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Carol Ebert has 54 years experience as a MSN, RN and specializes in Wellness and Coaching for Women in their Third Act.

Wellness Specialist and Business Entrepreneur Carol Ebert is a creative force for education and wellness.  Her nursing career began as a Navy Nurse followed by School Health Nurse where she discovered her vision was more aligned with prevention than treatment, so she shifted to health education and wellness, her true passion.  Her professional experience is varied but always grounded in wellness.  Health Educator, College Health Director, Hospital Wellness Coordinator, Wellness Business Outreach Coordinator, Wellness Coach and Trainer and currently Solopreneur and CEO of her own wellness business. www.carolebert.com

Carol models how to live a healthy lifestyle which inspires those she reaches with her wellness programs.  She knows how to successfully coach “busy” professionals to avoid burnout and achieve optimal health.   She also puts her creativity to good use designing and presenting wellness initiatives for businesses that change people’s lives and save healthcare dollars. 

Carol has put all her wellness secrets in her new book Too Busy for YOU?  How to Prioritize Yourself for a Balanced, Mindful and Happy Life.  She is a sought after public speaker and her programs are always fun, educational, rewarding and inspiring.

Contact her at carol@carolebert.com.  507-313-4515

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  1. Carol Ebert

    What Do You Really Want?

    Yes I am speaking to YOU the ENTREPRENEUR. Yes we have done great work as nurses in the system, but you have to honor who you truly are and take the risk to explore that on your own terms. It has been my experience that if you “settle” for the paycheck while sacrificing your joy, it is not sustainable or healthy for you. I speak from experience! Let’s begin Here is an exercise for you to find out what you really want. Answer these 5 questions without too much thought. Just keep going until you have made it through all 5. What do you really want? What do you really want? What do you really want? What do you really want? What do you really want? What did you notice about your answer to the last question? Here are my 5 answers as an example. I want more freedom I want more money I want to be free from being controlled I want to prove I can have a successful wellness business on my own I want to prove that I have the talent to earn unlimited wealth Notice that my answer to the last question goes deeper into my belief about myself and the doubts that hold me back from manifesting unlimited wealth. This is why it is important to keep asking yourself that same question until you finally get down to the real reason you want to be on your own. This also helps you begin to create a plan for what you need to work on that might be blocking your success. Creating the Vision Once you declare what you really want, then you need to create that vision for yourself either on a vision board that you look at daily or start acting “as if” it already exists and talk about it on a consistent basis. Actually doing both will accelerate your success in reaching your goal. Here are my statements that I speak out loud every day as an example. Notice they speak as if I already have what I want and they go deeper into feelings rather than just having things. We have to really FEEL what it would be like so we can activate the “Law of Attraction” vibe. Instead of saying I want more freedom - I say: I’m grateful to work with others who are like-minded and support each other’s business growth Every day I awake thinking about what I can do today to take action toward upward movement by completing meaningful life-changing work. I totally enjoy the process and the connections with my team and mentors. They also fulfill my desire to not be alone as I age and have people around me who support and encourage me every day. Instead of saying I want more money - I say: I’m free from worry about money I am prospering financially from $8000 income each month and watching $2000 be deposited into my checking account every Friday without fail. I am so excited about this income stream because now all bills are paid easily and effortlessly following the Law of Circulation. As money flows in it then flows out to support all the services that support me. A beautiful circular system that I don’t even have to pay attention to. It just does its own thing and I am free from any worry about money. Instead of saying I want to be free from being controlled – I say: I’m having fun working on my own terms I know what it is like to have fun while working and this experience is great fun. I now know and enjoy the daily skills that continue to grow my business successfully. It is fun to be with my team and mentors who show me every day how to enjoy what I do. I effectively manage my calendar to provide space for business and personal growth so my life remains in balance. I love using social media as a great tool for finding potential business partners. My calendar is full every day with new people to talk with, hear their stories, and find out what they are looking for. My list is growing every day with great conversations. I’m learning about all the different types of people who are looking for an opportunity to break free from those ties that bind in the workplace. I love connecting with the energy of these wellness entrepreneurs. What a gift to just visit with them. Such fun and joy. Instead of saying I want to prove I can have a successful wellness business on my own – I say: I’m grateful for my successful business I am grateful for this business because it allows me to prosper from the work that I do best. I am great at supporting, coaching, mentoring and educating others. Those others are my fantastic business partners who appreciate the opportunity I have given them and I love cheering them on as they grow into leaders of their own businesses as well. Instead of saying I want to prove that I have the talent to earn unlimited wealth - I say: My skills, experiences and wisdom have created a profitable business I utilize my skills of creativity, flexibility, modeling a wellness lifestyle, being a servant leader, teaching how to live a healthy lifestyle, and inspiring others to take action on their own lives. I am fulfilled because “being me” has been pivotal in growing my successful wellness business, which is my dream. Now that you see how to expand on your answers to the 5 questions, it is your turn to do the same. Make sure you write it out as if it is already happening so your mind, body and spirit will operate at that level and move you forward toward your goals. In addition, condense everything you wrote into a daily positive affirmation and read it 3 times each day. When you wake up Before your start to work Before you go to bed Remember things happen when you imagine them first so use your imagination to affect the change in your life you desire. By practicing “feeling the feelings” of what you want they become easier to believe and become a powerful force to attract the steps you need to complete to make it a reality. Please feel free to share what your dream for your future looks like. Inspired by: Ask and It Is Given. Esther and Jerry Hicks Positivity. Barbara L. Fredrickson, PH.D
