Quitting my job before my shift starts

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Today is my first day back to work after a 6 day vacation and I already feel tightness in my chest and anxiety. I've never felt this way at a job before. In my life. I absolutely hate it here and the way this company is ran. I start my shift at 3. I tried to call off today to think since I had a death that has affected me recently but they will not let me call off. I am seriously thinking of quitting right now. I'm worried about job abandonment and what should I do. Thank you.

AnnieOaklyRN said:
Please stop with the drama first of all.

Given this poster's history, Im not at all certain that is possible.

AnnieOaklyRN said:
After reading your multitude of threads, my honest opinion is you should not be a nurse, and should look for something else that doesn't include being responsible for someone's life.

Glad Im not the only one coming to this conclusion. The 5+ med errors clued me in to that.

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I was preparing to ask you people why are you saying this to her , then I , too , reviewed her posts.

Hmm. Shows a definite pattern. I hate to agree with others saying " leave the profession" but ---- perhaps exploring alternatives is good at this juncture

Not Pharmacy Tech.

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rnhopeful82 said:
I remember your posts about maybe being unhirable after 3 jobs in 2 years.

And making that 4 jobs in 2 years is in no way going to improve your hireability.

rnhopeful82 said:
Before you find a new job and quit this one, I think that maybe you should really sit down and figure out the reason why every single job needs to be left so quickly. The common denominator is you. Maybe if all of your jobs are in the same type of setting, find a different one, maybe something like that. But again, try to figure out why you want to leave every job so quickly, as YOU will be at whichever new job you find. Good luck!

I agree. For two reasons:

1. It's easier to get hired if you're already working somewhere. Whereas the longer you are out of work, the less appealing you look to potential employers.

2. You need to figure out why you're prone to doing this and address it now, because if you keep up this habit of quickly bailing out of jobs, you're going to keep doing damage to your future career. What employer is going to want to take a chance on a serial quitter? None that I know of.

I say this gently, but you need to sit down and figure out what your problem is, and then find a way to fix it. IMO, if you've quit 3 jobs in short notice, the issue isn't with the jobs but with you.

Or maybe you'll realize from all this quitting is that nursing isn't really for you after all...and that's OK too. Better to be honest with yourself and go pursue whatever will make you truly happy.

Best of luck.

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Meriwhen said:
IMO, if you've quit 3 jobs in short notice, the issue isn't with the jobs but with you.

Not always. It's unfair to just automatically assume this. In some areas, jobs are just bad. Common local politics and beliefs tend to play into it. An example is that no matter how much we try to stay ignorant to it, racism is still a thing. Then add in that healthcare is full of cliques and egos. A reality of nursing care is that if you're not one of the girls, your job is hell. If you tend to be more timid, you're the scapegoat at almost any job you can ever get.

Without knowing the exact situations, you really can't make that conclusion. Just remember, for someone to hate a job that badly that they get anxiety over going back to work after a vacation to the point of deciding to quit, there's something going on.

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Given the context of the majority of the threads you authored, and the minimal time frame between, it almost seems like you are seeking attention. They first started with respondents attempting to pick you up, boost your ego, let you know that it will be ok ect to this thread where the advise has been given to maybe changing your career choice. You would certainly give me anxiety if I had to work with you if your actions are accurately portrayed. And you thought about doing traveling? Goodness, you need to take a good hard look on where you are at for your sake and the sake of the patients that happen to fall under your care.

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tonyl1234 said:
Not always. It's unfair to just automatically assume this. In some areas, jobs are just bad. Common local politics and beliefs tend to play into it. An example is that no matter how much we try to stay ignorant to it, racism is still a thing. Then add in that healthcare is full of cliques and egos. A reality of nursing care is that if you're not one of the girls, your job is hell. If you tend to be more timid, you're the scapegoat at almost any job you can ever get.

Without knowing the exact situations, you really can't make that conclusion. Just remember, for someone to hate a job that badly that they get anxiety over going back to work after a vacation to the point of deciding to quit, there's something going on.

True, but I still stand by my original response.

If it were 1 job, then I'd say it could very well be the job that was the issue.

