Our RN pinning ceremony is 5 1/2 wks away and we are told now that we are only allowed 4 people to come for it. Or we can barter with others for their tickets. Does this seem right? I have added the letter I submitted to our director and dean of our program. I have edited it so no one will know which college we attend. please tell me what you think. thanks
I am writing this on behalf of myself, no one else. I am not trying to cause problems or make waves or any such thing. I received a message from a fellow student, that her father had called and talked with the dean today and was told that we would be allowed to invite 4 people to graduation or we could barter with fellow students for their share of people. I am quite confused and upset by this whole situation. We have worked very hard for this, sacrificed, and put our lives on hold. Our families have also had to sacrifice as well. And now we have to tell family and friends that “I’m sorry but we are only allowed to invite 4 people to share in the celebration that the last two years were not for nothing. I am sure when you all went to your pinning ceremony it was as important to you as it was to the people in your lives. This is suppose to be one of the most important days of our lives. Myself alone have succeeded more than I ever thought I would be able to. I dropped out of school and got my GED. My friends and family want to share in this wonderful moment and celebrate this milestone in my life. There are other students that I know are in the same situations. One student has 6 children, and now she must choose who can come watch mommy? After all that we have made it through- this is what it comes to. Students who are trying to make a decision of whether or not to go to their pinning ceremony because of this situation.
Why not seek other alternatives. Renting a different center, how much could it cost? Some of us were talking today, and agreed that we would be willing to each give $20.00 to help in this cost if that is what is keeping the college from seeking an alternative location. I have close to $28,000 in loans and I would like for everyone in my life that wants to celebrate this moment with me, to be able to come. If it costs me an additional cost so those people that are important in my life to be there, than so be it. I just wish people in the college would see how important this is to us. I know it is basketball season, but to think that athletics are put ahead of academics is a sad thought. There must be something that can be done. I beg of you to please take into consideration these ideas. You know how important your pinning ceremony was to you. Please don’t let this be how our nursing careers start, with some not even going to their graduation because they are forced to choose. Thank you for taking the time to read this.
fellow classmates have talked this over, and we have checked into what renting a different venue would cost. There is a center in the town that has a theater which holds 650 people. to rent for one day is $300.00 How can this not be an option. And I don't think we should have to give cash to other students for their tickets. We don't purchase them from the college, so why should we pay someone in our class for the right to have our family and friends be there. I am married and I am aware of the cost. A lot of us are non-traditonal students, and for us, the pinning ceremony is a "big deal". I don't feel that I have to tell family members that they can't come. They have been waiting for this moment as long as I have. Also the "for nothing" doesn't pertain to the fact that if they don't get to come to the ceremony than it would be for nothing. I am talking about how our families have gone through us neglecting them for the last two years, this is their celebration too.
Ok, something doesn't add up here. You say in your letter to the university that you would be willing to pay the university extra if they would get a bigger venue however you now say that you are not willing to pay extra to the other students for extra tickets?? If it is that important to you, fork over the extra dough. You can't have it both ways. If this is important to you, you may have to sacrifice some money to make this happen. And who knows, you may not have to pay extra money, you need to start asking around for tickets and see what happens.
Yes, the ceremony is a big deal to you and that is fine. So, pardon my bluntness but stop being a drama queen and do what you can to make the most of it. I doubt the university is going to change the venue if they get a letter or two. Your best bet is to do what you can to get what you want as mentioned earlier. And, I still maintain, the celebration is not just confined to the pinning ceremony.
Our RN pinning ceremony is 5 1/2 wks away and we are told now that we are only allowed 4 people to come for it. Or we can barter with others for their tickets. Does this seem right? I have added the letter I submitted to our director and dean of our program. I have edited it so no one will know which college we attend. please tell me what you think. thanks
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I understand your disappointment, but please realize that this is not a unique situation. Not every school has a large facility in which to hold a pinning ceremony, and it's not unheard of to have to limit attendance. I have attended university graduations (where four-year diploma/degrees will be awarded on stage) where there were only four people permitted to attend per graduate. And one could argue that was a bigger deal (not me, LOL, but you get the perspective).
Anyway, my own school had such a large graduating nursing class, then when it came to the pinning ceremony, we also had four tickets per graduate. You wanted more, you asked other students who might not need as many, or any (if they weren't coming). Wasn't a big deal, really, as because of people working together, no one got left out. There was also a "lottery" type thing for a handful of extra tickets, and those got given away, too.
I honestly doubt you're going to do much to change the venue at this late a date, but I wish you well in finding out solutions to the problem!
I guess I apoligize for posting this thread. I thought a pinning ceremony was a big deal, at this college it the nursing program holds its own graduation separate from all the other programs. It sounds like graduating from college is no big deal and I guess why even go. Maybe people would feel differently if they were in our shoes, or someone they cared about was going through this.
