Racist Patients - page 5

Our floor is culturally diverse. We have employees from all walks of life. We recently had a patient on the floor that said that he only wanted white nurses to take care if him. I'm not sure if our... Read More

  1. by   PeachPie
    I encounter a kind of racism that isn't as stigmatized. I'm half Japanese, and some older people still use the racial slur used during World War II. Many don't even know that it's a racial slur, and I inform them that the word is inappropriate. Another thing that some people ask is if my Japanese mom was a war bride. War bride? My mother came to the States as an exchange student and has a degree in math and computer science! My dad didn't rescure her from anything, and she's smarter than him! It may not seem offensive, but it's tantamount to asking if your mother was a prostitute or a green card/gold digger who can't speak the language and needs a man. Usually people quickly gain understanding after quietly and tactfully telling them these things, but it's still kind of unnerving.
  2. by   morte
    Quote from PeachPie
    I encounter a kind of racism that isn't as stigmatized. I'm half Japanese, and some older people still use the racial slur used during World War II. Many don't even know that it's a racial slur, and I inform them that the word is inappropriate. Another thing that some people ask is if my Japanese mom was a war bride. War bride? My mother came to the States as an exchange student and has a degree in math and computer science! My dad didn't rescure her from anything, and she's smarter than him! It may not seem offensive, but it's tantamount to asking if your mother was a prostitute or a green card/gold digger who can't speak the language and needs a man. Usually people quickly gain understanding after quietly and tactfully telling them these things, but it's still kind of unnerving.
    iv never known this term to be derogatory.....i have known of at least two, admittedly they were English speakers, one English and one Scot......do your patients truly mean it to be disrepectful, or curious?
    as a side note, both my parents were in the service for WWII, so, yes i am familiar with the term.
  3. by   LEN-RN
    Its not just nursing, its that way in all areas of life. And it happens to all of us, male, female, black, white. I see less Complaints of black/white issue but more complaints of not being able to understand someone because of a language barrier. I can sympathize with patients on that one. But if anything is said, its accused of being a racial thing AND being prejudice from people from other countries. That is so far from the truth. A service is being provided and it should be easily understood.
  4. by   nerdtonurse?
    When we have that situation, we swap nurses. I had a friend who had a trash talking redneck, using the "n" word (and I don't mean "nurse"), so we swapped patients. When he said he was so glad to have one of "us" as a nurse, I told him there was no "us" since I had nothing in common with the likes of him. I called the doc, and the doc came in early the next morning and dc'd him at 0530.

    None of us are paid enough to waste a minute of our lives with creatures like that.
  5. by   Purple_Scrubs
    Just to add another dimension to this issue...I am white. I am from South Louisiana (with the thick Cajun accent to show for it). People assume that I am racist, and it is deeply hurtful to me. I get terribly offended when someone assumes that because a) I am white and b) I am from the South then I must be racist, this could not be farther from the truth.

    As far as the issue at hand, I think for the nurse's sake if anything the patient's request should be accomodated if possible. I would hate to be the manager to assign a minority nurse to a patient who is openly biased against said minority. That is just not good for anyone involved. Honestly, it baffles the mind that the patient would have the gall to make such a request in this day and age. Hopefully requests like that are few and far between.
  6. by   LEN-RN
    Quote from PeachPie
    I encounter a kind of racism that isn't as stigmatized. I'm half Japanese, and some older people still use the racial slur used during World War II. Many don't even know that it's a racial slur, and I inform them that the word is inappropriate. Another thing that some people ask is if my Japanese mom was a war bride. War bride? My mother came to the States as an exchange student and has a degree in math and computer science! My dad didn't rescure her from anything, and she's smarter than him! It may not seem offensive, but it's tantamount to asking if your mother was a prostitute or a green card/gold digger who can't speak the language and needs a man. Usually people quickly gain understanding after quietly and tactfully telling them these things, but it's still kind of unnerving.
    PeachPie, I wouldnt take being asked about "war bride" as being disrespectful. I think its out of curiosity. Most people like to hear stories of how people met. Especially older patients. And just because someone was a war bride doesnt mean they were poor and needed rescued. Or that they were not intelligent. Just from WWI and WWII, there were several hundred thousand "war brides" brought to the U. S. from all over the world. Many smart, successful women. From ALL over the world, not just from Japan.
  7. by   ®Nurse
    "War Bride" is not the term that was being referred to as being disrespectful.....
  8. by   2BSure
    Quote from nerdtonurse?
    When we have that situation, we swap nurses. I had a friend who had a trash talking redneck, using the "n" word (and I don't mean "nurse"), so we swapped patients. When he said he was so glad to have one of "us" as a nurse, I told him there was no "us" since I had nothing in common with the likes of him. I called the doc, and the doc came in early the next morning and dc'd him at 0530.

    None of us are paid enough to waste a minute of our lives with creatures like that.
    I see the point of this -- it prevents "harm and/or abuse" of staff. We actually do this too. Unfortunately, it is like co-signing the racist person's bull poop.
  9. by   LHH1996
    i feel completely stupid, but i don't know what "lip gloss poppin means"?
  10. by   morte
    Quote from PlaneFlyerRN
    "War Bride" is not the term that was being referred to as being disrespectful.....
    hmm could you explain your take on it then? it certainly was pretty clear to me when she said it implied that her mother was a prostitute or other things she listed
  11. by   Crux1024
    Quote from LHH1996
    i feel completely stupid, but i don't know what "lip gloss poppin means"?

    Its from a rap song.
  12. by   LHH1996
    Quote from Crux1024
    Its from a rap song.

    ok..thanks. still don't see what that has to do with anything though..lol
  13. by   K.P.A.
    I'm not a nurse, yet.
    When I was a lifeguard our priorities were:
    1)Safety...
    2)Hygiene...
    Why should I care what people think. That's their baggage.
    Some swimmers got over their prejudices, some didn't. But, nobody drowned and nobody got fungus.

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