Need advice-should I apply AGAIN or let it go?

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I used to work with a nurse who became a nurse manager. I took several years off to raise my kids and when I was ready to return to nursing I ran into her and she told me to apply if I wanted a job and she'd look into hiring me. I applied and went through a phone interview (not with her-the hospital) and then because of family circumstances pulled out of the application process and told her now wasn't a good time to jump back in. I took a part-time job elsewhere with better hours and was ready to try again after a couple years for this position when one came open so I called her and this time I went through a major interview with her and shadowed a nurse all day on the floor but decided I couldn't do the straight nights (which I didn't know about until the interview) so I told her it wouldn't work this time either so the other two candidates they were looking at would have their focus and not me. Now there is another opening for prn which I could do and would like to but since she's already pulled my application twice and I haven't went through with it I'm sort of afraid of even bothering her again. I was never officially offered the job either time because I pulled out of the running both times. I didn't want to be offered the job and then not be able to deliver. However, with prn I could do the nights since I'd only be working once in a while and then at least get my foot in the door for a better position if one came up. (Hubby works nights too and we have kids so I can't do them all the time). Do you think I should apply again for this position or just let this go?

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Specializes in Nurse Leader specializing in Labor & Delivery.

If it were me personally, I would feel very sheepish about applying again.

If I were the hiring manager, I would probably pass over your application, for fear of a lack of commitment on your part.

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Specializes in Hospital Education Coordinator.

agreed. Look elsewhere and be specific about your needs before you get too deep into the interview.

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Specializes in NICU.

I would let it go. Sorry!

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You've used up the kindness of your friend. Remember, jobs are extremely hard to find. This friend has already gone above and beyond the call for you.

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Well, it would depend on how she acted the first two times... did she seem bothered that you pulled out twice? If you want to apply again and you are sure you will want this job I would call her and get a feel on if she would consider you.

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I would not apply a third time without a strong commitment to following through. Unfair to the lady to expect her to put herself out a third time.

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Specializes in Home health was tops, 2nd was L&D.

I'd call her and explain that now that the opening is PRN, you can commit and follow thru.. Ask if she is okay with you applying again.Unless she acts negatively..I would apply... What do you have to lose? If they do not want you or have lack of faith trust.. they will just not call you.. Apply but do not hold you breath.

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No, have a little integrity.. you used your friend and wasted her time - twice.

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Specializes in Med.Surg/ Psychiatry.

I wouldn't apply again. I'll be very uncomfortable doing it a third time. Try and find something else and just let them know what you can do before you even go in for an interview.

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Specializes in Acute Care, CM, School Nursing.

Personally, I would let it go.

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Specializes in Critical Care; Cardiac; Professional Development.

I think that bridge is probably burned now and if she wanted you to apply she would have contacted you to invite you to. Sorry. I would move on.

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