  2. Changing Career Directions About 20 years ago I changed the direction of my medical career and decided to start my own wellness business. Once I stepped away, I realized there is more to starting a business than just having a dream. I really didn’t know where to begin, short of taking a course at the local Tech college which only showed me how to write a business plan. Since having a structured approach to anything didn’t resonate with my free-wheeling mind, I found no value in that exercise. My mindset was one of resistance to structure. Teaming Up on a New Venture Fortunately, a wellness friend suggested we team up on a new venture she was beginning and maybe that would work for me as well since it would allow me to share my wellness skills and make money too. Since I trusted her to not do something stupid, I joined in, and off we went into the world of being business owners together. The good news was there were others like us to collaborate with, and all we had to do was get 4 friends each to join us and we could start growing toward financial success. And I could run my business by the “seat of my pants” without structure which is another trait I have as an entrepreneur. My mindset was happy I could do it my way. I was excited that my mindset was being fed with all this good news and I could see my future being a “Gold Director”. This would assure me of solid income and many other wellness advocates to partner with to share our wellness message out to the world. This simple idea of just having 4 friends to join and then everything else would take care of itself seemed to be an easy way to start earning income. And it did take off for a few years and we all did well. My mindset was focused on making money effortlessly. Back to Square One But then life got in the way. One by one each of my 4 leaders got frustrated with not earning enough money right away and returned to their corporate jobs and because the people they had recruited saw their leaders give up, so did they. And the bottom dropped out for all of us. I was back to square one with little income from this venture and relying on other ventures to pay the bills. I kept my foot in the business but didn’t really run it as a business anymore for several years. My mindset was giving up on my dream of having a viable and prosperous wellness business. Resurgence of Hopefulness One day everything changed. A friend who was in the same boat as I said there is a new movement afoot to resurrect our “flat-lined” businesses and I needed to join her in this effort. Of course, I was reluctant because my initial attempts were not successful in reaching my dream future so why would I bother trying again. She convinced me to “catch the wave” because this type of business is on the upswing since “work from home” businesses are the way to go due to the Pandemic. There were social forces driving this resurgence and the entire industry was upleveling their game toward business growth and I could be a part of it. My mindset was excited and hopeful again. That hooked me in since my entrepreneurial spirit loves to be on the cutting edge of something new. Plus there was great energy, inspiration, support and fun being provided so how could I resist? And the best thing I discovered was there was an actual formula or recipe I could follow to generate unlimited numbers of people I could reach out to. I never had this before which is why I couldn’t find enough people to talk to. This revelation was what I needed to grow successfully in the past, but no one taught me about it. My mindset was frustration over not having that information before. The Power of Social Media I was finally educated about the power of Social Media in finding connections and growing my business. This time instead of just relying on friends and family and local connections, the world is at my computer fingertips. I can grow a global business right from my home and not go anywhere to find connections. My only stumbling block from this new way of doing business was my reluctance to use Social Media and my reluctance to follow a structured approach. My old-school mindset was being challenged to shift. The good news is I was receiving training from very successful business leaders who had field-tested their methods for years. They have created very successful “home-based businesses” because of using these methods and were willing to share their secrets with us. I started dabbling in Social Media according to a specific plan and started seeing results. And I did it with others doing exactly the same thing and we were all upleveling our businesses. My mindset was one of excitement and having fun. The structured plan that I have always resisted in the past, was working! Plus I have mentor groups and power hours of focused work time to keep me motivated and supported. That had not happened in the past with my initial attempts at running a home-based business. And yes, I was having a lot of fun doing this work. Isn’t that our real dream goal to do what is fun and fulfilling? Off and Running My mindset is now rebooted and upgraded just like my skills and I am off and running on a new business success path. I don’t see myself slowing down anytime soon. I see “Gold” in my future and it is the bright shiny object I have always wanted. Have you taken an inventory of your own MINDSET to see if it is holding you back from your dream for your future? And if it is a roadblock for your success, what steps are you willing to take to move forward with your goals?
