Other Students Repeatedly Asking me for things....

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Hello! I need to ask some advice. I'm currently (obviously) taking a class. In this said class I have some people who are in attendance & are doing the same things I'm doing but they are repeatedly asking me for copies of my notes & other things.

I'm highly annoyed, I work full-time, have a child, manage the same things they do & the sense of entitlement to what essentially is my time in very bothersome to me.

Any advice on how to handle this situation? I'd like to be respectful. (I'm also irritated because I had to miss a class & am having health issues! I don't like coming up to "please send the notes" as if I'm the company secretary and am expected to have things ready at beckon call)

Thank you guys! I wish my handwriting was lovely. But no, I use my laptop & write on the PP in onenote. At first, one lady asked for copies of me recording (then it turned out she was recording also! I asked her why do you want mine?!) she thought it was funny.

I sent copies of my PP for 2 chapters previously but now it's like send the next 4! Um, no, I was trying to be respectful but I don't think so now. I don't like it b/c I'm thinking, you're here as much as me. You sit in the same class as me, & now you're asking me to find time to reformat & email YOU my notes. Which by the way frequently say things like "muffin man" which you don't understand from the 1st time.

Why try to browbeat me into it? I was trying to be nice b/c I will likely see these people later on, but I don't know if I care about that now.... only through the end of July for this class. And niether are in my next classes so. (I believe the big issue is that the class did poorly on the test but I did very well. But that's because I read the ******* chapters!)

Your laptop is making you a target. That's why. I stopped taking my laptop with me because for one, I'm scared it may get stolen, and two, it makes you a target for students--they think you are a smartypants know it all who is very organized and they're trying to leech off of you. When I first got my laptop I had this girl who was so fascinated by how nice it looked that she would sit next to me everyday, and try to use it to look up stuff on the internet while in class. And she also put her greasy fingers on it leaving fingerprits marks on my brand new computer screen. I take no more than what i need when I go to lecture now

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ok,I have to ask...what does muffin man mean?

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I understand where you're coming from. All of the responses re good ones. I wouldn't have a problem charging them for the notes. Of course, part of me would want to teach them a lesson and send them the notes, but pass then through an on-line translator first. Can they understand Swahili (or use some other language)?

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perhaps they have some type of disability that hinders them from taking their own notes during class (adhd, etc.). my wife takes notes in her classes and gives them to the students with disabilities office. in return she receives $50 gift card for the student book store per term per class. my wife uses a netbook to take notes, since she has MS and it is difficult for her to write out her notes. just something to think about. not all people are lazy and just want to suck the life out of someone else. it's very hard for some people to ask for help and tell the other person why they need it.

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If someone misses a class and asks me to let them borrow the notes, yes, I would probably let them borrow it for that class period so they can copy. But if they do not want to take notes at all and rely on me taking it for them, no, I don't think so. Some one posted here that if you are in a nursing program, it should be about team work and helping one another out. I think that's very true. Exchanging notes assures that you did not miss anything said in the lecture, but using you to get notes for lectures is a big no no. Just have to set your limit and know when to say No.

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I like helping other students out and so far this has been the norm, but I hate to admit now that I am in the last class (and hardest for most people) before I apply to the nursing program I am getting a little leery of helping out other people. Its very competitive and I may be helping keep myself out of the program by boosting someone elses grades!

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perhaps they have some type of disability that hinders them from taking their own notes during class (adhd, etc.). my wife takes notes in her classes and gives them to the students with disabilities office. in return she receives $50 gift card for the student book store per term per class. my wife uses a netbook to take notes, since she has MS and it is difficult for her to write out her notes. just something to think about. not all people are lazy and just want to suck the life out of someone else. it's very hard for some people to ask for help and tell the other person why they need it.

I should clarify that the students who I will not help are usually skipping multiple classes. I have a hard time helping anyone who tells me that she is skipping class to study for another class or doesn't wish to drive in inclement weather. I've helped out other students who seem to put forth effort (i.e. showing up to class, taking notes, asking questions, participating).