But 3 jobs in 3 different locations...well, that's showing a trend. And the one common factor in those trend is the OP. So here, I'd say it's less likely the jobs and more likely something going on with the OP. Unless, of course, the OP is encountering the exact same issues at every single job, which IMO is highly unlikely.

And to use your example of the OP being more timid...well, that IS an issue of the OP that the OP would have to deal with. Otherwise, the minute things start going south at a job, OP is always going to opt to run from the problems instead of figuring out what's really going on and what the best way to deal with it is...and running isn't always the answer.

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rnhopeful82 said:
I remember your posts about maybe being unhirable after 3 jobs in 2 years. Before you find a new job and quit this one, I think that maybe you should really sit down and figure out the reason why every single job needs to be left so quickly. The common denominator is you. Maybe if all of your jobs are in the same type of setting, find a different one, maybe something like that. But again, try to figure out why you want to leave every job so quickly, as YOU will be at whichever new job you find. Good luck!

I recommend finding a good therapist. Maybe even staying in your job and utilizing EAP as a free resource. Not kidding.

Good luck.

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In the nicest way possible I believe that you should look into another career. From reading your posts through the years you seem very unstable and very problamatic at work at the time. I believe you should step back and reevaluate yourself and your problems before you continue to hold others lives in your hands. Best of luck to you

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I new to this site and from reading others posts found how to look up the threads. In a word... Wow! I had to put a relative into assisted living and it was very expensive. If I came on here and had an inkling the OP was my relative's nurse I'd be calling administration in a heartbeat based on the all the threads.

Then there was the lazy med techs. I was a med tech while I was in nursing school. I passed medication in addition to the CNA duties of garbage, laundry, showers, and other ADLs and there was never enough time to get it all done. If I just sat and hung out my charge nurse would have said something to me. I know because I witnessed the comments directed at peers. It was your job to say something. However, there is a theme of theme of issues with co-workers.

As a CNA, I did switch some job switching myself but it was always after at least being there a year and for more money. I don't think people can fault someone for leaving for a better opportunity. I know that sometimes the new shine wears off a job and you don't like going there. A lot of people feel that about jobs but they suck it up and go in. At this point in time I'd say, IMO to not put your entire life on a board for people to see the pattern. (It seems that other poster may be experiencing sympathy fatigue) Maybe discuss the issues with the whomever prescribed the PRN Ativan you posted about on 10/27/17. I have anxiety myself at times, but my support system always says four words to me. "Suck it up, Buttercup." It sounds harsh, but it's a reminder that my problems are insignificant in comparison to what some of my patients suffer.

I found one common theme in may of your posts: Uncertainty. I often feel that way. However, I will give you one piece of advice that has worked marvels for me. You cannot control the actions of others or even situations, what you can control is yourself and your reaction to them.

Best of luck to you.

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rnhopeful82 said:
I remember your posts about maybe being unhirable after 3 jobs in 2 years. Before you find a new job and quit this one, I think that maybe you should really sit down and figure out the reason why every single job needs to be left so quickly. The common denominator is you. Maybe if all of your jobs are in the same type of setting, find a different one, maybe something like that. But again, try to figure out why you want to leave every job so quickly, as YOU will be at whichever new job you find. Good luck!

You are absolutely correct. I'm sorry I didn't reply sooner. I have a lot of insecurities as nurse because of my past. My employers praise me up and down but I keep thinking of my performances in the past (as documented here) and just am so insecure and have a hard time believing that I'm doing a good job

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beekee said:
OP, it's time for a gut check. Is your mental health taking a slide again? Please take care of yourself.

I read all of your comments and of course Wuzzie life coach I never had and told me to put my big girl panties on and face the situation like an adult. So I did. And I had a really good day. I have bad outburst sometimes and tend to make haste decisions instead of thinking. I'm glad for her.

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cleback said:
This. Your last post you said things were finally clicking. What happened? We're all rooting for you and this sounds like a personal, not necessarily professional, issue.

I had a moment of stupidity and wasn't thinking properly. I went to work and everyone wasn't as bad as I pictured in my head. I wish I weren't so dramatic at times. My twenties are just kicking my butt big time

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