Me Time- Katie5's Vent

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I Love ALLNURSES.com. I love the unsolicited and solicited advice that I get here. I love new do-it-yourself ideas that I get from here that I would never have thought up myself...(well at least, until a long while:). I love the shared experiences that we have had. I love how we're each others cheerleaders and empathize when things don't go so well.

I love how we give encouragement and suggestions to each other

But one thing that I do not like, is the constant condemnation venting threads. It's beginning to get too personal. Rail at the PROFESSION by all means, but not beginning to personalize it. The PROFESSION and the INDIVIDUAL are two different entities. Just like you can dislike a person's behavior but love that person.

Count your blessings...name them ONE-BY-ONE And it will surprise you what GOD has done. Many other people may have wanted to be in your position, but they are not. YOU are there- you have a purpose. Find that purpose and accomplish it. Or not. But please enough of all the constant bashing. The grass always looks greener on the other side.

Every other profession has it's own quirks. Every profession has grounds for complaints, but you initially found something in the Nursing Profession that made you want to do- it is up to you to continue to find that thing, even when everything looks bleak. Attitudes are contagious and I'm very sure I do not want to catch the bleak attitudes, that is fast becoming rampant here. I and everyone else, I'm sure, like to associate with optimists and have positive outlook even when things may seem so bleak. Try and infuse some enthusiasm into your work, even in the least thing you do, and see how your outlook would change on other things.

"Enthusiasm is contagious. Be a carrier."

That done...so how has your day been?:)

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Specializes in Acute Care Cardiac, Education, Prof Practice.

I understand where you are coming from, completely. I love my profession, and often find it hard to sort my head from my heart when I read some of the threads on this site. However, in the long run, I try to keep in mind that I may not be able to control how other people feel, I can control what I read, and how I personally react to it.

In short, I pick and choose my threads, and try not to let them stress/anger me. I work hard not to take them as a personal attack, and instead try to see into the writing and offer the best bit of controlled advice I can.

Tait

BTW my day was great, until I got woken up from my slumber by a noisy electrician I thought was trying to break into my house. Bet I looked a mess stumbling outside, one eye open, hair a mess with my Spongebob pajama pants on looking for a fight!

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I understand where you are coming from, completely. I love my profession, and often find it hard to sort my head from my heart when I read some of the threads on this site. However, in the long run, I try to keep in mind that I may not be able to control how other people feel, I can control what I read, and how I personally react to it.

In short, I pick and choose my threads, and try not to let them stress/anger me. I work hard not to take them as a personal attack, and instead try to see into the writing and offer the best bit of controlled advice I can.

Tait

BTW my day was great, until I got woken up from my slumber by a noisy electrician I thought was trying to break into my house. Bet I looked a mess stumbling outside, one eye open, hair a mess with my Spongebob pajama pants on looking for a fight!

You're right, I should learn to pick my threads.

Meanwhile, you gave a very good description- I could imagine you exactly as you described it.LOl, spongebob pajama pants:D

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Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

I think its human nature to complain versus compliment.

That said, I have complained about the nursing profession. There are some things I like, somethings I don't, some things I can change, others I can't.

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Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

I have found on any internet board like this, it's best to take the posts you can use and enjoy and use them. Discard the rest. Life is too short and like someone wiser than I said, PICK YOUR BATTLES. To rail against venting does not solve the problem. Turning to posts you enjoy does. Problem solved.

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:smokin: I just want to say that the opposite of positive is obviously, negative. But there is a BIGGGG difference between, say, negative/cynical and realistic. I think people need to hear the bad with the good. Anyone who thinks everything is going to be airtight and smooth with a little hard work and discipline is living in a happy bubble that one day is going to burst really bad on them. And it will hurt. I find "optimists" the most annoying people I've ever had to deal with. 95% of the time, they're just fake. Life sucks sometimes, and I would much rather read someone vent and tell me the truth about something than to sugar coat it. And believe me, I've worked in several hospitals now. The environment makes the difference. If someone says "Being a nurse sucks!", my response would not be to belittle them, because YES FUTURE NURSES, SOMETIMES IT DOES SUCK, no matter how passionate you are about the field. In some hospitals, I loved it. Some, I hated it. It depends on the fools you're working with, and what your job is.

One thing I have learned though, is that NO ONE has the upper hand or power over me unless I give it to them. Since most of us on here are nursing students on here, I'll give you an example: there are HUNDREDS of nursing programs out there. I was accepted to one, and left it because they were disorganized, disgruntled, and I wasn't learning a thing. I could have easily passed through that program, ended up going through life embarrassed to say where I graduated from nursing school (give you a hint -- I live in metro-Detroit), and I sure as heck wouldn't have passed my N-CLEX. While in the program, the instructors and faculty were content to make students feel like crap and belittle them. But I have the power. I chose to go into nursing somewhere else. And now I'm doing fine. When I finish my masters degree, I'm going to go back to that miserable school and interview for a teaching position just to **** them off.

You have the power, and while it's PERFECTLY HEALTHY to be brutally honest and REALISTIC at times (i.e., call someone out on being a stupid SOB when they truly are, or politely explain to your employer "I'm an RN now, and if you want to treat me like $h!+, there's 10 other hospitals down the street that need me and won't think so), remember that YOU have control over your destiny, your life, and your dreams NOT someone else. And don't be afraid to vent, no matter how it may sound. Some of us are listening and we can learn from each other and perhaps help one another to avoid these problems in the first place.

Peace and love to realistically cynical people :heartbeat:redbeathe

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Specializes in pulm/cardiology pcu, surgical onc.

I've learned to appreciate different points of view but I've realized some people are just whiny and love to toot their own horn. I can usually pick these ones out and will either stay far away or figure a way to call them on their BS.

When I read Randy Pausch's Last Lecture I realized it's not all about me when working with my patients and it opened my eyes on how I live.

Thanks OP for this thread.

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