move for job opportunities and reluctant spouse

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I'm in a dilemma. I moved to a smallish town and jobs are definitely not a plenty. There are only two small hospitals in town and only hiring for part time. I work in a clinic for only one month and half and in that time our Doctor got fired and new management company came in and questioning all of us employees and what we do and making comments that I cost more than the LPN that works with me. But the job I came from replaced me with two part timers. I have applied to places around this small town area with no job hits. But amazingly I hear from hospitals all over the country who are ready to give me a job. I am the main breadwinner in our family as my spouse works part time job at hospital. I know he is from here and we just bought a house almost two years ago and his family is here but the work situation has changed. None of my extended family is here but he doesn't want to move by them or anywhere. I don't know if I'm going to have a job tomorrow or not..not with business being bad and new management in there. Move for work or keep praying I'll get a job around here? I don't want to stay in this town and have two small children to support. Anyone gone through this with reluctant spouse? Or situation like this?

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If your hisband doesn't want to move, can he increase his income so that he is able to support the family?

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Well he graduated from nursing school but failed the NCLEX four times. I even paid for him to use Hurst review last time which helped me but he's been working in hospital as a tech not making much. I asked him about getting second job but says he can't because his current job he works PRN and takes call.

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Sit down, lay out your financial situation and ask if he really thinks it is possible to keep going on part time salary from both of you, look at cost of benefits, childcare if applicable, household expenses, etc.

Is their another healthcare system near by? A lot of people I work with commute 40-60 minutes to come to work as they live in small towns.

If he can't pass NCLEX then you need to tell him that you are moving to look for a better job. Marriage is a two way street and sometimes the male

ego gets in the way. If you keep butting heads about this, your marriage is going to go downhill quickly with both of you resenting each other. A big sit down talk is coming.

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Well he graduated from nursing school but failed the NCLEX four times. I even paid for him to use Hurst review last time which helped me but he's been working in hospital as a tech not making much. I asked him about getting second job but says he can't because his current job he works PRN and takes call.

If he isn't willing to work more or do what it takes to pass the NCLEX, then he needs to put his grown up underwear on & deal with it. You are the main breadwinner & if you lose your job the whole family is screwed!

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Yes I've applied to places even up to 2 hours away. No hits.

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Are you an experienced RN, can you find a job that you can do from home?

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Yes I have six years experience as RN. I've had job offers from all over except near the town we live in. Big university hospitals offering relocation, higher salary, good benefits and full time.

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Are you only interested in working as a staff nurse at a healthcare facility/clinic? Have looked into work that you can do from your home such as case management, insurance nursing?

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I never looked into working from home to be honest. I've seen case management jobs but they always required experience in that area. No health insurance companies around here. I enjoy patient interactions and trying to be in facilities that would help my career advance. I'm more career oriented and was seeking to further my education. But am definitely have been looking for a job and fast. I never know what I'm walking into every day at current job.

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I'm very worried that I will lose my job at any time and we will be in trouble. I'm trying to make my husband understand. I know he doesn't want to leave his hometown but there is no job opportunities here or anything in this small town.

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I'm very worried that I will lose my job at any time and we will be in trouble. I'm trying to make my husband understand. I know he doesn't want to leave his hometown but there is no job opportunities here or anything in this small town.

Do you have any kids? If not, you may have to take a job away from your husband & move. If he won't do anything to better his life (& yours) he needs to have a reality check.

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