Should I stay or should I go?

elizabells, BSN, RN · Oct 15, 2007

You sound like you may be depressed, love. Sleeping that much can be a sign. I don't know what to say about the job, except that your boss' offer sounds so nebulous. But it's hard to make good decisions when depression is on the table, so I might get that checked out first.

Good luck.

jojotoo, RN · Oct 15, 2007

How long have you been told that "you're being groomed for something bigger/ better"? If it's been more that six months, I'd move on.

If you're working five days a week, then I assume those are eight hour shifts. And if you're going to sleep at 6-7 PM, that means you're sleeping almost 12 hours a day. That may be a sign of depression. So even if you're being groomed for something better, it may be in your best interests to look elsewhere. There's a lot to choose from out there. Good luck.

leslie :-D · Oct 15, 2007

i'm sorry, it just doesn't sound worth it.

going to sleep at 6/7:00, and being filled w/anxiety...

unless someone can be more specific about their plans for you, and given a time frame (providing it's something that appeals to you), i would move on.

i wish you the very best.

leslie

pinktoes · Oct 15, 2007

I have been there too. I'm from another country, I worked 5 years in a Med-Surg Ward. The sad thing about it was I'm the oldest in that area and with the most experience, (due to the high turnover rates). I was tasked by my supervisor to teach new nurses, look over them, assist them but I didn't get paid for it. I worked 48+ hours per week with 2 days off. The doctors were rude, and the pay was 10x less in the US. I dreaded going to work, was grumpy, I even made excuses not to show up for work. I looked forward to vacation leaves. My boss told me that she's going to endorse me to replace her as the Supervisor when she leaves. It never happened, she's still working there. I went to the US, brought my whole family with me.

I don't think you should hold on to what your boss said just because she said it. You can take some time off, then it will come to you. Good luck.

DeLana_RN, BSN, RN · Oct 15, 2007

Agree with others, this job doesn't sound like it's worth your time. Also, they seem to be stringing you along with vague promises... don't fall for it.

I think once you give your notice your anxiety/burn out will disappear.

I wish you the best,

DeLana

MA Nurse · Oct 15, 2007

Hi all. I'm in a perdicament at work and wanted some advice from the folks in this community regarding what I should do or consider doing...
I have been working for 6 years at a psychiatric hospital (4 as a CNA and a little over 2 as an RN). The problem is that I think I am beginning to burn out. I am a charge nurse (5 days a week) on a general psych young adult unit and it is very stressful to say the least. I feel anxious and overwhelmed every day before I go to work, while I'm there, and when I get home. Almost as soon as I get home I crash and wind up going to sleep at 6p or 7p and sleeping til the next morning. I make $1.50 more than the new hires even though I have more responsibilities as charge nurse. I am tempted to leave and try my hand at something new (OB, Med-Surg, dialysis, etc.) but I was told by my boss that I am being "groomed" for something down the road (possible managerial position). However, I have not been told when this would be or even that it would be sooner rather then later. Plus, the "higher ups" at my facility have a habit of telling people to hold on for something better down the road then nothing happens. I'm not quite sure what I should do. Should I wait it out where I'm at or should I cut back my hours and look for something else, somewhere else?

i hated psych nursing in school. Sounds like you need to change jobs to something happier and more rewarding. It's ok to make a change if you are unhappy! Good luck!

Dolce, RN · Oct 15, 2007

I personally think you should move on and find another job. You may want to consider a staff nurse position rather than charge nurse. Less responsibility often means less stress. If you can afford it you might also consider finding a job that is 32 hours a week. I think that you are suffering from quite a bit of stress and you might need to step back from your situation and look at some other options.

HM2VikingRN, RN · Oct 15, 2007

I would have a depression assessment done. With 25+ years in Psych I agree with your self assessment of burnout. Take a vacation and get away from the juveniles. Best of luck...

fmrnicumom · Oct 15, 2007

Just wanted to wish you the best of luck. I agree that a depression evaluation would be a good idea. It may simply be burnout, but it could also be burnout complicated by depression. I hope you find happiness soon.

Tiffany

Ruby Vee, BSN · Oct 15, 2007

hi all. i'm in a perdicament at work and wanted some advice from the folks in this community regarding what i should do or consider doing...
i have been working for 6 years at a psychiatric hospital (4 as a cna and a little over 2 as an rn). the problem is that i think i am beginning to burn out. i am a charge nurse (5 days a week) on a general psych young adult unit and it is very stressful to say the least. i feel anxious and overwhelmed every day before i go to work, while i'm there, and when i get home. almost as soon as i get home i crash and wind up going to sleep at 6p or 7p and sleeping til the next morning. i make $1.50 more than the new hires even though i have more responsibilities as charge nurse. i am tempted to leave and try my hand at something new (ob, med-surg, dialysis, etc.) but i was told by my boss that i am being "groomed" for something down the road (possible managerial position). however, i have not been told when this would be or even that it would be sooner rather then later. plus, the "higher ups" at my facility have a habit of telling people to hold on for something better down the road then nothing happens. i'm not quite sure what i should do. should i wait it out where i'm at or should i cut back my hours and look for something else, somewhere else?

i think you're right -- you're beginning to burn out. it's time to make a change of some kind. change your shift, change your employer, change your specialty -- nurses can do that. try for a job in ob, med-surg or dialysis -- anything that interests you. good luck! i hope to hear from you soon that you've got a fabulous new job and you're learning lots!