We've had a few threads recently about whether or not it's acceptable to date patients. (former patients, hopefully )
My question is regarding an RN and a doctor. I met a doctor for the first time on Friday and I can't stop thinking about him. It's embarrassing, really. He and I had several conversations regarding a patient for whom he had been consulted. He is a heme/oncology resident, and my pt had been diagnosed with lymphoma. He's new to our facility, and he's a wonderful, caring doctor with an obvious passion for his work and the patients he cares for.
Our conversations began with the patient, and ended on a more personal level. We talked about our ages, (he's 7 years my junior), kids, both of us being single, etc etc. I'm not kidding you when I tell you that at one point during one conversation, I felt the incredible urge to lean over and kiss him, full on! I've never felt this way about anyone.
Would it be wrong for me to DO something like ask him out for a drink? I don't know how to handle this, I just know that I won't be seeing him much as we don't often have reason to consult his team on my PCU. I really don't want to be rejected, but I get the feeling that I wouldn't be. I wonder if he's thinking the same thing... I just don't know, and I'd hate to think that I allowed this "opportunity" for what could be a fantastic relationship to go nowhere if I do nothing.
Ok, so I got up the nerve at around 2045 to page the doc. He called right back, I'm sure expecting some doctoring related question. HAHA!
I forgot my "line", so I just came out and asked him if he was on call tonight. He said he was, and I said "that's too bad"! He said "why, what's wrong?" I said, "oh, I am leaving the hospital soon, and I was wondering if you'd like to go have a drink tonight." He replied by telling me that he is on call this week, but not NEXT WEEK! He said we'd get together next week while he's off call.
I was breathless! My heart was pounding a million miles an hour, and I just said "well, you know where to find me..". I don't even remember what he said after that!!!
Ahhh. So now it's a wait and see game. If he doesn't get in touch with me, I'll have to try the "consult" routine to see if that'll work. I just hope he follows up with me so I don't have to remind him.
Again, he doesn't have much call to be on my floor, so it just might take me reminding him. Would that be a bad thing?
Yay!!! I love this!! so exciting for the married folks to get a little peek into dating life again. Good luck!!!
He may not be comfortable having your other co-workers know that you are dating (peer pressure and all that stuff). Check out his reaction the next time its just the two of you, at breakfast or doing something that has nothing to do with work.
So I've been in critical care class all this week and haven't been working on the floor. The doc in question had said he would be off call this week, but since I haven't been on the floor at all, I finally got up the guts to call him just now!!! AAAAACK!
I paged him from my home phone number, and he called right back. I told him who I was (since it wasn't a number he would recognize from the hospital), and told him that since I hadn't been on the floor I didn't know if he had tried to come and see me or call. He said that he has visitors in from out of state this weekend, and then we talked about our schedules for next week. He said he'd call me next week on Friday. So, it's another wait and see. If he doesn't call me or come by next Friday, I definitely won't be calling him again. I'm going to have to assume he isn't interested at that point. Based on his inquiring about my schedule next week, I'm hoping that he is interested, but maybe he's just being nice... ?
Wishie, I'm sorry your guy is being standoffish at this point. I agree with the possibility that because you actually are co-workers that maybe that's the reason. Who knows. It sure sounded promising though. Maybe he's just thinking it over. I'm betting he'll come around and all will be well!
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Wow, I miss being on here a couple of days and almost missed this great thread!!
Congrats leslasic. Hope all goes well with you! What a great "fairy tale" this could turn out to be!!
Whimsie, way to go, girl!!
Can't wait to see how it goes for both of you!
Congrats again~