Nurses struggling with mental illness

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I was just wondering if there are any other nurses who struggle with mental illness. It seems to be one disability that is met with little tolerance and support in the medical field. I do have major co-morbid mental illness, Major depression/PTSD/DID, and have had many problems in my career. I have been in therapy and on meds for a long time and have worked very hard to be functional, and I have suprised myself by what I have been able to achieve. Currently, I am a hospice nurse in a residential setting and it seems that I have found my niche. It doesn't aggravate my illness too much. I am very busy at times and most of my job revolves in much cognitive thinking and decision making about the best ways to respond to a patient's emerging or existing symptoms, and in assessing patients to see where they are in the dying process, plus lots of educating to patients and families. My extensive personal trauma background has made me able to have a different perspective on death and don't see it as the scary thing that is SO SAD, that a lot of people do. Plus, because of the things that I have been through, I am more able to be compassionate and understanding of patients and their fears. I especially do well with patients with existing mental illness or lots of anxiety. I notice that a lot of nurses have little tolerance for a patients anxiety and are not willing to take the extra time to walk them through things and provide the extra reassurance that they need.

Yes, there are some nursing jobs that I don't think I would be able to do because of the fast on the spot life and death action necessary. ER and Trauma/Burn are pretty much out for me. But thats OK. A lot of nurses couldn't handle doing what I do either for their own reasons. We are all suited to certain things.

Having mental illness doesn't automatically make you unsuited for the nursing profession. Even though I have heard many times, "what are you doing here?" "Shouldn't you be doing something else, less stressful?"

I am here and am doing the thing I am suited for. Yes sometimes I have to take time off due to my illness, but its no different than somone who has flare ups of a chronic physical illness like lupus, chronic fatigue, or fibromyalgia.

I would like to know how other nurses have coped with their own illness and their nursing careers.

Severina

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You never know what you can overcome until you take the steps to do it....It is difficult but you can do it. You cannot over tax yourself and have to keep yourself eating well, sleeping well and lots of good habits to beat your odds. But it can be done. My family is supportive ... Everything in this life is a day at a time....don't look back at your family...it is the past not the future or it will bring you down. There are people that will try to complicate things so you won't be successful. Stay focused, be well, and good luck.:)

wow!!!! Nancy K that was SO GOOD! Your advice applies to all of us struggling with mental illness or other challenges, in fact, if every *normal nurse took that advice, what a profession we would be! How much we'd be able to help and support each other and be SO GOOD at what we do - without so much exhaustion and emotional pain!

Thank you darlin for the Epiphany! ;)

*Normal = just a setting on your clothes dryer

I can't believe it either.

What????? :confused:

Is there some kind of meaning or reason behind this post that I'm missing??

Sorry, but this reply has me confused. Yes, I did write out a long reply..decided it was too personal and then deleted it. It had a lot of personal and very painful things in it that have happened to me over this past year, and from years before....I truly WANT to share sometimes, but guess I just don't know how yet.

I just don't understand your response to my line of periods at all. Please let me know. Did I do something wrong?? I'm sorry that I wrote out the post and then wasn't comfortable sharing such private info...info that even my best friend doesn't know.

If I did something wrong, please let me know...thanks

I didn't mean to offend anyone. The posts here have helped me more than any of you may know..almost to the point I was able to open up. And even though I'm not yet able to open up completely, at least I know there are plenty of others out there like me, ready to listen and hear me. I know I'm not alone.

I certainly didn't mean to offend anyone. We all have our own private sufferings...some of us are ready and capable of sharing, some of us aren't. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say. I'm working on my ability to share. Still working....

Thinking of you all,

Kim

Specializes in Alzheimer's, Geriatrics, Chem. Dep..
What????? :confused:

Is there some kind of meaning or reason behind this post that I'm missing??

Sorry, but this reply has me confused. Yes, I did write out a long reply..decided it was too personal and then deleted it. It had a lot of personal and very painful things in it that have happened to me over this past year, and from years before....I truly WANT to share sometimes, but guess I just don't know how yet.

I just don't understand your response to my line of periods at all. Please let me know. Did I do something wrong?? I'm sorry that I wrote out the post and then wasn't comfortable sharing such private info...info that even my best friend doesn't know.

If I did something wrong, please let me know...thanks

I didn't mean to offend anyone. The posts here have helped me more than any of you may know..almost to the point I was able to open up. And even though I'm not yet able to open up completely, at least I know there are plenty of others out there like me, ready to listen and hear me. I know I'm not alone.

I certainly didn't mean to offend anyone. We all have our own private sufferings...some of us are ready and capable of sharing, some of us aren't. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say. I'm working on my ability to share. Still working....

Thinking of you all,

Kim

Hi Kim!

Din't see the original post but I wonder - did Warrior Woman see the original and respond to THAT? Would her reply then fit? And maybe with the edit, it edits the part that gets copied over?

Anyway, whatever is going on Kim, I'll pray for ya if you like! and hope things are all right!

xo

Kudos to all of you for your strength and bravery.

