Need Opinions!

[NurseBeans]

I just really need to know if I am crazy or this parent is. The situation:

I saw a student the other day, 2 hours after recess, with ankle pain. No bruising, no swelling, no deformity, student is ambulatory with some limp. Gave ice pack, told her to sit down for a few minutes. She wanted to go back to class so I allowed it, told her to return my ice pack and I would re-assess the ankle. Now, this was 1 hour before dismissal. She stops by with the ice pack about 5 minutes before getting on the bus, no limp. Says it feels better. Now, she had a note from earlier about her visit with me. I do notes for the parents.

Got a call shortly after the busses left from mom, very angry she did not get a phone call. She knows her daughter visited because of the note. Ok...I re-visited the above information, told mom I did not see any issues that needed emergency care. Mom reminds me of a phone conversation about 3 months ago in which she told me the child had ERCP and a pancreatic stent, and about how she needs to know her daughter's health status. IMMEDIATELY. Ok. She knew within an hour after her daughter's visit because of timing, but whatever.

I am struggling to find a connection between ERCP/stent and ankle pain that went away after ice and why mom would need to know immediately of the issue, but clinically I can't think of anything. I never saw the child before this ankle visit, even in the days after her procedure and stent placement. Mom has called the principal and wants to have a meeting about me, and no one has spoken to me about it but I assume I will not come out on top in this situation.

Am I missing something?

[Amethya]

OOOh Trust me! I gotten some parents like this and it was difficult for a while. At first it was the diabetic mom and her son who's sugar would not go down! (We are good friends now.)

Then it was this mom with her supposedly Autistic daughter, which after a while I am now on friendlier terms with her, I had to apologize, even if I didn't do anything wrong.

Then I had this mom and another Kinder mom who got mad because her child came asking for me to clean their wound and asked me that why I didn't check in if he wasn't allergic to stuff, I asked, is he allergic to anything? "No! But what if he was?" SMH. (I have his file on my computer and it doesn't say anything on allergies.)

So each child, I have to call so I won't have another parent having a heart attack about their kid. CYA people! 1# rule I learned at MA school.

[MrNurse(x2), ADN]

The over riding truth that we all have to keep forefront on parents like this is they are control motivated. Their darling child had a medical issue despite their control over their lives, therefore tightening the already over tight reins on DD or DS is the only control they have. It is all fear driven and unfortunately we get to be part of their drama. We have a very minor role in their screenplay, and there are a lot of those actors in their productions.

[NurseBeans, BSN, RN, EMT-B]

Also, I KNOW you are letting these irritants live rent free in your head. The "few" always take up the majority of school nurse's time. Most of the kids and parents are cooperative and friendly. Your issues are emotionally driven on YOUR part. All of us have felt the same as you verbalized above. Try not to take it to heart.

I know I shouldn't take it to heart but I feel like I am doing my best and frankly...my best has never NOT been good enough. I have never worked so hard and still been looked at as mediocre or worse, a BAD nurse. It stings.

If I can see it for what it is (controlling helicopter mom) I feel better about the whole thing. I am not the one who has an issue, she does. I still feel butthurt about being thought a bad nurse though.

[BeckyESRN]

I know I shouldn't take it to heart but I feel like I am doing my best and frankly...my best has never NOT been good enough. I have never worked so hard and still been looked at as mediocre or worse, a BAD nurse. It stings.

If I can see it for what it is (controlling helicopter mom) I feel better about the whole thing. I am not the one who has an issue, she does. I still feel butthurt about being thought a bad nurse though.

The last mommy that I dealt with like this(wanted to be notified about every little thing, but never wanted to pick the kid up if he/she was really ill) really made me question my decision to be in the school. However, a few weeks ago her kiddo c/o stomach ache and she was picking him up early anyway, so she came by to get him and as they left the building(with her saying he wasn't really sick) he vomited all over her:roflmao: They were already out the doors, so I pretended not to notice...

[tining, BSN, RN]

Karma

[Amethya]

I had a mom like this, She got angry because her special snowflake kept coming to my office for stuff, and she wanted to know when he did all the time. So...I kept calling her for EVERYTHING because she asked for this and then she said she didn't want me to anymore, "But ma'am, you stated last time you wanted me to call you if your child visits me for anything and he does, for almost anything. If you want me to refrain from these call, can you please speak to your child about visiting me only for emergencies? It would easier on both you and me." I said the nicest fake voice ever. Since then not once did that kid come unless it's important.

[NurseBeans, BSN, RN, EMT-B]

Just thought I'd let everyone know how the situation played out. Student does have some serious health problems, which they are still trying to iron out. Mom came in yesterday to give me medication for her, and I apologized for not calling that one time. She apologized for being rude...we hashed it out.

But, this is a reminder to me that every one of these kids has someone that loves them so much that they will act out at people who they feel are not giving them what they need. Whether that is a reasonable thing to give or not.

Also, I am a good nurse, and I need to remember that even when someone tries to tell me I am not. Unless that person is also a school nurse. Then I'll need to re-evaluate.