  3. Carol Ebert

    Job or Joy... or Both!

    And so I started my journey to uncover what my true talents were and then how could they fit into my nursing career. Here are the phases I went through to process my nursing career path. Restless Phase I started feeling restless about halfway thru my nursing degree program. I started feeling like I did not have the passion that my classmates had for caring for patients, even tho I did feel great satisfaction while helping others. I seemed to want to do things differently, or challenge the status quo. I started thinking “Is this all there is for me? Why am I taking care of people’s problems that could have been prevented”? In addition, I wondered if I could do something different when I graduated than what everyone else was doing. And so I took action and found an opportunity to join a Navy recruitment program that would pay for my last 2 years of college and I would then enter the Navy as a commissioned officer taking care of casualties of war. I thought – that sounds interesting and different! So I did it and it was definitely a learning experience I wouldn’t trade for anything. But after I served my 3 years I was back working at the bedside in a hospital and those old feelings arose about “Is this all there is, and why am I caring for people’s problems that could have been prevented?” Exploration Phase Since I had served 3 years in the military, I qualified for the GI Bill to take college classes for free. Not wanting to pass up that opportunity, I enrolled in coursework that interested me and of course, it was all health classes. I loved the content and excelled with all A’s (unlike my grades in nursing school where it felt like hard work all the time). My nurse mentor at the time suggested since I was taking so many health education classes, that I should consider getting a Master’s Degree in Health Education. I said, “oh no – I’m not smart enough for that!” (talk about a self-imposed false belief) She said that was a ridiculous thought and to just go for it. So I did – and got the degree. Awakening Phase The beauty of seeing health from the perspective of prevention and not treatment was not only an eye opener for me but it also showed me that I was enjoying being in that world more than being at the bedside. And so I was led into working as a school nurse where the focus was education and prevention and working with healthy kids and adults to keep them healthy. I was starting to have fun and was finally uncovering my true passion. Joyful Phase Feeling like I was finally free to be my true self, I got to work creating wellness programs that got kids and adults engaged and changed their behaviors for the better. My natural “creativity” which had not had an opportunity to be expressed, now was in full-on action. I was having fun coming up with lots of programs and strategies that helped others have fun learning about how to get healthy. My true “health gifts” were finally being put to good use and recognized and appreciated by others. I had finally found my joy as a nurse. I often refer to myself as Nurse Wellness so people know that you can still be a nurse and do wellness and that is also a credible role for nurses. We all don’t shine at the bedside, but we all have the right to be nurses and then choose our own path of passion. Independence Phase Now that I had found my joyful work, there was one more challenge I faced. I found myself back in the healthcare system in my role as Nurse Wellness, but the corporate roadblocks to taking action on innovative wellness ideas slowed me down tremendously. I felt stifled in my “job” working for a boss and it took years to just get my creative ideas off and running without corporate roadblocks slowing me down. My joy of work was fading, and I knew I needed to leave. But leave to go where? As it turns out, my next natural step was to start my own wellness business as an entrepreneur where I had total freedom and could create and implement prevention and wellness programs right now without having to ask permission or wait for corporate decisions. A very freeing feeling and experience, as I have truly reached “self-actualization.” (Abraham Mazlow would be proud!) If you can relate to my story, and may feel frustrated with your nursing role, and not sure what to do about that, check out the links below to help sort it out. References The Power of Being a Nurse Entrepreneur Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs
  4. Carol Ebert

    Finding clients

    I am also an independent practitioner, but in Wellness. Currently I am enrolled in an aggressive program to find clients that includes, education, mentoring, power-hours and lots of one-to-one support. I am amazed at how much I am learning and why having mentor groups is so important for successful recruiting. If you would like to hear more about it, please contact me. Carol Ebert carol@carolebert.com 507-313-4515
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    How Wellness Trends Might Reshape Healthcare as We Know It

    You are so fortunate to have a physician who seeks alternatives before meds. I think wellness has a long way to go to break thru some of the old ways of doing things, but those of us in the wellness field will still be out there gently (or maybe not so gently) nudging it along.
