You're going to Community College?

Nursing Students Pre-Nursing

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Ok, I'm sure this isn't a new topic. I am just quite frankly surprised at a few reactions I've received. Everyone I've told, that I'm going back to school, is overwhelmingly happy that I'm doing this. A few have surprised me though. They usually follow up with, "the U of --"? I say, "I'm going to -- Community College." First it's a nose crinkle which they immediately try to mask. Then a few have said, "community college?" Which I respond with something like, "it's an excellent way to begin nursing as an RN, then I'll continue and get my BSN at a the U of - and the hospital I work for will pay for it." Depending on the look I may make a comment like "well with tuition costs and my lack of a money tree, it's the only option, and I'm very happy to be doing this!"

I guess I'm a bit surprised. I thought that the community college stigma had lessoned a bit with the reality of tuition costs sky rocketing. I think this attitude may come from the same sort of folks who make fun at people who live in mobile homes. I guess it makes them feel superior, while they provide no alternate option for those who lack the money for what they deem appropriate. So judgemental and not helpful.

As I think about it, even if the tuition cost the same, I would go the ADN route. I don't have the money to get through four years at a university. I think the community colleges work quite well for older students. It's also a smart way to go because I can let my new employer pay my tuition to complete my BSN. The large hospitals here have on site classes that they pay for their ADNs to do to get their BSNs.

Anyway, I've gotten this attitude from my next door neighbor, a BSN psych nurse, my allergist, my aunt, and a cousin. I was just so surprised and caught off guard. My first thought with my older aunt was...if you look down on what I'm doing so much why don't you bankroll me to go all they way and get my NP at the U of --, you do have millions you are sitting on, and you can't take it with you. But I digress. :roll

Enough. How do you deal with this?

Specializes in med/surg, telemetry, IV therapy, mgmt.

Just ignore them. Don't give out so much information. Or, answer a question with a question, "what college would you think I'd go to?" and toss that around in conversation, but never reveal the answer. That's how my Chinese friends would handle that. Always keep a mystery going!

Specializes in NICU/L&D, Hospice.

I guess I'm one of the lucky ones! Only my oldest sister has a degree (CC). Neither of my parents went to higher education (well, my dad swears he went to a "junior college", but hmmmmm.). Everyone is thrilled for me. Also our CC has a great reputation for quality clinical experience. I have heard that the hospitals prefer the CC over some of the Universities because of this.

One time, when I was about 22-23, my Dad called (drunk) and we got into a conversation about what job I had. I told him I was leasing apartments. His reply was "most people have graduated college by the time they're 21". I was soooo mad. I instantly replied, "ya? Well most parents pay for their childs education!" With that, I hung up on him and didn't talk to him for over 10 years. We now have an excellent relationship. Better than it has ever been. I'm even back to calling him "Daddy". He is very proud of me!

I bet those same people in your family will be calling you for medical advice VERY soon.

Woogy

Specializes in Urgent Care.

Our CC is very well respected in our area for it's nursing program. I'm proud to be attebding :)

Specializes in ER.
I am convinced that people will always have something to say my friend. I go to an expensive private college because the CC near me have a very long waiting list and this school did not. I get people tell me how crazy I am and how they are going to pay 1/3 than me etc.......

All I say is that is good for you. I don't have 3 years to waste on a waiting list. I have a family I want to start sometime soon so to each its own ;)

You have the best time of your life in school and never look back. :kiss

I agree! It doesn't matter what route you go, people have something to say about it. You can't please the world, so aim for pleasing yourself!:p

I always get the shocked expressions when people ask me if I am going to the local vo-tech, and I reply that I attend the University. Kind of an, "Oh my, aren't you too poor/old/low- class for a college education" kind of attitude. :rotfl: Also, there has been the four years of constantly getting, "so, you should be about done with school now, right?" ....Followed by surprise and comments that seem to imply that I am so thick it is taking me forever to get through school. :roll

Doesn't bother me a lick...I am thrilled to death with where I am heading!

Good luck to you!

Specializes in 5 yrs OR, ASU Pre-Op 2 yr. ER.

Try telling people you go to the local vo-tech if you REALLY want a look of pity and rejection :stone.

Specializes in ER.
Try telling people you go to the local vo-tech if you REALLY want a look of pity and rejection :stone.

Already been there, done that. Apparently that's what is more expected of me.

Specializes in 5 yrs OR, ASU Pre-Op 2 yr. ER.

Oh, people told me " i thought you were in a college, a real school". Well, yeah, it's called a tech college in the name, yo.

But yeah, i spend thousands of dollars on a pretend school :rolleyes:

Specializes in Acute Care Psych, DNP Student.

Isn't this all just so sad? Education is precious, where ever you get it from. All I personally care about is that the school is accredited and it has my approval. I understand some don't even make accreditation a requirement, but it is for my decisions about where I go.

Last night I wandered over the a "Student Doctor Forum". They were debating the merits of getting a BSN to increase your chances of getting into med school, and discussing that at least they could work a make a decent hourly wage until they do get in. They referred to nursing as 'low skilled'. A doctor said nursing is nothing more than physicial labor with low skill that a med student can pick up in days. I.E. menial tasks, starting IVs, etc. So I started fuming about that. It's the old 'physician is god' mindset.

So then I realized...some MDs are belittling the DOs. Some surgeons are belittling the family practice docs. Some RNs are belittling LPNs. Some BSNs are belittling ADNs (like my BSN neighbor who is looking down his nose at me now.) And some LPNs are looking down their noses at the patient care techs. And on and on it goes.

I have a friend who just got his JD and passed the bar exam. He is getting looked down upon by other lawyers who went to more prestigious schools. My friend has a family to support and got his JD by distance education.

And so it goes. The cycle of 'pomposity'. I know that's not a word BTW it just seems to fit.

So anyway, last night when I was reading the med students and doctor belittle nurses it was like my wakeup call. I need to get thicker skin and simply dismiss all this. Those who are actually secure in their own acheivements don't have the need to belittle mine, and others. It's as simple as that.

Specializes in 5 yrs OR, ASU Pre-Op 2 yr. ER.

I only go to Studentdoctor, when i want a dose of ignorant arrogance.

All I personally care about is that the school is accredited and it has my approval.

This is what matters.

Specializes in Geriatrics, Cardiac, ICU.

Why do you feel the need to handle these people's reactions? If you are preparing to take the same NCLEX that a BSN takes, then there is no difference. I'm going to a 4 year school, but I would have no problem going to a community college though. I honestly didn't know you could even get a two year nursing degree until I was already taking classes for a BSN. At that point I didn't feel like going backwards since I'd been in school for 2 years already.

Don't let people nay say you. If they aren't lifting you up, ignore those haters.

Specializes in home & public health, med-surg, hospice.

And so it goes. The cycle of 'pomposity'. I know that's not a word BTW it just seems to fit.

:lol2: :roll :roll :lol2: I love it and I'm adopting it! LOL

Specializes in Acute Care Psych, DNP Student.

I just looked it up in dictionary.com. Turns out pomposity is a proper word.

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