Please help me...Do you think I'll get kicked out of nursing school?

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The story is that I was in class and we were discussing a powerpoint. The teacher asks us to look at the powerpoint question and asks us a question. However the question on the power point was not congruent with the question she was asking us. I abruptly said "Wrong question sister." A little background in Hawaii culture, since this did happen in Hawaii, "Sister, or Sistah" has the same meaning as a guy calling his best friend "bro." She immediately picked up on this and responded with "What did you call me." I quickly apologized and said I'm sorry. I meant no harm in any way. It was not said to be demeaning or derogatory. I feel extremely sorry. I don't know why I said this, I just felt so comfortable with her and I didn't mean to hurt her feelings. I didn't mean want to cause any harm. I already have gotten a email from her stating that she wants to meet me in her office. I called her and I left a msg asking if I could speak to her immediately. Please you guys, do you think this is on any grounds for a expulsion from Nursing School. Btw did I mention she's on the board chair for our Nursing school. I feel bad :(:eek:

Was it low blood sugar? lol.... what you did is disrespectful.

Just show up with flowers and an apology card and apologize. Hopefully, she accepts it. I don't think she can kick you out of NS, but she can make your life a lot harder.

Flowers fix mostly everything. Just show up with yellow ones or some color that signifies friendship. Don't forget to apologize. Just tell her that- you had VERY LOW blood sugar that day and you only had an hour of sleep which made you loopy! :) ---- She'll probably laugh it off, assuming she is in a good mood that day.

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Do you think the flowers is kinda too much lol? Idk do you think I should really make a card as well? I feel bad but idk if I'm doing too much....I've been thinking about this constantly

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You get the flowers for four reasons:

1. To sweeten the pot, so she'll know you're sincere.

2. So, you won't have to apologize profusely. Let the flowers do most of the apologizing for you.

3. They don't have to be pricey, just buy something that will brighten up her office and give more of a welcoming fragrance to it.

4. Chose colors that say- friendship. For example, white, yellow and with combinations. Just something that you would want to have for your office, something with a good scent.

OR, you can just buy the plastic ones. If she doesn't like to water anything!

OR, just buy a PLANT in a pot that she can put on her desk (a fake or real plant). You can forget about the card if you want.

I don't know, what you did was just unreal. I would be embarrassed to say anything like that.

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Wow I'm really considering this...I just need more advice as to what I should say

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I dunno... I'm just winging this, since it is 3AMish right now. But, I would say something like --

I'm sorry that I said what I said, it's just that I feel more comfortable with you compared to other instructors. I wasn't thinking at all. Due to my low blood sugar problem and having just an hour of sleep last night, I had been semi-loopy. Ever since I started NS, I had been loopy most of the time. I know it's not an excuse, but I just feel more comfortable with you. Saying what I said to you, was more of a friendly gesture. I'm sorry, it won't happen again. In fact, I'll sit and listen to you a lot more from now on. I'll try to think first before I open my mouth. I'm sorry.

P.S. Ask me again in a few days, maybe I can come up with something better. This is what I can come up with at 342AM (my time).

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Haha thanks this sounds great I'll let you know what happens... Hypoglycemia is such a nursing excuse lol

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I think I have that. I've never been diagnosed for it, so obviously I don't take any meds relating to that. But, I have to admit -- if I haven't eaten for a long time and I haven't had enough sugar, sometimes, I do get a little dizzy.

But, it only happens when I'm running really low on sugar -- which rarely happens. Low blood sugar can be a legitimate excuse, not often though.

Anyway, goodluck. Ya never know, flowers/plant may just work. Hey, it's been fun. But, I gotta go and eat some cereal (Kelloggs baby! Yay!). I just can't sleep tonight, good thing I'm off tomorrow. My night owl nature is popping up again, lol.

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Well I don't have advice because you've probably already spoken with her. I hope it went well! I always have to learn things the hard way...this sounds like a situation where you might have to do the same...sorry!:hug:

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Hard lesson learned, sorry girl, just watch your mouth in the future. Explain you didn't realize it was inappropriate until AFTER you said it. Let us know what happens.

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In my opinion flowers and excuses (particularly one that isn't true) are going to make you look like a kiss azz and a manipulator. A genuine apology will go further than any conjured up gestures. If you didn't have low blood sugar, don't say you did. Say you were feeling a good rapport with her, enjoying her class and her personality and simply forgot yourself for a moment and that it will never happen again.

Flowers, while nice, may flag you out as someone who tries to manipulate their way past their mistakes rather than own up to them. Save the flowers for after graduation and give them as a means of thanking her for giving you a second chance to prove yourself.

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Flowers, while nice, may flag you out as someone who tries to manipulate their way past their mistakes rather than own up to them. Save the flowers for after graduation and give them as a means of thanking her for giving you a second chance to prove yourself.

I think the flowers would be nice -- and not seen as manipulative. Manipulation, by its very nature, is sneaky. Bringing flowers would not be sneaky. It would be an outward, openly acknowleged token of apologize. Such a gesture is common in diplomacy and usually considered socially acceptable as long as the token gift is not excessive ... and as long as it is not given as a bribe or direct payment for services.

Personally, I'm not sure if I would do the flowers or not ... but if one of my students brought a SMALL bouquet in that situation and seemed very sincere in her apology, I would take it in a positive way and not a negative way.

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Go in there, take her tongue-lashing, don't interrupt her, then end it with, "I agree it was disrespectful. You've made me feel very comfortable in class, and I really don't know what came over me. My only explanation is that my mouth engaged before my brain did. I apologize, and it won't happen again."

I really think that's all you need to say, because it's the absolute truth...along with making sure it doesn't happen again!

No flowers. Please. No flowers.

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