Someone Please talk to ME....I am Brokenhearted - page 5
A tough, difficult weekend in OB for me.....we had a 23-week lady (hx infertility x6 years) come in with "just a few cramps and pink tinged mucus" for evaluation. She was smiling, and very very... Read More
Apr 13, '04Occupation: LVN Specialty: 4 year(s) of experience in oncology ; Joined: Aug '03; Posts: 160; Likes: 9That patient was fortunate to have such a compassionate nurse. I lost a baby at 25 weeks and went through many miscarriages. I could never work in L&D for this reason. It still hurts too much (and it's been 8 years). I really admire you. Do not worry about the tears. They are not a sign of weakness - you are a great nurse doing a difficult job with real compassion.
Apr 15, '04Occupation: Labor,delivery and newborn care Joined: Sep '03; Posts: 14Deb-my thoughts and prayers are with you! I am so sorry for your loss-and for the loss of your patient and her family. I too, have experienced loss-5 miscarriges.. I hear so many people say-Why still try..etc. Well, for the same reason I stay in OB-the birth of a child is a gift- And being blessed with seeing and being a part of this gift (even if it is not our gift) while at work, somehow makes me feel better. At first, I thought it would be like rubbing salt in a fresh wound-but no,not really. I am RTS trained-It is a wonderful program. Experiencing loss ourselves, makes you more comfortable in another persons shoes-you know the pain..It is a gift to have empathy-even at the expense of sadness.. The pain eventually moves on, but as you know there is an empty spot-never quite filled. That spot remains for us to remember the lovely little life(s) that we never met, but also to pass on any little bit of help we can muster from what we have experienced. If OB is your calling-your gift, do not cheat yourself-or your patients from all the wisdom you have. I see your posts all the time, you appear to be such a bright star--take time for you! Take care of you!
Apr 15, '04Joined: Apr '02; Posts: 38,763; Likes: 16,343thank you all for helping me fill my well. I am doing better today, with a few days and space from it all. I have had time to think about things and to talk to my therapist about how I feel and it sure helped. Much more, it helped to reach out to human beings such as yourselves who KNOW how this feels and had such kind and thoughtful words for me. I can't say thank you enough, each of you, for being there in my time of need. I am still teary about it, but I am functioning ok and know I will hang in there. You guys are the BEST, what else can I possibly say?
Apr 15, '04Joined: Mar '03; Posts: 610; Likes: 529Smiling,
Your strength shines thru. I know the pain of loosing a child, and hope that when I'm a "grown up nurse" I can be as strong and caring as you are. It's okay to go home and cry, it's okay to cry with your patients and their families.
Apr 15, '04Occupation: RN, MS home health Joined: Aug '02; Posts: 7,472; Likes: 49Blue eyes I am so sorry for your family in crisis who lost their child. I too know that pain. I commend you for helping them and I am sorry you have experienced the same heartbreak.