small temper

Editorial Team / Admin · Aug 13, 2005

I read these post about Nursing students getting yelled at by other nurses and that to me seems a little out there. I don't like it when someone yells at me, I take offense to that and I would probaly bark back. I know who to respect and who should respect me.
How would you handle the situation if someone came screaming at you?
would you think that was appropriate?
would you tell someone higher up?
Would you bark back? :argue:

Appropriate?..........Never, unless you were doing something that was killing someone and the scream could save that person's life

Tell someone higher up? ...........maybe, if I could not settle it on my own

Bark back?............NEVER, just not professional and you allow yourself to be down on their level

You just have to learn to be professional regarding all confrontations.

Catys_With_Me · Aug 13, 2005

If, as a student, I had a nurse screaming at me I would calmly try to explain my side of whatever they were upset about. If they were not interested in hearing anything I had to say then I would just shut up and take what they felt they needed to dish out. After they'd verbally beat me to a pulp I would walk away and inform my instructor of what was going on. Then I would go out and buy a 'Mean People Suck' bumper sticker and slap it on my clinical clipboard.

SoulShine75 · Aug 13, 2005

Then I would go out and buy a 'Mean People Suck' bumper sticker and slap it on my clinical clipboard.

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

NZstudentnurse · Aug 13, 2005

I agree with Siri.

It is not nice to be spoken to like that, patronised etc.

It would definitely depend on the situation. Sometimes its just not worth trying to justify yourself. If someone was screaming at you its probably them with the problem not you!

bluesky, BSN, RN · Aug 13, 2005

Whatever you would do, I suggest that you practice your plan, because I assure you this situation will happen. :stone :chuckle

renerian, BSN, RN · Aug 13, 2005

I read you post and laughed to myself. I think having had 5 children/4 still home..college etc, I have been yelled at alot.

I just say to them and anyone:

You don't need to yell

I am right here and certainly not deaf (well I am close to it)

Come back when your calm

Count to 10 and come back

I am not your child so stop yelling at me

Do you feel better now

etc.

Barking back makes it worse and your the bigger person and people watch your reactions and admire a person with control

Signs of a good leader.....

renerian

Tweety, BSN, RN · Aug 13, 2005

I don't talk to anyone screaming at me. I would simply turn around.

I think however when people say things like "the nurse was yelling at me", they are exaggerating. A couple of times, I've asked for clarification...."was the nurse really yelling/screaming at you...". The answer usually is "well no, not exactly yelling, but.....".

Screaming is completely totally unprofressional and unacceptable to me. I would walk away and seriously consider reporting him/her up the chain of command.

**RosesrReder, BSN, MSN, RN** · Aug 13, 2005

Appropriate?..........Never, unless you were doing something that was killing someone and the scream could save that person's life
Tell someone higher up? ...........maybe, if I could not settle it on my own
Bark back?............NEVER, just not professional and you allow yourself to be down on their level
You just have to learn to be professional regarding all confrontations.

I would have to agree with Iris. :)

leopold · Aug 13, 2005

I think if you are a student and the nurse on site yells at you it's probably best to keep your mouth shut and then report it to your instructor. Schools are very picky about how students behave on clinical sites cause they are hard to come by and they don't want to mess up their relations with the staff. The reason to report it to the instructor is so that she/he can hear your side of the story before hearing it from someone else and get mad at you.

schoolgirl05 · Aug 13, 2005

That has not happened to me and I am done with my clincals on the hospital floor. So the poster that said it would definitely happen is wrong. At least as a student.

If it DID happen though I would make absolutely sure that they were YELLING and if so, I would inform my instructor.

If they were just being bitchy I usually try and let them know I am not an idiot but still let them know I have a lot to learn from them and I would LOVE to learn from them. It makes them feel special and they usually soften up and then you end up learning from them.. Everyone knows a hostile enviornment is not a good learning enviornment so sometimes it is up to the student to set the enviornment. If I did something wrong, I would immediately apologize and fix it. I learned this technique from being married. hahaha.. I also ask people if they are having a bad day when they are being bitchy. Sometimes they dont realize they are acting that way until someone points it out. I don't come right out and say "you are being a snot!" i say things like "You seem very stressed out. Has it been hectic in here all day?"

I would NEVER yell at another adult. I RARELY yell at my children. There are more effective ways of communicating than yelling. In a work enviornment it is completely Unprofessional and I take professionalism seriously.

Tweety, BSN, RN · Aug 13, 2005

That has not happened to me and I am done with my clincals on the hospital floor. So the poster that said it would definitely happen is wrong. At least as a student.

I can say for sure no one screamed at me during nursing school. In fact, I'm trying to come up with an example of someone screaming at me in the last 14 years and I can't think of a time.

I've had many heated conversations with both patients, coworkers, and even a doctor or two but no yelling or screaming. Guess I'm lucky. :chuckle