  6. After attending the Global Wellness Institute Webinar I was even more than inspired that I had selected the correct profession for me to fit in. Yes – wellness is my passion and profession. Even before I graduated from Nursing School I had the feeling that being a typical bedside nurse was not a fit for me. I always felt that taking care of illnesses that could have been prevented was not the best way to use my talents of wanting to keep people healthy so they would not succumb to disease. And so I entered the budding (at the time) world of wellness and never looked back. I will admit it was a steady climb uphill all these years until now when you see wellness everywhere and on everything. And then COVID hit. And wellness started taking center stage because those who were more well were not as at risk as those who were not. Wellness has become the Big Pharma alternative because of the limitations of the current healthcare system we all thought would save us. Now the real challenge for wellness is to go to a deeper level and not just be a word on a label or a program. Beth McGroarty shared the Wellness Trends for 2021 and revealed how wellness is now becoming embedded in our society in very interesting ways. Here are some take-aways from her in-depth investigations of trends. The COVID Trauma has Revealed: The value of wellness as a preventive tool Human cost of sickness and chronic disease Healthcare and wellness need to merge and serve all people Healthcare needs to change image from cold and sterile and only for those that have the means Wellness needs to be more scientific and less trendy The tone of wellness needs to shift Less trendy More inclusive Accessible Affordable Evidence-based Stress Management New focus on emotion due to COVID Personal mood trackers increased Need for emotional support from love, empathy, hospitality Prepare for massive treatment for PTSD of front-line workers Nature is Therapeutic Medical benefits Mental and physical therapy Climate crisis has nature front and center Social distancing is easily implemented outside Wellness Travel Becoming More Popular Natural beauty destinations Purposeful and meaningful Consciousness of over-tourism Mindful slower pace Human-powered (bikes, kayak, etc) Concern for safety Personal Immunity Needs to be Supported Supplements Superfoods Gut health Personal health practices Littman Lab Microbiota and Human Disease Gut Microbiome Has a Powerful Role over Health Taking center stage Poor gut health leads to poor health, infection, death NIH studying microbiome and how we process food - Human Microbiome Project 70% of immunity starts in the gut Personalized Nutrition Can Aid Healing Critical to our health Food as medicine Not all foods affect everyone the same way Change your genes, change your life Hollywood Influence and Wellness More platforms providing wellness information CALM and HEADSPACE for relaxation have made so much money they are funding TV shows and new formats Apple and Sampson have more platforms doing personalized wellness programs Health wearables are being connected to TV Music as Therapy Very popular during a pandemic to heal emotions Soundscapes, sleep, stress management Big tech and big media need to collaborate with health practitioners Check out the multiple Ted Talks such as: Rise of Financial Wellness New openness to effect on health Mindless consumerism has changed Relationship of money to stress and shame Increase of financial coaches, therapists New banks and apps Spirituality and Wellness Spirituality and consciousness are always the most popular area of Wellness Decline in church attendance Closing of churches due to COVID Hopefully, this overview of 2021 wellness trends will help you see where we are heading with healthcare and wellness and give you ideas of how you can affect change in your personal sphere. Please share what new innovations you see happening around you.
  7. Carol Ebert

    Working from Home: Gift or More Stress

    Have you been relocated from your usual work space to your home turf and still have to do your job? How has that been working for you? I made the transition years ago and at the time it seemed great, but then I realized I missed all my work mates and was really lonely. Plus all the distractions at home affected my productivity. Yes, transitioning from working “at work” to working at home can be a joy and a curse at the same time. So I decided to interview some professionals who are meeting that challenge every day to see how they are managing. Time to pull back the curtain and see what is really going on in their work lives. From a Director of a Family and Children’s Center Tips for Employees: Keep a regular schedule Stay connected with co-workers Stay strong – use self-care strategies Limit contact with others Exercise Go outside Stay informed Limit media consumption Set boundaries for work schedules – it’s easy to work too much Redirect from distractions – like doing laundry Get creative – new ideas always Spring from challenges Tips for Managers: Be honest Communicate how you manage your own mental health and stress levels Practice and commit to healthy working norms Normalize the challenges that come with working virtually Be present and listen actively Reassure employees – they are a value to your business Be transparent in communication Be flexible and accommodating Be as generous as possible Be human From a Rural Programs Coordinator She felt inefficient, unproductive and reactionary Instituted a schedule: Start, stops, break times Even told family “Bye – I’m going to work now.” Created a specific work space Follows a dress code – still has casual Fridays Limits how she interacts with her work space as to not work during personal times (even using a separate phone number) Not overlapping personal tasks with work (ex: laundry during phone calls, etc) From a Human Resource Professional Challenges At home all the time (along with all of my colleagues) No travel for foreseeable future No interaction in-person Major increase in screen time Disruption of regularly scheduled plans/activities/engagement Don’t feel the same pressure to have “immediate” answers SO MANY WEBINARS Some days have more urgency than others The pace from the beginning has changed along with the response time Letting go of our plans to start fresh