Silent Treatment

[WildIvy]

I was just hired at a SNF as the RN unit manager. First day on the unit and the director of nursing who hired me and who is my direct report will not look at me or speak. She did this twice and I said hello to her. After that the same silent treatment. I observed her interactions with others and she is friendly with the other staff. I do not feel apart of the team now and I do not care to go back to work there.

[caliotter3]

I observed a DON at my first LTC facility job who walked around without saying anything to anybody. As a CNA at the time, it was kind of conspicuous to me, but I never asked anybody about it. If you feel that way, and things don't warm up after a certain length of time, continue with a job search and leave, if you are sufficiently uncomfortable and other jobs are available.

[TriciaJ, RN]

During your orientation, don't expect anything from her than work-related essential communication. She might warm up eventually. If she can't even talk to you when it is pertinent and work-related, then that is sabotage. Find a new job if it comes to that.

[kaylee.]

Ostrascism is very painful for us psychologically as humans. We are very keen on picking up the subtle signs. I read a book on it after experiencing it with a coworker, who would literally greet 4 people in a room by name except me. Im sure it was alot her. But it is a thing. In groups she would interact with others but not me.

I couldnt wrap my head around it. But in your case the working relationship is threatened when a director does it to u. Try setting a meeting with the person, not to talk about the ostracism but to "check in". Maybe there is something that can be resolved. Investigate the relationship a little and try to reach out to them.

[Wuzzie]

Ostrascism is very painful for us psychologically as humans. We are very keen on picking up the subtle signs. I read a book on it after experiencing it with a coworker, who would literally greet 4 people in a room by name except me. Im sure it was alot her. But it is a thing. In groups she would interact with others but not me.

I couldnt wrap my head around it. But in your case the working relationship is threatened when a director does it to u. Try setting a meeting with the person, not to talk about the ostracism but to "check in". Maybe there is something that can be resolved. Investigate the relationship a little and try to reach out to them.

Did you not see that the OP had only been at the job ONE day? And she's being ostracized? I'm pretty introverted and it takes me awhile to warm up. We really don't know what's going on with the DON. Maybe her dog just died. Really, before anybody passes judgement on her perhaps a little more time is needed to see how things shake out.

[kaylee.]

Oh I guess I didnt read carefully enough. My bad. For sure any number of circumstances were more likely at play. I jumped the gun. Dont even get it in your head yet OP! Its not something u need to have on your radar after a single encounter.

[Orca, ADN, ASN, RN]

I wouldn't read anything into the first day.