so I recently just got hired at a new home health pediatric agency for private duty.
I'm currently working for a famiy that appears to be very friendly for the most part, I work night shift Saturday and sunday only...
the problems I'm having in particular is that after only my third day the mother gave a heartfelt story out of the blue of ALL the other nurses that didn't work out for the most part she made it appear as if it were the nurses fault.ex: being unprofessional,leaving the home without permission ,nurses freaking out because the client gb came out .....she then proceeded after ony my third day to tell me that I reminded her of her other nurse that worked with her for years but had to leave due to her going back to her country..
iv been doing pdn for quite some time so I kinda got the vibe the mother is sneaky and may appear nice on outside but gossips about the nurses to to other nurses.so it isn't a stretch that she would gossip about me
I reframed from engaging in talking about other nurses,and simply responded to her horror stories of the nurses from the past "that hopefully things sort themselves out and sorry to hear what happened".
she has a nurse that has been with her for years and to me the nurse is very comfortable supposedly she babysits her other kids on her OFF DAYS,she also has went on family vaction with them,and the mom told me she always come in a hour late but its okay to just let her know because she doesnt "dock her nurses" .the mother invited me to her church but I never went because I want my job to stay in boundaries I don't want to be a friend I want to be a nurse to the client that's why I'm here if she do ask personal questions I keep it limited and always quickly switch conversation to the client...
now forward 1 month later the parents are starting to question me ..
like tonight when I came in the father nicely asked me did I give the client a med that was due in morning ..I told him yes and even mentioned that I opened the new bottle because the old one had very little liquid medication left in bottle...
he responded "okay great" ...but minutes later down the hall I hear him telling his wife that he asked and what I had said....
another thing I noticed the day before my shift tonight was yesterday morning as I was brushing my clients hair the mother was holding her head as I brushing her hair due to her having( cerebral palsy/non verbal ) the mom holds her neck and Im usually the one that brush her hair.. yesterday my client turned her head to me as I was brushing her hair and looked back at her mom...I didn't think much of it because she does that quit often from what I see..i just smiled at her and said I'm almost done ..
but the mother looked at her and made the comment "whats wrong you can tell mommy you wont get in trouble"
I was shocked the mom said that ..my client only smiles with either her mom and dad even the nurse that orientated me that's been with the family 6 years even that night she didn't smile to her ,but I'm also getting the sense the parents feel if the daughter smiles constantly like how she do with the parents then the client must like the nurse..when in actuality I feel she doesnt really smile at the nurses voices only her parents..
sorry for long post I'm just needing advice on would you stay or leave.