with new needs Giving space to mourn those losses Things are still really hard. Video meetings ARE really draining, and being on many calls in one day can be too much, It’s difficult to plan for a world when you don’t know what it will look like in a couple of weeks I miss going places and seeing people – it changes my productivity Hearing about the loss and pain from downtowns and businesses is devastating Reminding myself that we’re working during a pandemic and that our behaviors and emotions aren’t business as usual I’ve given myself more flexibility: Go on a walk when the sun comes out Work a longer day and then take time the next day for myself From a Leadership Trainer The Basics: Have a routine with a set schedule: start, stop, breaks, lunch Get dressed for work even if it just means brushing your hair Have a dedicated space for work Have a “Do Not Disturb” rule and make people and animals follow it – hang a sign on your door Get a backup Wi-Fi connection and beef up your home Wi-Fi – a new router, faster service from your provider and a hot spot can save you Work during normal work hours Honor work/life balance - avoid doing work into evening/weekend hours unless that’s normal for you Create a task list for the day and check things off – distractions are many at home and this can help focus Use a time-tracker to check in on yourself – Rescue Time, Toggle, Top Tracker all have free versions that can help keep track of how you spend your day. Understand remote meeting technology – especially what it sees and hears Computer microphones are far more sensitive than you realize and pick up home sounds that don’t seem loud to you Just because you can’t see yourself on the screen doesn’t mean others can’t see you If you share your screen they can also potentially see all of the tabs you have Get out of the house. Sounds simple but easy to forget to do After working from home all day make sure you are presentable when you go somewhere else From a Business Owner Have compassion for yourself - you don’t have to be perfect Combat loneliness Find ways to be connected Work in 1-2 hour bursts then take a break Lock pets away to decrease distraction Rank tasks Complete 3 critical tasks each day Take time for yourself Honor good weather – when the sun is out get outside for a break When you complete a task, celebrate with a break Create rewards for yourself when you compete a task Look for the positives in working from home Play games with yourself and give yourself prizes Schedule self care in your day first Schedule virtual un-meetings as excuses to connect with no work Coffee with friends Play a game Birthday Party Treasure Hunt Happy Hour Hopefully you got some great insights and ideas from these women. I really appreciate their honesty about their work lives at home and how they are adapting to their new reality – for now. Stay tuned as every day seems to bring new challenges during these unusual times. Please share how you are doing.
  8. I have never really paid attention to the power of my subconscious mind sabotaging me, even though intuitively I knew something was holding me back from growing my business to the level that I desire. I remember so clearly in high school feeling intimidated by my classmates because my perception was they were smarter than me so I usually remained silent rather than “look stupid”. One day in math class the teacher asked the question, “What did Archimedes yell out after he stepped into a bath and noticed that the water level rose and realized that the volume of water displaced must be equal to the volume of the part of his body he had submerged?” Well I knew the answer and no one else did! It was Eureka-Eureka. But because I was afraid to speak up, I said nothing and the teacher gave the answer. I’m still mad at myself about that after all these years because I knew an answer that my classmates didn’t and I could have shown that I was smarter than them. (in that moment) So why does this happen? Why do we hold back? Obviously there are many possible reasons, but the real underlying issue is our subconscious mind is calling the shots. We have been practicing a certain way of thinking over and over it is hard to reprogram our brain. And thus, we stay mute, as in my case, when faced with fully expressing whatever our true feelings or beliefs are. It becomes hard to take action when fear holds you back. For me to work thru this I needed to practice over and over speaking up and luckily since I became a health educator I had a lot of practice because I was teaching a lot. Eventually I became comfortable expressing my true beliefs and opinions regarding topics I was teaching. Rather than make this a lesson on why we lack self confidence, (that would be your path to investigate), let’s explore action steps you can take to help you move forward and become more confident with whom you are and where you want to be in the future. 1- Focus your mind on who you want to be, not on who you wish you weren’t Create a Dream Board of who you want to become and post it where you see it every day. Read Affirmations out loud daily as if you are already what you want to become Create a Support system who challenge your false beliefs and cheer on your progress Commit to consistent action using whatever tools work for you to keep yourself on track 2- Learn to be OK with YOU List the qualities you are good at and embrace them List the qualities you are not good at and accept them Stay focused on what you are great at and align your goals with your natural talents Learn to be OK where you are at the moment knowing you are a work in progress 3- Stop comparing yourself to others Be the BEST YOU right now. You are unique and no one else is like you. You were put on this earth to share your gifts and there are people who need what you have to give right now. Don’t deprive them. They are waiting for you to share now. 4- Practice daily saying this out loud – I AM WORTHY, DESERVING AND CAPABLE Do any of these words make you feel like a fraud? That this is not true for you? This word might indicate where you need the most personal work. Give it some thought and determine what action would help you tackle it. 5- Put yourself in uncomfortable situations and deal with it For me there are times when I am teaching that I make a mistake and I have learned