medicine or wives tale????

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OK, i have contemplated with the likely hood that I really, really want a baby boy. I have heard some the strangest things about how to guarantee a boy. Some, I would not let my dog try!!:lol2: But, from a male nurse, one idea did strike my curiousity. I have several friends who had trouble getting pregnant and did not need fertility drugs, just the right time per se. I remember them running through a list their husbands should not do while, during, or whatever in their process of trying to become with child. One of which, was along the lines of men being in hot tubs or soaking in really hot bath water. Don't remember too much about the female and along them lines until after their were pregnant. So, anyways............the male nurse friend of mine said due to the X sperm being slower and the Y being faster and somewhat stronger, I too remember this in OB, the hot bath or hot tub "soak" for 10 minutes lessens the likely hood of a X chromosome making it to the egg and thus fertilizing it and having a female. Now, I have girls and 1 boy. So, it is not life altering to not have another child at all..............BUT I just have it in my heart that I want another boy. I thought these "feelings" would pass, but the more I have become fixated on the idea. Has any one else heard of this? Am I just reading WWWWWAAYYYYY too much into it because I want a baby boy and see some hope??? Can any one of you OB nurses shed some light on it?????

Specializes in Perinatal, Education.

Way long ago (I am 39), my mom got pregnant while using spermicide and here I am after two boys! I also think that fighter pilots and some people who work with certain anasthesias have girls--although my friend who is a CRNA has three boys. I think this shows how strong female genetics are!

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I do know it is harder to get pg with a girl because they are slower. WAAYY before nursing school and several kids...my OB summed it up as th X's are slower and weaker, and not in life or such, just the weaker sperm cell. Smoking is suppose to decrease your chances of having a girl....I did not smoke!! Due to the ther lil' X's being slower.......N-E ways the Y's are faster and stronger, but a lot of the times they tire out thus the little slow X's come and fertilize. Now with that said...he also said male babies in their first years of life tend to be sickier than female. No, it does not mean every male child born will be sick!! Well, what is the shettles method???

I am not set on even having a baby, I just want a guranteed little boy. Yes, probably impossible without invetro, but like I said I have ONE boy and it would just be nice to have two!!! I just can't get the idea, or "fixation," out of my head

We used something called a babycomp, and it worked. Even though the first U/S lady said my baby was a boy, the second U/S confirmed what we had wanted, a little girl.

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what is the shettles method and the babycomp?

The BabyComp is an ovulation predictor of sorts-with a whole lot of extra du-hickeys added. The time at which you concieve plays a big part in the sex of the baby ( lady partsl secretions..etc etc). Like I said, it worked for us. It's really quite a long story. I wanted a baby, but when I found out DH was deploying quick changed my mind. ( I started back on BC pills which I hate), but continued to use the BabyComp to please my DH who desperately wanted a baby ( I wanted to deploy with him not get pregnant), he wanted another girl, so, when the little girl baby light came on...well.. you know what happened after that,LOL. It's pricey, but, I think its' worth it. I really do. http://www.ladycomp.com/ladycomp_en.htm There are a few other monitors on this site, each a step down of the one before it.

edited to add website http://naturalbirthcontrol.com/show.php?page=family_planning

Specializes in Tele.

Thank you so much! I will look and see. I have a "yearly" in a few weeks and I will talk with my OB on his thoughts!! He usually has more than his 2 cents worth!!! ha,ha

Specializes in Tele.

OK, one more question.... What is the difference between the BabyComp and the Male kit, besides price???

Oh boy. here goes nothing...

Whenever I can, I go in the nursery to hold the opium babies. I imagine it must be like being born into hell for them. Some go home with their mothers, some go into "the system". The luckier ones are the ones whose mothers sign off of them and they are immediately available for adoption. There are rows of people waiting, and I am humbled and awed by these parents-in-waiting who will love any baby you put in their arms, no matter how severely affected.

Be ever so thankful to have a healthy child, regardless of gender. So many people would do anything to be in your shoes...

Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

Be ever so thankful to have a healthy child, regardless of gender. So many people would do anything to be in your shoes...

THANK YOU! I agree.

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