My husband has always wanted to be a police officer and this past year has turned his life into something a little more meaningful...he has stayed focused, lost 80lbs, started college online and is in the best shape of his life. Plus our marriage has really been great this past year. We've both done things to be better people and happier with our selves and it has done wonders for us.
He was offered a position in the Detention center here in our county but unfortunately turned it down because of the schedule it was like 5 12's with 3 off (INSANE)! well now our local police dept has selected him to go into the second process of the recruitment which is like a 30 page info packet to fill out, lie detector, physical.
I would be absolutely thrilled for him to do what he wants to do, he has always been supportive over my nursing.
The only concern I have is a lot of people have told us that cops and nurses have a high divorce rate?
We've been together 10yrs and while yes we have normal problems when you are around someone non-stop all the time...we have a strong marriage, no lying, no secrets, no infidelity.
If they're are nursing and cop marriages on here....do you have any advice?
How do you manage your schedules to see each other and your kids? (we have 1 daughter who is 9)
Specializes in BNAT instructor, ICU, Hospice,triage.
I think that there are a lot of good things, because you will both be understanding of what its like to work shift work. And its nice you can have your own weekends together during the week when the rest of the world is working their tails off
Nurses and cops have the most stressful jobs, so both careers do have higher divorce rates.
DH and I used to try to get the same nights off and it was fun to be together. I think you REALLY need to be intentional in your marriage, put a lot into it and you will reap benefits of a great relationship.
Both see the nastier side of humanity and can relate.
My ex-husband was a computer nerd and our eyes glazed over when we talked about our work. He also hated my "black humor" wherein I laughed at the horrid things I would see (because it was better to laugh than cry). He didn't get it.
I just got back together with my boyfriend who was a cop for 20+ years and is now a PI. We understand each other much better and we appreciate each other's stories. We can vent together.
We are both good listeners and keen observers of people.
We both seem odd to other people who have average 9 to 5 jobs and this was driven home when we dated other people outside of law enforcement and nursing.
Specializes in Spinal Cord injuries, Emergency+EMS.
I know a fair few Nurse / Emergency services worker couples as well as Nurse / nurses and ESW/ESW couples it goes with the territory while you might not always see a huge amount of each other the other factors are a good fit.
I'm in nursing school now, finishing up semester one to become an RN. And my boyfriend has been NYPD for ever 5 years. 1, I couldn't be more proud of him, 2 I am learning more about the force, and love to get to learn interesting new stories, and 3, we both have crazy schedules together! It's better for both or neither to have crazy schedules, not one or the other. For a millennial, I think its best that we don't see each other every day, married or not. We are so easily distracted, and bored easily that it our crazy schedules help strengthen our relationship and reduce our chance of arguments from being in each others face every day. I work full time and am in school part time and also have to devote a huge amount of time to study. His schedule changes every 4 or 5 months from night shift or day shift (cops call shifts tours) and I love that because he is someone I don't feel like I have to cater to in the relationship because he gets it that I don't have a whole lot of time. I hope that one day he proposes and we get married because I think our personalities above all are a perfect match, but I also feel like our varied schedules will work out just perfectly.
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I think that there are a lot of good things, because you will both be understanding of what its like to work shift work. And its nice you can have your own weekends together during the week when the rest of the world is working their tails off
Nurses and cops have the most stressful jobs, so both careers do have higher divorce rates.
DH and I used to try to get the same nights off and it was fun to be together. I think you REALLY need to be intentional in your marriage, put a lot into it and you will reap benefits of a great relationship.