to address it head on, admit it, and correct myself. Sometimes I will say “oops – did I really say that? Guess I am human after all.” I get more positive feedback for doing that than for all the great content I have given the audience. People do like to see us being ourselves and being honest with our flaws. Just think about how the world of Zoom calls has leveled the playing field for all of us by showing off our homes, pets, kids while we are still conducting business. It has been very endearing to be up close and personal with people we admire and know that they are just regular people like we are. 6- Find a mentor who believes in you As a School Nurse who was taking college classes on the side in health education (and loving it), my supervisor and mentor said “You have been taking a lot of classes and there is a Master’s Degree in Health Education that you could pursue.” I said “Oh no. I’m not smart enough to get a Masters.” She challenged that false belief of mine and said “You can do it. I believe in you. Just go for it”. So I did and succeeded. I of course was surprised and pleased that I was smart enough after all to achieve that goal. This is why mentors are so important for us. 7- Borrow the confidence of someone doing what you want Whatever direction you want to head in, find someone you can model your behavior after. Learn their strategies and practice what they do. We all can learn to reprogram our behaviors if we practice over and over. 8- Make a chicken list of things you are afraid to do If you are being held back from moving forward toward a goal, what are you afraid of? Try this idea. Make a detailed list of the barriers that are standing in your way of progress. The more detailed you are with your list, the more you can hone in on what is really stopping you. And that identifies where you need to focus your energy. I discovered I was afraid to reach out to people who I held in high esteem and made up a story that they would not be interested in joining my business. But how could I possibly know that without asking them? So I made a list of people I was too chicken to call and called them. And I didn’t die! Plus has some great calls, and even if they weren’t interested, they were willing to identify others who might be. 9- Feed your confidence daily Create a gratitude list of all good things about yourself and post it where you see it daily Read the list out loud morning and night to internalize positive “feel good” energy. Start your day with a positive outlook and check your attitude throughout the day to see if you are keeping the positive energy flowing Do activities that make you feel good (like meditation, exercise, listening to relaxing music). Once you achieve that good feeling, then speak out loud to yourself about how great your life is as if reaching your goal has already happened. That way you are reprogramming your thinking patterns to become more comfortable and accepting of what your new life will be. You will be radiating that energy and Law of Attraction will bring you more of the same. 10- Don’t play small Small holds you back and doesn’t allow you to dream big. Without big dreams nothing would ever happen in our society. The only way I can move forward with my big dream is to use it as a beacon that I can see in my future and take those daily small steps that move me closer every day. A good motto is to ask yourself, “ What would life be like for me in 5 years if I keep thinking and doing the same thing I am thinking and doing now?” I am “confident” that if you adopt some or all of these ideas your level of confidence will increase toward achieving what you want for yourself. You are worthy, deserving and capable and you can do it! Please share what barriers you have overcome and how it has affected your level of confidence. Resources 5 Strategies To Build Unshakable Self-Confidence Strategies to Build Up Self Esteem 5 Ways to Give Your Confidence a Boost
  9. This is the last video in this series. We've discussed a lot in the first 11 videos, and now, with this last video, you will have a chance to put all you've heard about together and make your plan for a more meaningful holiday to remember. And once again, is a writing exercise below. With a plan, nothing happens, and you know if you don't write it down it won't get down. Check out this video, then create your own Holiday Plan below using the 3 steps: Goals Action Steps Celebrate Accomplishments Creating Your Holiday Plan My first goal for this holiday is: To make this goal a reality, I am going to: Objective #1: Objective #2: Objective #3: My second goal for this holiday is: To make this goal a reality, I am going to: Objective #1: Objective #2: Objective #3: As you accomplish your goals, celebrate!! You can go ahead and create your Holiday Plan for next year. Please share your most important goal for this holiday season and why it is important for you. More videos in this series: Steps to a Stress-Free Holiday: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 1 Checking your To-Do Christmas List Twice: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 2 Family and Friends: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 3 Your Holiday Fantasy: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 4 Managing Holiday Expenses: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 5 Holiday Traditions: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 6 Appreciating the Spirit of the Holiday: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 7 Gift Giving: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 8 Children and the Holidays: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 9 Holiday Self-Care: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 10 Holiday Values: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 11 Creating Your Holiday Plan: Creating a Meannflu Holiday to Remember - Part 12
