Nursing Niceness

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This website has allowed me to post freely about questions concerning my personal journey to nursing school. Before I ever became a nursing student, I was a human being. While I have realized that while using this site is beneficial in the sense of communication, I have also experienced that it opens the door for scrutiny of your personal life. It was a true eye opener for me, because I find myself guilty of judging other people as well. I accept that sometimes we are right in our judgment, but sometimes we are also wrong. I reached out to several people about my attempt to go to nursing school with a misdemeanor assault from over seven years ago that resulted after an argument where I waved my finger in someone's face. Yes, it happened.. YES I admitted my guilt because I DID wave my finger very closely to his face, and I also realize now that it was wrong. Instead of response to my question.. I was given advice on what I should have done seven years ago. Well unfortunately, there is no time machine that would allow such a thing, so I do not understand how that would help. Anyway, I spoke with a very kind director that went the extra mile to find that I would be clear for my minimal misdemeanor :up:, and also received a callback from the BON who also said I would be fine in my circumstance. I face much adversity being I am an over 6ft tall male that has ASSAULT (even though its simple assault) everyone sees ASSAULT on my record and often insinuate that I must have pummeled someone. My point of this is everyone knows what it feels like to be judged.. especially off of your past, but simple assault does not define me.. it defines my criminal history. My history also includes military service and a college education. I am not an animal. Can anyone relate?

Specializes in med/surg.

Yes and was it the middle finger? Hey it is obvious it was your size that got you that trouble. At least it was to me. Had it been a 5ft. 120lb female nothing would have happened. I can relate to your circumstances as I know the nursing boards have gotten crazy in the expectations of nurses. When i started nursing I worked with a nurse who was on anti-depressants and anti=anxiety agents, without supervision from the board. I worked with nurses that wore hearing aides , or had a illness that required them to take a darvocet 3 times a day. Today that would not happen. Both these nurses were good nurses and had it not been for their medication they would not have been able to work. Today this would land them supervision and perhaps temporary suspension. We are fingerprinted, background checked and then punished for things that happened over 10 years ago. If we are on any narcotics(even prn) we are put in a peer assistance program and have to attend NA meetings. A DUI(as a teenager) scrutinized. We are human and learn from our mistakes. Isn't HIPPA for nurses, too? A single incident should not be the factor. It's how you learned from it. I can relate.

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Specializes in med/surg.

I almost didn't want to click like, but I felt it wouldn't go to your head. You have a exceptional ability to read it like it is and eloquently tell those who can't to" shove it". Thank you!

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Specializes in med/surg.

Are you speaking from experience, Organized Chaos, I wouldn't know?

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Specializes in Med/Surg, Ortho, ASC.
I almost didn't want to click like, but I felt it wouldn't go to your head. You have a exceptional ability to read it like it is and eloquently tell those who can't to" shove it". Thank you!

If you would use the Quote feature (bottom right), we will all know to whom you are speaking.

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Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
Are you speaking from experience, Organized Chaos, I wouldn't know?

My many years working as a correctional nurse, so yes. Also I have been on the end of physical assault. Police just don't go around after an altercation & assume one person is guilty to tell them they have a court date. Police have protocols too.

When I tried to have my ex arrested for assault they didn't arrest him then & there because there wasn't enough "evidence" for them. They told me if I wanted to, to go to the police station & file a report to charge him. But at that moment, no one was arrested.

Sounds like the same thing that happened to the OP. If the police don't have enough evidence, they won't arrest anyone then it is up to the other person if they want to pursue charges.

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Specializes in ER.
Something I've mentioned before that I feel applies:

People sometimes seem to have a mild case of dissociative identity disorder in forums like this. There is our real life "self", and then the virtual identity we create.

Our real lives can be whatever they may be. We might be well off, well adjusted...........or not. We can be hoarders, neat freaks..........from one end to the other with every spectrum of personality you can think of. Fact is though, what we are in real has little to do with it once we decide to build and maintain our "virtual image".

I blame the "like" button for it. It seems, a lot of us get a certain sense of pride from our virtual images. We see lots of likes and want more. We want to win every debate we find ourselves in. We want to "one up" our fellow posters every chance we get. Why? Well, the answer is simple..........it feels good. Short term anyway.

So, like a drug addict who is chasing a bigger and better high, we keep going and going. We build this virtual self, thump our chests about this/that and the other thing that we really don't know about and we feel like the King of the Hill.

We dissociate our virtual selves from our core. We stop speaking from the heart, and we speak from a place where we think we're somehow..........creating a more perfect virtual image.

I'm willing to bet the motivation behind a lot of the comments you got was this, not a true actual belief in anything they said. They were living up to the virtual self image they had built in the best way they knew how to.

My hands have blood on them too. I'm not above looking at how many "likes" I get and all that other popularity contest stuff.

But I try to speak from the heart.

At least then, once in a while, I might accidentally say something useful lol

I hope you noticed that I liked this remark. :geek:

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Specializes in Registered Nurse.

I may be the odd woman out or not but I don't think these records should be related to entering nursing or staying in nursing because, it seems, a person can be falsely accused of many things and have it stick. But that's just me. Waving a finger many years ago....that *might have meant a person couldn't enter nursing school? That stinks.

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Specializes in M/S, Pulmonary, Travel, Homecare, Psych..
I hope you noticed that I liked this remark. :geek:

:roflmao:

You're gonna make me have a big head now.

You know, I almost was having panic attacks when my "likes" reached 666. :devil:

I was considering making an alternate account and liking one of my own posts just to get that number to change.

Then when I reached 777 I was all :cheeky:

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:roflmao:

You're gonna make me have a big head now.

You know, I almost was having panic attacks when my "likes" reached 666. :devil:

I was considering making an alternate account and liking one of my own posts just to get that number to change.

Then when I reached 777 I was all :cheeky:

Hilarious.. that made my day :roflmao:

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I may be the odd woman out or not but I don't think these records should be related to entering nursing or staying in nursing because, it seems, a person can be falsely accused of many things and have it stick. But that's just me. Waving a finger many years ago....that *might have meant a person couldn't enter nursing school? That stinks.

I strongly agree & "like" your post. However, I honestly feel that if I did not experience this, I wouldn't have compassion for others that are going through the same thing. I am kinda glad that I have to jump through extra hoops because it makes it so much more rewarding and lets me know hey.. I really want this.

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My many years working as a correctional nurse, so yes. Also I have been on the end of physical assault. Police just don't go around after an altercation & assume one person is guilty to tell them they have a court date. Police have protocols too.

When I tried to have my ex arrested for assault they didn't arrest him then & there because there wasn't enough "evidence" for them. They told me if I wanted to, to go to the police station & file a report to charge him. But at that moment, no one was arrested.

Sounds like the same thing that happened to the OP. If the police don't have enough evidence, they won't arrest anyone then it is up to the other person if they want to pursue charges.

I think that recent years have shown that not every protocol is followed exactly the same. Can you agree to that?

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Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
I think that recent years have shown that not every protocol is followed exactly the same. Can you agree to that?

True, but innocent until proven guilty. If they don't talk to the other party, how are is either side gonna get a fair chance? Protocols might be different but I know that they have to interview each side until someone goes to jail or gets a warrant. I stick by my original comment.

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