I went and bought Saunders yesterday. I took the Assessment quiz. I would like someone to please tell me the rationale behind this question because I cannot understand how anyone in their right mind could choose this as the correct answer.
The question is this:
A 63-year-old woman whose husband died 2 months ago says to the visiting nurse, "My daughter came over yesterday to help me move my husband's things out of our bedroom, and I was so angry with her for moving his slippers from where he always kept them under his side of our bed. She doesn't know how much I'm hurting." Which statement by the nurse would be therapeutic?
1. "It's OK to grieve and be angry with your daughter and anyone else for a time."
2. "I know just how you feel because I lost my husband last summer."
3. "Although it's a troubling time for you, try to focus on your children and grandchildren."
4. "You need to focus on the many good years you both enjoyed together and move on."
Rationale: The therapeutic statement is the one that gives the client permission to grieve and acknowledges that anger is part of loss and that it may be aimed at the people who are trying most to help and are closest. Options 2, 3, and 4, are all non-therapeutic. They do not encourage the client to express feelings. :argue:
First of all, this does not take into account anyone else's feelings but the grieving wife. Venting anger at people that are probably suffering and hurting in many cases equal to the wife over a misplaced pair of shoes is the absolute worst thing that woman could do. Not only does she risk cutting off the people that love her leaving her with no one but she can severely damage these relationships for many years to come. How stupid is that to suggest that it is "ok to be angry with these folks that are trying to help her?" Anger is one of the most damaging, hurtful aspects of our interactions with people and I think it would have been better to have said something like this, "It's OK to grieve, but keep in mind that everyone is hurting over this person that must have been so important to your family." In reality, I have seen nurses intervene to communicate these needs to the family and it helps to avert the damage that anger could have potentially caused. Anger should be reserved for something that is really an issue. How many people in the real world would be able to resolve this in their minds afterward and say, "Oh, I understand that she was just angry over the loss of her husband and she loved me enough to vent on me over a pair of shoes I was trying to put away." Like nobody.
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Vera