  10. Holiday Values What is of value to you? What do you believe in? Are you living out your beliefs when it comes to the Holiday Season? Let's take a look at some values that are common to many people during the Holiday Season? Which ones are a fit for you? Check out this video then complete the activity below. Ranking Ten Holiday Values Assign the numbers “1” to “10” to each of these value statements. Place the number “1” beside the activity that has the highest value, the number “2” beside your next highest value, and so on until you have assigned all the numbers. Use each number only once. The holiday season is a time to: ______ be a peacemaker in my family ______ spend enjoyable time with my immediate family ______ reunite with my relatives ______ celebrate the birth of Christ ______ create a festive, beautiful home environment ______ show my love and generosity through gifts ______ remember the poor, lonely and needy ______ be active in my spiritual community ______ celebrate with friends ______ relax and be renewed How does this compare to the reality of your holiday season? Please share your thoughts below. More videos in this series: Steps to a Stress-Free Holiday: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 1 Checking your To-Do Christmas List Twice: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 2 Family and Friends: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 3 Your Holiday Fantasy: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 4 Managing Holiday Expenses: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 5 Holiday Traditions: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 6 Appreciating the Spirit of the Holiday: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 7 Gift Giving: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 8 Children and the Holidays: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 9 Holiday Self-Care: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 10 Holiday Values: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 11
  11. Self - Care - what's that and who has time for it during the Holidays? All year we work hard to take care of ourselves. But what happens during the Holiday Season... This month of overindulgence, busyness, high stress and worries? You need a self-care plan so you can fit self- care in your schedule. Check out this video and respond to the questions below. 1. Compared to other times of the year, during the holiday season I: (check all that apply) __ have less free time __ get less sleep __ get less exercise __ eat more sweets and consume more calories in general __ drink more alcohol __ have more tasks and responsibilities __ have less time to be alone __ am more worried about money __ spend less relaxed time with friends __ have less relaxed time with my family __ have more responsibilities at work __ have other stressors:___________________________ 2. How does this make you feel? 3. Check the rejuvenating, coping techniques that are most effective in helping you relax and unwind. __ Going for walks __ Hot baths or showers __ Meditation __ Prayer __ Visiting close friends __ Watching TV __ Exercise __ Massage __ Naps __ Reading for pleasure __ Yoga or other stretching exercises __ Time alone with your partner __ Other _________________________________ 4. Do you tend to do more, less, or the same amount of the above activities during the holiday season? __ More __ Less __ Same 5. How would the holiday season change if you did more of them? Please share what works for you regarding self-care practices. More videos in this series #1: Steps to a Stress-Free Holiday #2: Checking your To-Do Christmas List Twice #3: Family and Friends #4: Your Holiday Fantasy #5: Managing Holiday Expenses #6: Holiday Traditions #7: Appreciating the Spirit of the Holiday #8: Gift Giving #9: Children and the Holidays #10: Holiday Self-Care #11: Holiday Values #12: Creating Your Holiday Plan
  12. Check out the video below and then answer the following questions. 1. Make a list of each of your children’s or grandchildren’s names and briefly describe each one’s responses, feelings or attitudes toward the holiday. 2. Make a list of the family activities that give your children an active role in the holiday celebration. 3. Make a list of the family traditions that help your children understand the meaning of the holiday. Please share your experiences and what works with children. More videos in this series #1: Steps to a Stress-Free Holiday #2: Checking your To-Do Christmas List Twice #3: Family and Friends #4: Your Holiday Fantasy #5: Managing Holiday Expenses #6: Holiday Traditions #7: Appreciating the Spirit of the Holiday #8: Gift Giving #9: Children and the Holidays #10: Holiday Self-Care #11: Holiday Values #12: Creating Your Holiday Plan
  13. Check out the video below and then answer the following questions. Make a list of all the people with whom you normally exchange gifts. Be sure to include people who are easy to forget, such as neighbors, children of friends, co-workers, business acquaintances, etc. 1. Put a dollar sign by the names of people for whom you normally purchase gifts that cost more than $15. 2. Imagine yourself in each of the four imaginary situations: You unexpectedly receive a check in the mail for $500 to spend on Christmas gifts. You have the next two weeks totally free of responsibilities (including your job and the care of children) so that you can devote all your time to making holiday gifts. All your friends and relatives decide to scale down their gift-giving this year, happily exchanging stocking stuffers instead of more elaborate gifts. Gifts are reserved for young children. Adults celebrate by feasting, worshipping, partying, singing, and playing games. Check which of the imaginary situations seems most satisfying to you. Why? Watch this video for more ideas on managing gift-giving. Share tips you have found to be effective in managing holiday gift-giving. More videos in this series Steps to a Stress-Free Holiday: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 1 Checking your To-Do Christmas List Twice: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 2 Family and Friends: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 3 Your Holiday Fantasy: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 4 Managing Holiday Expenses: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 5 Holiday Traditions: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 6 Appreciating the Spirit of the Holiday: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 7 Gift Giving: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 8 Children and the Holidays: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 9 Holiday Self-Care: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 10 Holiday Values: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 11 Creating Your Holiday Plan: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 12
