i really don't want to go back

akcarmean, LPN · Nov 21, 2004

Sorry for your bad day. We all have them. Just keep up the good work, and your spirits. We all make mistakes, learn, from them and go on. Good Luck,

Angelia

Silverdragon102, BSN · Nov 22, 2004

Sorry to hear about your bad day

No you should not have been told off in front of everyone and by a couple of people, I think that if it was your first time you should have had a bit more support from the more senior in the department.

It should have been more of a reflective episode done in the office by one person and you would have come out of it gaining experience, knowing where you went wrong, what you would change next time and although you would be upset with yourself you would not miss the opportunity to do it again instead of being frightened to do it again.

weetziebat · Nov 22, 2004

We all make mistakes. If we didn't we wouldn't be human. It is scary to think about but nurses and doctors are only human.

And you definately should not have been told off by one, let alone two people in the middle of the hallway. The sister (or whoever was in charge, if not her) should have taken you aside, or to an office, and calmly discussed it with you. We all know how awful one feels to make a mistake - you beat yourself up far worse than anyone else could. But just how do they expect you to learn by being yelled at?

And don't you just hate it when you cry at times like that? I do it out of pure frustration. :angryfire It is incidents like this that make people say that nursing eats their young.

I know how very difficult it is to try to forget but please just realize that it could have been anyone making the mistake, and move on. Good luck :kiss

suehp · Nov 22, 2004

I am sorry to hear that your first time in charge ended up being a bad day. We all make mistakes as everyone else has said..plus it is awful that you were told off so publicly humiliating you like that...

All I can say is learn from the experience - you will end up being a better nurse for it...I can say the mistakes I have made in my 15 years as a nurse I certainly dont repeat them!!!

As far as that nurse is concerned - dont you just hate that when that happens - of all people...just learn not to be like her :)

purplemania, BSN, RN · Nov 22, 2004

The important lessons you learned from this incident will last a lifetime. My first day to charge there was a death on the floor (4 yr old). I was haunted for months about what I SHOULD have done, or COULD have done, even though my brain told me there was not other way it could have turned out (Bacterial meningitis and already comatose when my shift started). Your supervisors were wrong to talk to you like that in public. Very bad form. Not professional at all. I hope you learned from that as well. You obviously are concerned about doing the right thing, so I know you will continue to develop into a fine nurse.

tiroka03, LPN · Nov 22, 2004

I would take you as a charge nurse anyday. Sounds like you will learn from this incident. How absoultley cruel of them to make you cry.

caramel · Nov 23, 2004

The nurse telling you off in the middle of the corridor is totally unprofessional.she should know better!! so you cried, Darling you are only human . i am sure most people would , espercially after having patient's relative give you an ear bashing Ignor them we all make mistakes .

take care

caramel

celticqueen · Nov 24, 2004

Ok well my first day at trying to be in charge was an unpronounced disaster, I made a really stupid mistake when I was triaging a patient didn't ask the right question and I should on made her more urgent I did get the patient seen by the sho about getting stronger pain relief he did ask about how the injury happened and some history but he didn't pick up on my mistake either. So one of the sisters tells me off in the middle of a main corridor of A&E, and then just my luck the nurse I get on with least and who loves to make me feel like a total imbecile she goes on at me for ages. I freely admit that I made a big mistake but did they have to humiliate me and make me feel even worse that I was making myself feel. The patient was fine.
I made the fatal mistake of crying, not with the sister in the corridor but with the other nurse who I don't get on with about 3 mins into her lecture. She was really nice to me all evening after that but I don't trust her and I know it will get back to the sister and my manager and probably most of the department that I was upset and I don't get upset easily with my family I can't.

That sounds awful, poor you. Is there anybody in the dept. you can speak to?

Emma

Birdie RN · Nov 24, 2004

I have cried many times at work. Nobody really recalls it very much but me.I am sorry to hear of your bad day. It is ok to learn form it move on and not beat yourself up about it.