Specializes in Alzheimer's, Geriatrics, Chem. Dep..
Kudos to all of you for your strength and bravery.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Froggy}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Wherever did you get that name? :rotfl:

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Froggy}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Wherever did you get that name? :rotfl:

Frogleg was already a member. :rolleyes:

It just sort of popped into mind when I had to come up with a name. I like frogs....cute decorative ones, not so much the real thing. Wow, thats not very interesting eh? :p

AMEN....you said it perfectly for everyone!!!! I always said do a "one on one" observation on anyone and they'd look crazy....or fit the criteria! Oh my God...my ex-husband had me followed...did a "one on one" of a sort when I had nothing better to do than touch and try on every stinking item in the entire Galleria Mall! He thought I had a boyfriend. My husband was a PI...a cheating PI! But I thought it was pretty funny...I was only being a crazy ADHD woman shopper. How disappointing for the PI.

Specializes in Alzheimer's, Geriatrics, Chem. Dep..
Frogleg was already a member. :rolleyes:

It just sort of popped into mind when I had to come up with a name. I like frogs....cute decorative ones, not so much the real thing. Wow, thats not very interesting eh? :p

Are you familiar with Froggy on The Little Rascals? Cute .. hee hee...

{{{{{{{{{{Fwoggy...}}}}}}}}}}}

Specializes in Alzheimer's, Geriatrics, Chem. Dep..
AMEN....you said it perfectly for everyone!!!! I always said do a "one on one" observation on anyone and they'd look crazy....or fit the criteria! Oh my God...my ex-husband had me followed...did a "one on one" of a sort when I had nothing better to do than touch and try on every stinking item in the entire Galleria Mall! He thought I had a boyfriend. My husband was a PI...a cheating PI! But I thought it was pretty funny...I was only being a crazy ADHD woman shopper. How disappointing for the PI.

Wow Nancy.

It's funny, my ex hub and I married twice. The first time he was a follower and checked my whereabouts continuously. 10 years later he was sober so we married again; that time I could hardly get any attention! Go figure!

What????? :confused:

Is there some kind of meaning or reason behind this post that I'm missing??

Sorry, but this reply has me confused. Yes, I did write out a long reply..decided it was too personal and then deleted it. It had a lot of personal and very painful things in it that have happened to me over this past year, and from years before....I truly WANT to share sometimes, but guess I just don't know how yet.

I just don't understand your response to my line of periods at all. Please let me know. Did I do something wrong?? I'm sorry that I wrote out the post and then wasn't comfortable sharing such private info...info that even my best friend doesn't know.

If I did something wrong, please let me know...thanks

I didn't mean to offend anyone. The posts here have helped me more than any of you may know..almost to the point I was able to open up. And even though I'm not yet able to open up completely, at least I know there are plenty of others out there like me, ready to listen and hear me. I know I'm not alone.

I certainly didn't mean to offend anyone. We all have our own private sufferings...some of us are ready and capable of sharing, some of us aren't. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say. I'm working on my ability to share. Still working....

Thinking of you all,

Kim

You didn't do ANYTHING wrong Kim!! No I took a guess at what you might have said and simply guessed wrong that's all. I'm just rotten at guessing I suppose. You have not offended me in the least, and I hope that I didn't scare you away. :uhoh21:

Hi all...I am hanging in there. My hubby moved me cross country the end of January...I was unable to see my psychiatrist before we moved, which has prolonged my wait in getting help and progressing. I am going day by day, have simplified my life back to basics, and am trying to resist getting frustrated with the 'waits' in getting insured, getting into seeing someone to get appropriate help. Since I've moved, we have a new PPO to deal with. I'm sure everyone here can relate...LOL!I have an appt with a new PCP but now will likely have to wait months more for a psych referral. .

It was overwhelming depression, mixed with anxiety and panic OJT, and recognizing I was not 'thinking' well that caused me to finally quit my nursing job; just take some time, decompress and move from there. That was December...so I haven't worked since then. I miss my colleagues but not the BS...I'm less stressed, but not near feeling healthy. I'm also feeling worthless and guilty for 'not being able to handle things'.

One thing has become clear: I was a perfectionistic, driven 'human doing' for too many years and my unresolved issues just plain 'ganged up' on me. I overdid and am paying the price. I'm having to regroup and start over.

My insurance will only cover 50% of my psych doc and meds...I will see a ARNP to control some costs. When I can get in. Waiting is hard. Prayers are appreciated.

On a more general note: doesn't everybody here want these threads to be sharing threads where all feel safe ? If so we need to be careful how we respond to new posters. They should all feel free to post here, not look at this as some kind of 'private club' only. JMHO.

That said anybody who wants to share more 1:1 feel free to PM me. I am at home just taking it one day at a time, trying to stay sane and safe while waiting for my doc appointments. I like to correspond. :)

Hugs to all here. :)

Specializes in Alzheimer's, Geriatrics, Chem. Dep..
...worthless and guilty for 'not being able to handle things'.

My insurance will only cover 50% of my psych doc and meds...'

On a more general note: doesn't everybody here want these threads to be sharing threads where all feel safe ?

trying to stay sane and safe while waiting for my doc appointments....

Hugs to all here. :)

Hey Matt's mom - transition - ugh, it's hard enough without all the insurance trouble etc. Do you like where you are? It will get better soon I promise!

To me this thread is a safe place to share, but if I was working I'd probably worry that a coworker would recognize me. Anyway, usually we understand each other (most of us have BEEN THERE!). I'm awfully grateful that I can vent here!

God bless you and I hope the adjustment gets easier! Take care of yourself!

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