Please Stop Telling Me "You'll be fine."

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I keep making the mistake of attempting to discuss my apprehension about my impending new career with people who are not nurses. I start June 4. The first four days are total cake (classroom orientation on hospital policy), but after that we all know the awkward, sometimes embarassing, humility-inspiring process that lay ahead. I'm just so nervous. I keep running through different scenarios and how I should handle them (a premature exercise for the most part, since I haven't been oriented to the floor's protocols). I'm thinking about the ways I should handle myself at work, and how to navigate tricky work relationships.

My hubby is really psyched about my starting work, primarily because it pays double what I was making before and will give our family definite financial stability. That's great, yeah. But he talks about my starting this new job like it's just any other job. Despite my attempts to explain it to him, he continues to fail to understand that a tough road lay ahead for me. "You'll be fine" he says. That's not what I need from you, buddy.

Phew, anyway. Any and all advice appreciated!

My guess is that the OP considers the orientation a "total cake" in terms of stress level because there is no patient care involved, not because she doesn't plan to pay attention.

Specializes in ICU.

"You'll be fine" he says. That's not what I need from you, buddy.

OK, how about this one:

"Yup, you're doomed. Totally doomed. Might as well give up right now."

Now isn't that better?:lol2:

Specializes in Med-Surg/Tele, ER.
i can't help but think that the road ahead of you might be even tougher if you continue to think that the first four days of your new job are "total cake". beside the fact that you'll probably be sitting on your rump for most of those four days, although not necessarily, let me assure you that some of those scenarios you're going to have to handle will be based in part in what you learn in that four-day cake walk of an orientation. the facility wouldn't be paying anyone to sit around for 4 days if the information wasn't important for you to know. my suggestions: take notes. don't get involved in the gossip mills, put your nursing textbooks where you can get to them when you get home from work so you can look up stuff and start thinking about ways to manage your time on the job. time management and organizing will be a career long pursuit.

the first four days are all-hospital orientation, meaning myself and other departments receive the same hospital-wide orientation. so, yeah. i do consider those days to be a cakewalk. i can sit in a room and take notes on hospital-wide policy. boring and easy.

after the initial 4 days of orientation i go to the floor. then the hard stuff begins.

Specializes in picc certified.

Big deep breath anxiety only reminds you to be diligent and after 18 yrs in icu cvor there are days I still get anxious now from knowing whats coming instead of reacting to what happened,whjen all else fails remember #! air goes in and out,#2 blood goes round and round #3 02 is good do those three and everything else sorts itself out so to speak.evryday brings a knew challenge thats part of what makes nursing a cool deal allways something coming aroundvthe bend.Hang in there the day comes when you know you can deal with it.good luck.

Specializes in Med-Surg/Tele, ER.

Well, we're finally done with hospital orientation. Phew! Now for more nursing-related orientation...

I just started my 5th week on the floor...It really isn't that bad...

The first day I followed the other nurse around and completely observed

The second day I did morning assessments and filled out flow sheets

The third day I administered medications

The fourth day I wrote progress notes

Etc...

Every day you will pick up one more thing...Don't try to do everything at once!! Go in there confident and it will all fall into place!!! Nursing is hard, but not brain surgery!!!! You passed nursing school and you passed the boards, so now its time to apply everything you KNOW into real life...(And a palm pilot helps lol)

And don't be afraid to ASK QUESTIONS!!!

Specializes in Community Health, Med-Surg, Home Health.

I will not say that everything will be okay, but I will say that you will SURVIVE. We all make mistakes; that is part of learning. Just be sure to ask before you act. There is usually SOMEBODY who is willing to mentor you and keep a keen eye open for who that person will be. I was a total goof-ball at first. All of that reading, and now, suddenly taking the responsibility for all of that is SCARY. But, you have to step into the cold water, or even dive into that cold water in order to gain experience.

Most people that are not into nursing do not realize the responsibility and the weight of someone else's life in your hands. Even our spouses can be totally unaware, unless they are in the field themselves. Good luck!

Specializes in LTC.

I couldn't help but to laugh at this thread! But Breath in through your nose and out through your mouth.. Smell the roses and Blow out the candles (my instructors thoughts on pursed lip breathing) It is very stressful starting a new job no matter what the field you are in or what position you are in. Be it nursing or fast food. But after a few months you will find your own path and your own routine and will make the best of what you have in front of you. Or at least that is my hope for everyone. And to the people that tell you that "You'll be fine" just be understanding that they don't know what it is like to have life/death staring in their face asking you to make that choice. And maybe that is the only response that they know to give you at that very moment. JMHO Mary

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