Should I continue?



I am a 19 year old student who went to college during my junior year of high school. My parents always wanted me to get into medical field because they are in that profession. At first, I agreed with my parents and chose to go into nursing field. During my junior year of high school, I took nursing prerequisites. Everything was going well with my studies and I maintained a good GPA.

I graduated from high school and college at the same time last year, and was done with all my prerequisite. I applied for Nursing program at **** University and also got accepted! My program starts this fall 2017. Everything is going well, my parents are happy and proud of me but I am not.

I don't know why but I never felt any happiness. I wasn't even happy nor sad when I got accepted into Nursing Program. When I tried to talk with my close friends that "I don't think Nursing is for me", they told me to just endure it for 2 years and I will get BSN and can work as a Nurse.

Sometimes, I think of just enduring and work as a nurse but I know deep down that this is not for me. I have zero ounce of passion and I don't like what I am doing. I am also really scared to tell to this to my parent because they have lot of expectations. I want to talk to them too but I don't have any other options beside Nursing.

I know this post is getting long but I don't know what to do?? Right now, I have no idea what to major in expect for nursing because I never really explored in any other fields beside nursing prerequisites.

My program is going to start soon this September and I feel like I am taking someone else spot who really deserves to be a Nurse and has passion for it. Should I do nursing or is too late to go back and start all over??

Thank you for your time.


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If you don't want to become a nurse, then what do you want to do? You have to do something to earn a living, whether you like it or not.


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Specializes in Stepdown . Telemetry. Has 10 years experience.

Its a very observant and honest thing to realize, and maybe you never had noticed before because u were busy working towards the goal of nursing school, but now that you got there u reflected on the notion that you were pursuing a goal for your parents and not for you.

It takes courage to find your own path, and especially to recognize that you were not on your own path. It can become very difficult to see when parents are really intent on deciding for their kid because they never thought to actually ask him what HE wanted.

Well now that you are at this fork in the road stop and really think about nursing, do some research.

Now that you know how you feel u have to find out for yourself. If they never thought to ask what you wanted they are probably not going to be all that helpful if you discuss your ambivalence with them.

So look into what you want before you tell them. What are you really interested in? As a nurse myself, i can say that its a great choice because there are sooo many different avenues you can take once you are an rn.

Other than this general advice, its up to you to take that first step in finding your own way. Good luck!


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You should follow your heart!! Have you shadowed nurses or anything like that? Sometimes people don't realize they have the passion for it until they try it. However, nursing school is hard and if you don't have passion for it- it could make you feel like you are drowning.

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Specializes in Peds/outpatient FP,derm,allergy/private duty. Has 47 years experience.

It would be a mistake to try and grit your teeth all the way through nursing school and beyond. The thing I'm wondering is what are you envisioning when you say you know nursing isn't for you?

If you are deciding this based on the lack of "passion", I can say this is a myth, and lots of people put themselves through a wringer of self-doubt because they lack the passion.

Passion is great, but so is pragmatism. I have always been in the latter category. Honestly, any passion I now feel is due to my long experience in it, rather than the other way around.

Best wishes whatever you decide!

Specializes in Psychiatry, Community, Nurse Manager, hospice. Has 7 years experience.

Don't start nursing school if it isn't what you want right now. Defer your acceptance and take a job doing something, anything for a semester at least.

You may change your mind and decide that nursing really is for you. Then you can start nursing school with thw right attitude.

Or you may find something else you really like.

Don't do it then because you will regret it later. What about being a computer engineer? You probably have some science blood in you if both of your parents are in the medical field. Try computer science engineering. It is difficult to get out of nursing once you are in it. You will be so tired of working as a nurse and trying to balance college for another degree. You parents may not like your choice but it is you that has to live with your decisions ultimately. You will have to get up, go to work, service people with a smile and work those shifts. Sounds like it is your instinct telling you nursing isn't for you.