Penalized for Improper Outfit. Help!

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I am currently a Nursing Assistant and I will be graduating Nursing School next week. I had a little incident at work that it may damage my future professional reputation. About a year ago, my Nurse Manager called me to tell me I was due to renew my CPR license as part of the hospital requirements. She told me to report myself that following Saturday morning for a few hours to renew my certification. Honestly, I did not make a big deal out of it, so I wake up that Saturday Morning and wore a Sweat Pants Suit. I did not even bother to put any make up on since I thought it was not a formal thing. When I arrived that Morning, I realized that it was just not CPR, it was also an "In service" for the organization. I saw other people dressed in jeans and flip pops so, once again, I was not too alarmed. I was waiting to be sent home and reschedule, but that was not the case.

4 months later, my nurse manager called me into her office to tell me about the sweat pants incident. I was in shock because why tell me about it 4 months later? I admitted to it and assumed all responsibility. She replied back to me, "I hope they forget about that." The following week this nurse manager transferred to another facility and was replaced by another nurse manager. While all this was happening, I was in the middle of changing from per diem to part time. The New nurse manager told me that everything in my record was excellent, except the "sweat pants incident" and that it might hold me against the position as a nurse assistant part time. I asked her if this incident was in my work record, and she told me NO. The reason why she was aware of it was because my old nurse manager told her before she left. I was never discipline or signed any written report. She told me that the president of the hospital email the old nurse manager about the incident, but no further action was required. Her words were, "do not worry; they have bigger fish to catch." So I left it alone, while some people in the unit were rumoring about this. I was wondering how the rumor has spread, since I did not tell anyone. However, I ended up with the part time position.

Well, now a year later. I emailed the nurse recruiter about a possible position as a nurse that I am interested in. she replied back that I must pass my NCLEX first in order to apply. I found it weird because all my classmates had positions before they graduated. But, fair enough, I agreed to that. Now, last night, my assistant nurse manager told me that I am a great worker with an excellent work ethic, but if something is going to hold me back from a job in that institution is that incident with the outfit. I asked her how did she find out about this and she told me that my old nurse manager told her before she left!!!

My question is, if this is not in my permanent work record and all of this information about the incident was communicated between managers and got spread to other people (possibly Nursing Administration), this can damage my reputation. I did not get a chance to explain myself and /or apologize. Can this incident indirectly hold me back from getting a nursing position? I have a feeling it will. All the hard work I have put into my education and this organization are going down the drain. All I have to say is, you live and learn. I hope is not too late for me.

Specializes in Emergency, Telemetry, Transplant.

I cannot believe the president of the hospital emailed your NM over the 'sweatpants' incident. I just can't believe that is true. So either: 1. (as someone already mentioned) if the president of the hospital is wasting time over such trivial incidents, well then, you may not want to work for that hospital; or 2. (as Ruby mentioned) there is a whole lot more to this than just that you were wearing sweats. There basically has to be more to it if so many people are willing to make such a big deal of something that seems like nothing.

Also, I wanted to echo what Ruby said. Every time you show up at your place of work for a work related function, dress professionally (by the way, the fact you didn't wear make up is totally inconsequential one way or the other), whether it be your assigned shift, a meeting, a class, an inservice, etc. Unless the flyer for the class, etc. specially says 'staff may wear jeans and a t-shirt to this class,' dress professionally--even your work scrubs are appropriate for certain situations, such as a CPR class. Also, never ever ever (never!!) wear anything that is controversial or even in the least bit inappropriate, such as a low cut top, a shirt with a vulgar saying on it, etc. You are judged every time you are there. Every time HR or you manager sees you, they are evaluating you. This is especially important if you want to advance your career by becoming an RN at this hospital.

This incident may seem unfair, but, as future professional nurse, you had to know better. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but it's reality.

Specializes in Emergency, ICU.
Is this spam? I would swear that I've read this exact same post a long time ago.

I read that thread too. Looks like OP got herself another user ID and started this thread again. Honestly, I have a VERY hard time believing any of this.

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Specializes in Emergency, Telemetry, Transplant.
Honestly, I have a VERY hard time believing any of this.

I can believe some of it: this person got in trouble for wearing sweats to something at work.

What I don't believe: the president got involved*, the outgoing NM made a point of telling the incoming NM of this incident*, the assistance manager is talking about the incident a year later*, people are "rumoring" about it*.

(*I do believe these if there is more to the story than the OP is telling us, such as the outfit was had a vulgar saying on it, the outfit revealed too much, or the outfit was otherwise inappropriate).

Specializes in Vents, Telemetry, Home Care, Home infusion.

Having been involved in similar incidents with my staff, I can relate with the OP. Some religious institutions and upper management have very straight laced ideas of what is appropriate attire to be worn while attending a work function on or off site. Having the CEO mention to you that you need to write-up staff for inappropriate attire (a pretty denium dress) while they came for CPR class or that a mans shirt was outside their pants (summer Poloshirt) both instances violation of dress code can be used in deciding which candidate is able to advance up the ranks. I was even chided by a manger in a different department for hiring staff with tatoos (non visable with winter attire but very visable on arms and chest with summer short-sleeve dress). None of the clothing outfits bothered me in the least as I focus on the overall care and work effort staff provide. Couseling memos have remained in my Manager files, not forwarded to HR unless second incident occurs. Along with discussion at orientation, yearly I send out dress code policy and review at staff meetings spring/winter just to keep it fresh in staff meinds as conservative work setting.

Apologizing and laying low is best course over fresh incidents. Since incident is still brought up 4yrs later, may need to look at different facility if management has not changed.

Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
Having been involved in similar incidents with my staff, I can relate with the OP. Some religious institutions and upper management have very straight laced ideas of what is appropriate attire to be worn while attending a work function on or off site. Having the CEO mention to you that you need to write-up staff for inappropriate attire (a pretty denium dress) while they came for CPR class or that a mans shirt was outside their pants (summer Poloshirt) both instances violation of dress code can be used in deciding which candidate is able to advance up the ranks. I was even chided by a manger in a different department for hiring staff with tatoos (non visable with winter attire but very visable on arms and chest with summer short-sleeve dress). None of the clothing outfits bothered me in the least as I focus on the overall care and work effort staff provide. Couseling memos have remained in my Manager files, not forwarded to HR unless second incident occurs. Along with discussion at orientation, yearly I send out dress code policy and review at staff meetings spring/winter just to keep it fresh in staff meinds as conservative work setting.

Apologizing and laying low is best course over fresh incidents. Since incident is still brought up 4yrs later, may need to look at different facility if management has not changed.

That denim dress may have been pretty and perfectly appropriate for a staff meeting, but when you're down on the floor with the mannikens may have been too revealing. And a dress is almost never appropriate for a CPR class.

Specializes in HH, Peds, Rehab, Clinical.

The PRESIDENT of the hospital has immersed themselves in sweatpants-gate?! Hmmmmm, forgive my skepticism....

A sweatsuit, no matter how cute/classy/conservative/"you think is appropriate" is NEVER the right choice for a work-related function. Were you being compensated for the inservice? That's a good question to ask yourself in the future. If the answer is "yes" then NO to the sweatsuit!

Specializes in Clinical Research, Outpt Women's Health.

This is a strange one for sure. If true ridiculous. I f there is more tot he story then useless to respond I guess.

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