So I might not get to start nursing school afterall...

[mamayogibear]

So I have finally been accepted into a program that I can afford. But now I am faced with a issue about child care. While struggling to do my prereqs I worked part time and took out loans to pay daycare for my daughter. I do not qualify for state funding because my ex wont get his car out of my name and would not watch her so I had to get a loan to pay daycare. He had been saying all summer he would watch the kids (we now have two) while I am in school and working part time. Well yesterday he told me he is not going to watch his kids while I go to school because it will not be worth it money wise! He works from home as a computer programmer and web designer so his schedule is totally open! My classes start Monday and I have no clue what I am going to do.

I have talked to the school financial aid office and tried to figure out additional funding for daycare but since I now have two kids there is no way to get a loan big enough to cover the cost. In one year our oldest will be in pre school then I could afford to send the baby to daycare with loan money. I have called DSHS and they will not help with daycare funding unless he gets his cars out of my name, he now has several of them.

I can't believe I am on this public form at four in the morning asking for help on how to get daycare paid for for my kids. If I don't figure out something by Monday I am going to have to drop the program since if you don't show up the first day your spot goes to someone on the waitlist. The school only admits once a year so it's not like I can deffer until January. There are a few schools in my state that have classes that start Winter term but the only community college is a lottery where only 25 out of hundreds of applications get in!

I think my only options is to move back to Cali and live with my parents and try to go to Cal State Fresno or Stanislaus State or one of the community colleges in between the two. Because then my folks would watch my kids for free. But I'm almost thirty years old and have not lived with my parents since I was a teenager so I would feel really silly reverting to that.

:heartbeatall of you for reading my four am can't sleep because I'm panicking vent!

[Dre2416, BSN, RN]

Any updates here? Did you start NS?

[Nurse SMS, MSN, RN]

Why not just go LOOK at the cars and get the VIN off the windshield posting and the license plate numbers that way? If he parks them in the garage, stalk him until he goes out and parks somewhere and then get the information that way. If he parks them on the street or the driveway there is no reason for him to even know you are there.

Obviously it is too late to solve this now and I hope you found a solution. But never give away your power. You sound like he has you pretty snowed. You are not helpless here.

I wish you the best of luck and hope you found a way to start school.

[dudette10, MSN, RN]

Thanks for the advice everyone I was super stressed when I posted this at four am after not sleeping because of stress. I will file for child support but I don't know if it'll do any good because of the cars being an 'asset'. Hopefully if I go to the DOL they will help me figure out how to sign the cars over to him without any paperwork. That's my plan for the day. Thanks again everyone, I really love all the kindness here on all nurses:yeah:

Hold it. You are not thinking rationally here. DO NOT do anything like signing away assets that can be worth thousands without a penny in return without talking to someone who can help you sort out this mess!

Here's what I've gotten/assumed so far:

--you were never married to the father of the kids

--you no longer live together, but you are the primary parent for the kids

--you don't have a legal custody arrangement

--you have never filed for child support

--you have multiple cars in your name that are driven by and garaged at your ex's residence

TALK TO A LAWYER!

ETA: I just realized this was posted in September. Oops. I want an update!

Did she give away cars to a guy who won't take care of his own kids and is still not paying a dime to help raise them?

News at 11.

[AliF]

Yeah, those cars are yours. They're titled in your name, you own them. Congrats!!!

Your ex is a jerk, and he's screwing you. Those kids are his too- it's not baby sitting, it's called PARENTING.

I'd love an update. I hope you were able to go to school.