thinking the same thing... I just don't know, and I'd hate to think that I allowed this "opportunity" for what could be a fantastic relationship to go nowhere if I do nothing.
AM I CRAZY??
dont see nothing wrong - as long as your not married lol - both of you that is - have seen nurse / dr fall in love and 2 families split- im sure there was more but heck cuold have waited to split first instead of being fouind in the parking lot making love not to their own spouses yikes! - lol.
never mind, i met a fellow nurse for a drink recently which took 2 weeks to organise due to conflicting rosters and even then just a quick one cos they had work early
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Coffee and a yack some where sounds a nice way to start!
GeminiTwinRN, BSN
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*sigh*
He didn't call. And I haven't seen him since. Like I said, he's not normally a team we have on our unit, so unless/until we get another heme/onc consult, I doubt I'll run into him.
I'm certainly not going to lose sleep over this, although I really think it we hit it off and would have at least had a friendship. I also think it may have been a cultural thing. He might not be used to American women making that first move. His loss, I say! :)
I'm not embarrassed though. I'd do the same thing again if I felt that sort of chemistry. I'm certainly not looking for a white coat, I'm talking wherever/whenever it may happen.
So sorry there won't be any invites any time soon though.