No reason to apologize, or even to be defensive, really. We all get that graduation and pinning ARE big deals, but we also know that it's NOT always possible to accomodate every single person that you might wish to include. For example, if one person has six kids, a spouse, inlaws, grandparents, four best friends....you get the idea....why should she take up twenty seats for her 'party' when someone else is inviting four? Why should the person who is fine with four tickets HAVE to make accomodations in the way of extra fees or moving to a non-college site?
We had a big class, too, and there were a number of people who felt as you did, that they had LOTS of people to invite. But there are ALWAYS others who do not need all their tickets, so they'd give them away. PAY for them? I don't even see why that's an issue...if someone doesn't need a ticket, I think it's absurd that they expect PAYMENT for something that's useless to them, has no actual value.
We made it clear to our classmates (those of us on the pinning committee) that if they insisted on bringing too many people, more than the room accomodated, and other people who had only a few were not permitted seats because of it, we'd find them and KILL them, lol....honestly, it all worked out. Plenty of people got extra tickets from other students. Others just downsized and had their party afterward!
Thank you to those that are showing empathy towards my concerns. I was not trying to be a drama queen with this issue. By fellow students willing to pitch in $20 was so everyone could benifit if we are able to have it at another facility. I am not saying I am unwilling to ask for extra tickets, I simply did not think paying another student should be something to consider. Then it becomes an issue of someone making money by selling their tickets to the highest bidder. I will take all your considerations into account, and mention them to everyone. I really wasn't trying get someone hot by posting this thread. again thank you for the time you took to read this.
Put up a sign up sheet- who is going, how many tickets do they want?
You may not be far over your limit- and it will help with the swapping negotiations. But you will have a decent head count and can research other facilities. Then have a class meeting and take a vote- are they willing to pay so much a head to rent the larger room, or will they stay with the 4 per person limit for free?
There will be no way to make everyone happy...be ready for that. It sounds like you will need to move quickly and be organized.
We had a similar problem with our pinning ceremony. Our gymnasium was being redone, our new theater was not completed, we needed to go out side to a local church and were limited to 4 tickets per person due to the size of our class that semester. Pinnings were done by semester class, not by graduating class. It may not seem fair, but if everyone is limited the same way, then that's what you have to work with.
If you are able to use the other venue, and the school clears it (may not happen due to insurance issues) go for it. However, I warn you...collecting the money will not be that easy. Although you may be a non-traditional student, those who are younger are not going to attach the same feelings to this as an older student who has made sacrifices or life changes to become a nurse.
I don't think anyone thinks this is no big deal, I organized my pinning and our class did more than any other, including a reception. To be honest, I remember it with fondness, but it seems a lifetime ago. (May 2006).
I understand it is important for families to be together, but if you have to be limited. Accept it, enjoy what you've accomplished, and have a party afterwards.
Whatever the outcome, congratulations on your accomplishment! Good luck to you and your class.
I guess I apoligize for posting this thread. I thought a pinning ceremony was a big deal, at this college it the nursing program holds its own graduation separate from all the other programs. It sounds like graduating from college is no big deal and I guess why even go. Maybe people would feel differently if they were in our shoes, or someone they cared about was going through this.
Hey now, we all know this is and should be a big deal. I think what people are saying is that it is what it is. Far back as I can remember all graduations in my family have had limits,even my own childrens. My god child graduated a few years ago from nursing school,she is one of 5 kids,two parents and all they got was 5 tickets. What can u do. A post party,video cam, and lots of memories will get ya through. Do not ruin the day by getting upset about something u have so little control over. Congradulations and good luck,who knows ,,,,,u might win!
We graduated with the rest of the college and it was held on the football field so there was no limit to how many people came.
Our pinning was not affiliated with the college at all and was held at the Elk's lodge and even though there was a supposed limit, we invited as many as we wanted and it worked out fine.
Our nursing program actually tried to get us NOT to have a pinning . . .it was supposedly NOT professional.
Well, my college only has one pinning ceremony a yr because they are small and so I am going to go through that 5 months before I actually graduate from the program!
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Ok, something doesn't add up here. You say in your letter to the university that you would be willing to pay the university extra if they would get a bigger venue however you now say that you are not willing to pay extra to the other students for extra tickets?? If it is that important to you, fork over the extra dough. You can't have it both ways. If this is important to you, you may have to sacrifice some money to make this happen. And who knows, you may not have to pay extra money, you need to start asking around for tickets and see what happens.
Yes, the ceremony is a big deal to you and that is fine. So, pardon my bluntness but stop being a drama queen and do what you can to make the most of it. I doubt the university is going to change the venue if they get a letter or two. Your best bet is to do what you can to get what you want as mentioned earlier. And, I still maintain, the celebration is not just confined to the pinning ceremony.