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    Stanford Rape

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    I do not have the emotional wherewithal to keep feeding trolls. I've had plenty to say on this thread because I'm passionate about everyone's right to choose who they have sexual contact with and when...
  2. NotAllWhoWandeRN

    Stanford Rape

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    Good men stop actual rape; they don't cover each other against accusations. Not the same thing. Your ignorance knows no bounds. Just... imagine an entire page of mostly asterisks. That's my response...
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    Stanford Rape

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    Do you ever get the funny feeling no one is listening? I know he isn't; I only talk in the hope that someone else
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    Stanford Rape

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    My definition of consent comes down to intent. If someone uses alcohol as a tool to get another person's pants off, it's rape. Example... I was in a hotel with someone who was interested in me. They...
  5. NotAllWhoWandeRN

    Stanford Rape

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    I think you're being thoughtful, not argumentative. I wholly agree that if two people get stupid drunk and hook up when neither of them would have otherwise, it's not rape, it's just a bad decision. I...
  6. NotAllWhoWandeRN

    Stanford Rape

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    I've said that I believe grey situations like that are theoretically possible, but they aren't the norm. Let's start with the strictest definition of consent I've seen. Only an informed, sober,...
  7. NotAllWhoWandeRN

    Stanford Rape

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    And it's not just college. That mentality bleeds down to younger kids who are imitating (or sneaking into) the college party lifestyle. The Steubenville rape case only handed out verdicts 3 years ago....
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    Stanford Rape

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    But how do you propose we stop people from drinking? It's already illegal for those under 21 and that doesn't stop it. National prohibition didn't stop it. I know I'm repeating this ad nauseum, but...
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    Are there any gay nurses here?

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to Rocknurse's topic in General Nursing

    They were saying they didn't think the Stanford thread should have involved the fact that the perpetrator's mother was a nurse. It was mentioned in the OP, I think, but barely
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    Stanford Rape

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    If you are saying women could prevent rape by living "sedately " you are saying men inherently have a desire to rape and that it's women's responsibility not to tempt them. If you don't believe rape...
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    Are there any gay nurses here?

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to Rocknurse's topic in General Nursing

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  12. NotAllWhoWandeRN

    Stanford Rape

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    I have a lot to say on the matter, but I know this thread is already a very difficult one to wade through. I'm composing a reply offsite but I'll have to step back and take a deep breath before I...
  13. NotAllWhoWandeRN

    Are there any gay nurses here?

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to Rocknurse's topic in General Nursing

    And we may have narrowly averted another crisis in California. It's stomach-turning. I have a friend who says she didn't sleep Sunday
  14. NotAllWhoWandeRN

    Stanford Rape

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    I was actually quite surprised that the "narrative" here was very supportive of women and the right to sexual autonomy whether or not the woman makes other mistakes. I am well aware that the world at...
  15. NotAllWhoWandeRN

    Stanford Rape

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    It would be a pretty bizarre situation if she DIDN'T find it traumatizing that the general public was learning details of her assault that she herself didn't know. I believe that there could...
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    Stanford Rape

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    Well. I knew this discussion had been entirely too reasonable for entirely too long. You go to an appointment to have your wisdom teeth surgically removed, and while you are already under sedation,...
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    Stanford Rape

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    Curtis Lepore, a Vine celebrity apparently, raped his girlfriend while she was unconscious after a head injury. He claimed it wasn't rape because they'd previously had consensual sex, and pled down to...
  18. NotAllWhoWandeRN

    Stanford Rape

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    Credibility just dropped to 0%. 0%. You said it doesn't count as rape unless it's violent. You're wrong. You think it's empowering to claim you are the victim of a sexual assault. There are no words...
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    Stanford Rape

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    So now he's moved on to the next guy and the next and the next. It's not any more excusable when it happens to men. A person who is unconscious cannot consent. Period. That's
  20. NotAllWhoWandeRN

    Stanford Rape

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    I've already linked to a very thorough analysis of some research on rape that shows that there are a lot of habitual predators who deliberately get a victim more intoxicated (or find one who already...
  21. NotAllWhoWandeRN

    Stanford Rape

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    On a related note, the obsession with purity can be very damaging to a victim of sexual violence. They claim that you lose a piece of yourself when you make love to another person, but don't address...
  22. NotAllWhoWandeRN

    Stanford Rape

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    I agree with heron that we have a cultural problem with hypersexualization of girls and women. I would say that hypersexualization/objectification of women provides a good cultural hiding place for...
  23. NotAllWhoWandeRN

    Going to be fired?

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to Meridian2's topic in Patient, Colleague Relations

    I wasn't in the "punked" camp until this. But in case you are serious, do not touch a thing in that building if you are not working an approved shift. Do you hear me? Do not touch a med. Do not touch...
  24. NotAllWhoWandeRN

    Stanford Rape

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    Leniency is essentially a synonym for mercy. I believe that mercy is appropriate for offenders who acknowledge the seriousness of their actions, take full responsibility for their own behavior, and...
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    Stanford Rape

    NotAllWhoWandeRN replied to brandy1017's topic in General Nursing

    I believe in mercy, but do not believe that everyone should be shown mercy. The rapist in this case has taken zero responsibility for committing sexual assault. While the victim spoke out in a...