  14. The Spirit of the Holiday - What is it? Many people feel that is what the Holiday Season is all about. Do we tend to get so wrapped up in the commercialism of the Season that we may have forgotten what the Season is all about? We concentrate on "the work of Christmas" that we lose our focus on the more important things of the Holiday Season. Let's stop and take a few minutes to think about that... Hopefully this video will help you regain your focus and have a greater appreciation of the Spirit of the Season. Check out the video below and then answer the following questions. Many people find that certain circumstances foster spiritual experiences. 1. Complete the following sentence by checking all the appropriate responses and adding other comments if you wish. “I tend to feel most spiritually alive when I am...:" __ alone __ in a worship community __ in a spiritual community __ relaxed and unhurried __ meditating or praying __ reading the Bible or other religious/spiritual books __ outdoors in a natural setting __ other 2. How often were these conditions present during the last holiday season? 3. Of all the various holiday activities offered by my spiritual community, these are the ones that help me feel most spiritually alive: If you wish, please share the benefits of the spiritual practices that are most important for you during the holiday season. More videos in this series: Steps to a Stress-Free Holiday: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 1 Checking your To-Do Christmas List Twice: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 2 Family and Friends: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 3 Your Holiday Fantasy: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 4 Managing Holiday Expenses: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 5 Holiday Traditions: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 6 Gift Giving: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 8 Children and the Holidays: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 9
  15. In addition to the obvious expense of gift giving, there are many hidden costs to the holidays. This list will help bring them to your attention. 1. Put a check by your customary holiday expenses. __ Buying gifts __ Craft supplies __ Gift-wrapping expenses __ Mailing gifts __ Higher phone bills __ Extra dry cleaning __ Paying for services such as carpet cleaning, window cleaning, general housecleaning __ Higher food bills __ Travel expenses (car expenses, airplane tickets, hotels, pet boarding, etc.) __ Loss of paid work hours __ Extra linen, bedding, etc. for company __ Higher entertainment costs (videos, theater tickets, etc.) __ Decorations for the tree and house __ Tree and other greenery __ Candles __ More convenience meals during the preholiday rush __ Greeting cards __ Postage stamps __ Alcoholic beverages __ Catering __ Flowers, centerpieces __ New holiday clothes __ Childcare __ Holiday tipping __ Donations to charities __ Other 2. Estimate how much you or your family spent on all of the above expenses last year. $_____ 3. Do you ordinarily stick to a holiday budget? __ yes __ no 4. If you have a partner, is there clear communication about holiday spending? __ yes __ no 5. Who makes most of the holiday purchases? How helpful was this list for you? Check out this video for more things to consider. Let us know how you manage your Holiday finances. More videos in this series: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 1: Steps to a Stress-Free Holiday Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 2: Checking your To-Do Christmas List Twice Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 3: Family andFriends Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 4: Your Holiday Fantasy Managing Holiday Expenses: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 5 Holiday Traditions: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 6 Appreciating the Spirit of the Holiday: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 7 Gift Giving: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 8 Children and the Holidays: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 9
  16. Watch the video below and then check out this list. 1. What are the traditional elements of your holiday celebration? Look through this list, check those that apply and cross out the ones that you do not take part in. Add those that are uniquely yours. __ Gift exchange __ Christmas stockings __ Advent rituals __ Holiday baking __ Home entertaining __ Church activities __ Family religious traditions __ Ethnic traditions __ Outdoor decorations __ Decorating the house __ Decorating a tree __ Cultural events __ Singing or playing music __ Family games __ Charitable activities What are other special family traditions (for example, going skiing during the holidays, visiting a nursing home, special food rituals, etc.)? 2. Look at your entire list. Underline those activities that usually give you and /or your family the most pleasure. 3. Put and “X” by the activities that you do not have time to fully enjoy or that seem to have lost their meaning for you or your family. 4. What special traditions did you do as a child that you no longer do? Star those that you wish you could add to your family celebration. What thoughts do you have about this assessment? What would you like to share with us? More videos in this series: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 1: Steps to a Stress-Free Holiday Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 2: Checking your To-Do Christmas List Twice Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 3: Family and Friends Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 4: Your Holiday Fantasy Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember - Part 5: Managing Holiday Expenses Holiday Traditions: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 6 Appreciating the Spirit of the Holiday: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 7 Gift Giving: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 8 Children and the Holidays: Creating a Meaningful Holiday to Remember – Part 9