the time is 3:44am and i am supposed to take my final in about 6 hrs. i don't feel confident about my status as my quiz scores are less than desirable and this is the hardest class i have ever taken 3--that's right 3 times. OB/GYN is truly the thorn in my side. let me elaborate pls, and hope that if anyone ever had to face a similiar experience w/wo a happy ending pls feel free to enlighten me.
i first entered OB in jan 04, whereupon i failed the class by three points due to some extreme personal problems (my husband of 14yrs left me with 3 sad kids, no car, or money) well i rebuilt all that he destroyed (got a job, bought the neighbor's car, paid the rent at a new apt, and consoled my babes), and re-enrolled for the class. well, at that point i felt that i mastered the concept of maternal and infant health care, but nonetheless failed again--this time by one point!!!! i actually got an 84% on the final, passed the clinical portion w/a breeze (as always) but my quiz scores brought me down. however, being the fighter that i am (as always)i filed an appeal to reenter the adn program (you are out if you fail the same class 2 times) to which i so badly wanted to succeed in. i was granted re-entry after writing a 5 pager outlining my extenuating circumstances. well, at that point, i began to feel numb (dumb) about the entire process, completely doubting all of my knowledge (it had let me down twice already!) so here i am again for the 3rd time, in almost the same position!!! my quiz scores will be the death of this dream, as i am at a 79.1% IF my instructor drops the lowest score. NOW i have found out that a teaching care plan that was due will count as a test grade!!! I gave her mine early, she made notes req further explanation and handed it back to me (it worked the first time) and the day it was due AGAIN, i was out sick (really sick, even called in at work), so will she give me a fat zero??? will she not accept the corrections that i made? will i fail this class and be done with the whole thing? i am at my wits end...and by the way my kids are beyond consolation--my 16 yr old ran away in jan, she is residing with her 21 yr old boyfriend (f!@#ing creep) and only calls my grandmother to check in for money. i am feeling so helpless here, my 14 and 13 yr old sons are my only strength but i will feel like such a disappointment if i fail...what to do, what to do.......
Specializes in PICU, Nurse Educator, Clinical Research.
Wow, chelli- you have more courage than anyone I've ever known! Please don't give up...if you've been able to get through all the other trials you've faced lately, you can get through this course!
I would suggest two things- check out the policy at your school on late assignments, petitions, etc...not just within the nursing program. we had a guy in my class who had a 71 average in OB/Peds, and successfully petitioned the college to grant him the additional 7 points, claiming that the instructor didn't fulfill the course requirements. He had to bring in the dean of the college, but in the end, it worked. His argument was that *he* fulfilled his end of the bargain, but the instructor, by not following policy, did not.
The other thing you might try is to write another letter to the administration, just like you did to get back into the program, petitioning for credit on the late assignment. Include everything you've done to prove you've met the course objectives, and that you've fulfilled the requirements (as stated in the policy handbook, which Im' sure you've consulted already). if you need to go up the chain of command, do it! I think sometimes, as students, we're made to believe that the nursing program is somehow exempt from school policies and standards, but in the end, they're still accountable.
I would also investigate other programs in your area- other RN programs- and see if any of them would accept transfer credit from your courses. you've obviously got the tenacity to try every possible avenue to get where you want to be, so please don't give up now!
I wish you the best of luck- please keep us updated, ok? We're all crossing our fingers for you!
I admire you cheile. I hope everything turned out OK with the test. I am a single mom with two boys, and am not even in Nursing school yet, but it's mothers like you who give me hope when I'm stressing over these Pre req courses and wondering how I'm going to make it. I want to say so much more but have to go. Don't give up. You made it this far,
Wow, Chelli, you are so strong to have gotten through all of this so far. I have been where you are, though I didn't have the strength to go back right away....I admire you!
I'll be praying for you, that you WILL pass this course, and continue on to be the caring and good nurse that you want to be.
first of all, let me say THANK YOU!!!!! SOOOO MUCH!!!! for all of the warm responses i received. i wish i could hug you all thru this 'puter! you all really need to know how much those great words and advice help me. NO ONE in my own family is related to health care AT ALL (only when they need a doctor!) and they truly don't understand what i am going thru. being the oldest of three girls (my little sisters are CRAZY!!, but i love them) and coming from a broken home (parents split up when i was 2) i really feel lonesome over here. that is why i thank God that i found this website back in the day. i lost contact for ahwile (my ex was in and out of my life creating havoc as i explained) but i am glad to be back!!! i look up to all of you out there and i hope that one day i can give the kind of help and support that you have given to me :) i only want to be a nurse to use myself as an instrument of nurturing and helping people feel better, such as in the saying WHAT WOULD JESUS DO???? but then you all already knew that, cause you did what He would have done. thank you, thank you, thank you....
i almost forgot in all my praise of you wonderful people and this website, an update: the instructor accepted my late assignment, and from what i overheard in class she is counting it as 100 point quiz with points to be deducted as she sees fit, such as 10 points for being late (i lost 10 there) and neatness, accuracy, length, etc (i worked on those papers for at least 6-7hours). so i took the final and felt pretty good about how i did, but it will ultimately depend on the cumulative quiz score--that will determine if i pass or not. once again, i am up all night alone at this desk in my frontroom (kids snoring from their room!), but i will definitely know something by 10am today!!! i am going to stay up and just go to school, hear the news, come home and go to sleep (either with a huge smile or with kleenex nearby). so i will let you all know later on what the verdict is!!!! bye 4 now....
Good luck to you! From personal experience, I can only imagine how you are feeling right now, because I remember how I felt. Keep your head up! Let us know how things turn out!
We haven't heard from you. No news is good news????? I sure do hope that you were able to get through your day. Whatever happens, keep the faith. There are few in this world who are so incredibly courageous. You are one of the few. Hang in there. Anything that is worth having is worth working hard for. No matter what, you can't stop. No matter what.........keep going. Good luck to you!
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Wow, chelli- you have more courage than anyone I've ever known! Please don't give up...if you've been able to get through all the other trials you've faced lately, you can get through this course!
I would suggest two things- check out the policy at your school on late assignments, petitions, etc...not just within the nursing program. we had a guy in my class who had a 71 average in OB/Peds, and successfully petitioned the college to grant him the additional 7 points, claiming that the instructor didn't fulfill the course requirements. He had to bring in the dean of the college, but in the end, it worked. His argument was that *he* fulfilled his end of the bargain, but the instructor, by not following policy, did not.
The other thing you might try is to write another letter to the administration, just like you did to get back into the program, petitioning for credit on the late assignment. Include everything you've done to prove you've met the course objectives, and that you've fulfilled the requirements (as stated in the policy handbook, which Im' sure you've consulted already). if you need to go up the chain of command, do it! I think sometimes, as students, we're made to believe that the nursing program is somehow exempt from school policies and standards, but in the end, they're still accountable.
I would also investigate other programs in your area- other RN programs- and see if any of them would accept transfer credit from your courses. you've obviously got the tenacity to try every possible avenue to get where you want to be, so please don't give up now!
I wish you the best of luck- please keep us updated, ok? We're all crossing our fingers for you!