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Hello all,

I am in the pits at the moment. I feel like crying because I have some close friends that I really love and care about but ever since I started nursing school this summer I haven't hung out with them. I am trying to get used to all of it. There is so much reading and studying to do+test/quiz every week!

I enjoy every minute of the learning process and staying home to study instead of going out. I feel like the sacrifice I spend on studying will help me in the future with patients and also going for my Master's.

I have reached a point in my life where this is what I want to do and I am loving it. Since I started summer school I no longer question what to do with my life because at this moment, this is right to me and makes me HAPPY.

But I am scared of losing my friends by telling them that I might not be able to be there for them sometimes because of nursing school.

Did any of you sacrifice some friendships/relationships because of nursing school?

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maybe if you let them know when it is a good time for get-togethers, etc

instead of simply being unavailable, give them explanation, and either try to plan for time together, or indicate when you, and they, realistically have time

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Specializes in Stna HH Care.

If they are true friends they will understand and support you for your efforts. I feel the same way at times but my closes friend(s) is always just a phone call away.

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Specializes in med/surg, telemetry, IV therapy, mgmt.

justbreath. . .I think the much better question for you to be asking, not only of people on allnurses, but of the older patients and others you have contact with is:

Do you still have close contact with the same friends that you knew 10 years ago? Do you have the same close relationship with them?

I think you'll probably be surprised at the answers you will get. People come and go in our lives, throughout our lives. 10 years after nursing school I had pretty much lost contact with most of my nursing school classmates--and I was the class secretary and tried very hard to keep in contact with everyone!!!! Our lives change; our priorities change; we each move in different directions. You'll make new friends.

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I have two children that cry when they walk into a room and find me on the couch with an open book...b/c they know that when Mommy's "studying", I can't be disturbed.

I'm afraid my kids are going to hate school before they even get there themselves.

Just this week, my husband and I have been having horrible arguments over things not getting done around here...but I told him 10 weeks of hell is better than 9 months of it...and I HAVE to get my A&P out of the way this summer.

I needed all day to study, I have finals next week and a massive amount of material...and he left the house to play two rounds of golf and didn't even tell me he was going...that left me with the 3-year olds, and I didn't get anything done at all...and I DESPARATELY needed the time today.

He came home and wondered where dinner was, and I told him if he could take off and play golf without telling me, then I could not make dinner and not have to answer for it. (We went to McDonalds). I'm in our spare bedroom and I locked the door.

I am so mad right now I can't even stand it.

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one of the biggest bummers of nursing school is being so busy. i have somewhat lost a friend because i got into the program and she didn't. it has made it hard to get together and such. We are randomly in contact. It is hard, because pursuing your dream leads to some sacrifices. But I have found that there are many people that are supportive. Nursing school doesn't last forever and you can always get back in touch with them when time allows. Those that are meant to stick around will. Sometimes, bettering yourself means you can't be everything to everyone and that is okay.

And I have met some of my best friends in my program.

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Yes I think we have all sacraficed things for school. Your friends are just going to have to deal with it. Their grownups and if they care about you they should not be trying to get you to go out with them when you have made a commitment to study. One of my daughters strted crying when I told her I could not go on her school field trip with her because I had class that day- now that is a little harder to deal with.

But being afraid you are going to lose a friend because of school?- Not to sound too rude- but then they are not a friend worth having.

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But being afraid you are going to lose a friend because of school?- Not to sound too rude- but then they are not a friend worth having.

:yeahthat:

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Specializes in Med-Surg.

You may not be able to spend hours with them, but you might find 45 min-1hr every month or every other month for a walk or a cup of tea. The main thing is to make some time for yourself too. It may just be 15 min a day that you close your eyes and breathe between reaching for the next textbook.

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Specializes in Orthopedics.

I feel your pain. I'm not a nursing student yet, but I have been taking 8 credits of prereqs per quarter and working full time. As a result, I don't have much time left over to hang out with friends....my husband gets most of my "free time". I feel horrible, but hope that my friends understand my situation (if they don't, then maybe I need to reevaluate our friendship). My education is what comes first right now.

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I am deeply thankful and humbled to you all for your insights and personal stories. You all gave me the courage to get up and take charge.

I talked to one of my friends today about what's going on. I let out a sigh of joy when she said, "I'll be here for you if you ever need me." It feels like a heavy burden has been lifted off my shoulders.

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I have two children that cry when they walk into a room and find me on the couch with an open book...b/c they know that when Mommy's "studying", I can't be disturbed.

I'm afraid my kids are going to hate school before they even get there themselves.

Just this week, my husband and I have been having horrible arguments over things not getting done around here...but I told him 10 weeks of hell is better than 9 months of it...and I HAVE to get my A&P out of the way this summer.

I needed all day to study, I have finals next week and a massive amount of material...and he left the house to play two rounds of golf and didn't even tell me he was going...that left me with the 3-year olds, and I didn't get anything done at all...and I DESPARATELY needed the time today.

He came home and wondered where dinner was, and I told him if he could take off and play golf without telling me, then I could not make dinner and not have to answer for it. (We went to McDonalds). I'm in our spare bedroom and I locked the door.

I am so mad right now I can't even stand it.

So that you don't have to depend on your husband for help drop your children off at an hourly care childcare facility.

we have some here inour area that are open on weekends and late in the evenings and take kids on short notice.

That way you have some quiet study time. Good luck, school is hard with kids and no help!

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