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How about not sharing notes? Kindly tell them that, sorry you'd rather not share your notes with them and if they need help with note taking skills or finding out what they missed in class or couldn't understand,that you wouldn't mind assisting them with that. Most people would say no I know how to take notes but I just...fill in the blank here with whatever excuse they give you.

This is a tip for other people too because I see people in my nursing program do this all the time. In the beginning of the semester, since you have to read so many chapters a week, a couple of people in class will email note outlines of a chapter. Then all of a sudden, because they were so kind for doing that, everyone will ask them for outlines until you could tell they didn't want to feel like doing these 'mandatory' outlines for everyone just because they were kind of enough to send one in the beginning.

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My instructor use to tell me if someone is gonna ask for your notes who doesn't do the hard work as you, then make them pay you for them if you are willing to let them use them :) lol!

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Hiya! Thanks everyone for your opinions & points of view. Sorry for the delay, I had another test in this particular class. I just didn't even reply to the email "demanding" notes. I do think it's a little of what poster "cherish" was saying. I'd previously sent my notes in PDF format (to be nice) one week & I didn't get a thank-you or anything other than being told to send it in a different format. :confused: ummmm, nooo... plus there were jokes being made about "wth is up with the muffin man?"

Ahahaha hilarious, but everyone who was laughing got D's & F's after the curve. I don't know what's so funny.

p-medic = no one has a (discernable) disability. They seem very capable, they just like to ask for things I guess. And no, when I missed a lab they have not offered their notes (even though I asked. They were like "yeah ok whatever but are you gonna send me....")

Birry - if someone was bringing me Jumba Juice everyday, heck yeah I'll share whatever you want! :yeah: but no. There's been nothing exchanged to date. So far only me apparantly messing up in the beginning to send something once. No reciprocity in any way.

I contemplated trying to start up a study group with them at one time but I can't shake the feeling that I would have to have EVERYTHING prepared. Not as if I could say, ok, you rev'w chapt 5, 6, etc. That's a waste of my time and after how they were acting yesterday, (and I know I may be being callous) that's time I could be using to study.

Anne36 - I'm with you! I actually don't mind sharing but I need it to be more of a "meeting of the minds" type thing. where at least the ppl I'm sharing with have the same or better grasp on different things than me. What class are you in now?

I think for me its the tone of expectation and the way they're "commanding" me to give them something. The best notes are your own. Reading my notes aren't going to help you get my A. Iiiiiii did that. The last time I sent them notes 1 person complained saying that I hardly wrote anything on the slides. Umm, well yeah, I write notes down for things I didn't understand or needed clarity in. Thus my "AHA!" moment. Salient points, etc, etc - not everything that comes out the teachers mouth.

The Bell Jar - "the muffin man" is how I sum up in a nutshell what satellitism of two microbes looks like on a streak plate. Seems CRAZYYYYY but actually makes sense when you look at it. (And if you know who the muffin man is I guess)

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Yup, I agree... the best notes are my own.

I only share my notes to people I know and who are nice to me. People that I know will let me copy their notes, if I miss a class.

I am nice but I'm not a doormat. If you're too nice to people, sometimes, they tend to take advantage of you. I have done that in the past myself, but I do try to fix my mess and/or if I've appeared as taking advantage of someone -- I try to fix it.

It's a little hard sometimes to have a conscience. Sometimes, I wish I didn't care at all (haha, we all have that impish side, don't we?).

Just try to be nice, hopefully you can find someone (or people) who will reciprocate that "niceness" and then, before you know it -- you'll be friends. Ya'll can talk about how nursing schools sucks (just kiddin'). Being nice is also a way to find good people. Let the b*t** side of you come out when needed. Otherwise, play nice. Be mean if you have to be. Some people just suck and don't know how to play nice.

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I had a similar issue with one of my classmates, although it was over a recorder. I had purchased a recorder to help me study so when my classmate found out he wanted me to email him a file "to see how the quality was". Well, I did that then he had the nerve to tell me to send him EVERY lecture. I never replied to his emails and finally he went out and bought his own. There were some classmates that asked me to send them a file if they were gone....that is understandable. I'm not going to dish out money and then send you every lecture! I'm just glad he got the picture!!!

Good job on not sending them the PP notes.....I wouldn't either! ANd CONGRATS on your A!

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