Having a rough patch :(

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As most of you know, I lost my dad very suddenly in November (Diagnosed with NASH which progressed quickly to HUS and renal failure). My 12 year old son was particularly close to him. He is celebrating his Bar Mitzvah this coming November and I have had a hard time getting excited about the planning knowing my dad will not be a part of it.

My mother in-law called us Monday to tell us that my father in-law has bladder cancer that has progressed into the musculature of the bladder. He is having a surgical biopsy today at Cedars Sinai (they live in CA) to stage it and come up with a treatment plan. We are in shock. He was diagnosed at a routine physical when they found + microhematuria. Being extremely over cautious, his MD referred him for a MRI. We thought they were nuts. But lo and behold, cancer :( Needless to say, it's been a rough week. I have not told the kids yet as we are waiting to find out what the plan is. Our good friend who went to Med school with my husband happens to be a radiologist/oncologist and told us that most likely he is looking at chemo and radiation and a very rough road ahead.

Work here has been nuts as well. Had that Epi episode last week, then ended my week with my T1D kiddo dropping super low, and then Monday it happened again. He is fine thankfully. And then yesterday a K student fell off the bars and broke her wrist. I am just tired. 32 more work days until Summer vacation.

Thanks for listening. It's hard being in my little office by myself with no one to talk to about stuff :(

Specializes in Med/Surg/Infection Control/Geriatrics.
God knows how people struggle to say something positive, supportive, and uplifting at times like this. I'm confident He'll transform all those prayers and relay them for you as you pass through your current tribulation. Please know there are many shoulders out here leaning into your spiritual cart to help you pass through this muddy patch. Amen

Agreeing with OldDude:

Yes, YES! You poor darling! You are being lifted up as is your precious family.

Please remember to take care of yourself through this? Sending love and hugs your way!!!

Hugs and prayer ps for you through the internets.

I hope you get a break soon í ½í¸•

I'm sorry for your loss. Sometimes in life things happen in bunches, good and bad. If it's any comfort know that you're not alone, we all have to go through it at sometime.😭

Specializes in NICU, Peds, Med-Surg.

Wow....I'm sorry for ALL that you're dealing with !!! :( Sending you many ((( hugs ))))

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At the rising sun and at its going down; We remember them.

At the blowing of the wind and in the chill of winter; We remember them.

At the opening of the buds and in the rebirth of spring; We remember them.

At the blueness of the skies and in the warmth of summer; We remember them.

At the rustling of the leaves and in the beauty of the autumn; We remember them.

At the beginning of the year and when it ends; We remember them.

As long as we live, they too will live, for they are now a part of us as We remember them.

When we are weary and in need of strength; We remember them.

When we are lost and sick at heart; We remember them.

When we have decisions that are difficult to make; We remember them.

When we have joy we crave to share; We remember them.

When we have achievements that are based on theirs; We remember them.

For as long as we live, they too will live, for they are now a part of us as, We remember them.

by Sylvan Kamens & Rabbi Jack Riemer

Hugs to you.

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