Loosing hope

StillHaventHadLunch, BSN, RN · Dec 31, 2017

I agree with the common sentiment at this point. Despite the typo, your title piqued my curiosity & sympathies. While I wasn't sure I could offer many valuable insights, my initial intent was to post a sympathetic & encouraging reply, as you'd said you may just be needing to vent a bit.

After seeing the entitled & infantile attitude with which you've lashed out at the people who are volunteering their own time & energy to help you, I'm completely put off. If this is how you react upon receiving constructive advice (that you asked for), and requests for clarification (due to confusion caused by your own ambiguous post), I'm suspicious that your immaturity & poor attitude shine through in your daily life as well, including during interviews & follow-up phone calls with potential employers.

kbrn2002, ADN, RN · Dec 31, 2017

You are not the first to have difficulty finding that first nursing job and you won't be the last. Since it seems you believe the main barrier to finding a position is the lack of a required BSN you need to obtain that BSN right away, or least be enrolled so you can let potential employers know you are being proactive in getting the degree. Another option if it's feasible in your life situation is to relocate to an area not so saturated with nurses that all employers can insist on a BSN as a requirement. There are plenty of areas that are looking for licensed nurses that don't give a hoot if you have an ADN or BSN as long as you passed the NCLEX. If moving isn't an option all you can really do is just keep doing what you're doing and try to remain positive.

Been there,done that, ASN, RN · Dec 31, 2017

As stated in my op, I did just pass my nursing boards in the state of Massachusetts. I do not have RN experience, but I do have plenty of experience as a nursing assistant and unit secretary. I am sort of confused with your post too .. didn't make any sense and you didn't help at all and yes you can have a ton of acute care experience without being a nurse. Are nurses the only part of an interdisciplinary team ? Thanks!

Your problem is that giant chip on your shoulder. If it comes off loud and clear with the written word, interviewers are getting a good look at it.

Daniellern152 · Dec 31, 2017

I just read all these posts including your original post and I don't agree that you made people to believe that you had RN experience. I agree you didn't clarify but you are putting this under first year after license or whatever and you said you just passed your boards. I just don't understand why people are confused. I think maybe you got frustrated and that's ok, but people are trying to help you. As for everyone flipping out about your attitude, well that's their opinion, but please stop attacking. Everyone on here posting how rude, childis, just give up etc, you are just as bad. And to the girl who said you don't follow through with things, that's so wrong. I know plenty of people who have nursing as second career after spending tons of money on a bachelors in something else, including myself.. so please don't think for a second I regret going back and getting another degree. You want to get through to people like this, don't fall to their level by bashing them. Oh just an FYI, she did say thank you to people, so it could be worse!

Daniellern152 · Dec 31, 2017

No, you should give up and quit. It is the easiest option and will spare you the aggravation of having to try so hard at getting a new job. Honestly you seem to have a pattern of starting things, and not finishing things. You can't quit so easily and expect good results. If I went to school to be a respiratory therapist, I would have made sure I was able to pay for my state test so that I could later work. The same thing applies to becoming an RN. If you went to school, and passed the boards, you need to work you butt off to get a job. Your attitude is not helping the situation. You can't pick and choose what you want to hear in regards to the reality of the situation. You asked for advice and everyone was kind enough to provide it.

You were actually pretty rude and I would've said something too if you posted on my advice. Give up ? Shame on you, and all your "likes"

Daniellern152 · Dec 31, 2017

As a completely disinterested UK nurse I think you are needing to wind your neck in a bit.
People on this site have answered your post and have asked questions for clarification.
You have responded like a huffy teenager. You have been sarcastic and generally not very nice to people who have tried to help you. If you behaved at an interview with me that way I would have no hesitation in binning your application.
You have stated that your CV is "stellar" (always a worry when people think that they are perfect) but you cannot even spell 'losing' correctly in the title of your post.
If you want help and advice, ask for it and people will respond but DON'T then become sarky when the advice is not what you think it should be.
PS.
Don't try flaming me or abusing me as a) I don't care and b) I will just block you.

I don't understand how you come on here, don't offer any advice, start by saying how uninterested you are and how this person is a huffy teenager but you just rip into them and yell at them like a grumpy man (like your name). Sometimes I think people come on here after having a bad shift to let their troubles out. Like don't come back and say anything or I'll block you? Like just don't respond ?? Advice from a US RN :)

Daniellern152 · Dec 31, 2017

I thought you were looking for help. You are coming across as argumentive, quarrelsome, and not open to any of the good suggestions folks have given.
Loosing is wrong. Losing it. Loose means not tight. Lose means not winning; something is slipping away.
Make your work history clear. You have unit secretary and other non-RN experience. you were a good Nursing student. you are looking forward to starting your first RN position.
Try to drop the anger and the sense of superiority and resentment undertones. That's what I feel coming from you anyway. Sorry if I am wrong. No insult is meant. I wish you all the best.
I'm wondering if you feel inferior at the heart of all of this.

Really ?? Spelling ?? This app is crap and I always spell things wrong. Not the issue here. LOOSING !

RNrhythm, BSN, RN · Dec 31, 2017

Even "volunteer" work can quickly lead to a paid position. Take care of yourself and keep positive.

I volunteered in a public health setting and they later called me about a clinic position. Also, they became an important reference for me.

Workitinurfava, BSN, RN · Jan 1, 2018

Don't assume anything. You came on here to attack the people offering their opinions to the op and you are calling me rude. Why not just respond to the op, isn't that the point of this post.

Apple-Core, ASN, BSN, RN · Jan 1, 2018

I just read all these posts including your original post and I don't agree that you made people to believe that you had RN experience. I agree you didn't clarify but you are putting this under first year after license or whatever and you said you just passed your boards. I just don't understand why people are confused. I think maybe you got frustrated and that's ok, but people are trying to help you. As for everyone flipping out about your attitude, well that's their opinion, but please stop attacking. Everyone on here posting how rude, childis, just give up etc, you are just as bad. And to the girl who said you don't follow through with things, that's so wrong. I know plenty of people who have nursing as second career after spending tons of money on a bachelors in something else, including myself.. so please don't think for a second I regret going back and getting another degree. You want to get through to people like this, don't fall to their level by bashing them. Oh just an FYI, she did say thank you to people, so it could be worse!

I'm glad you were able to understand what was meant - however, clearly several of us were confused by the OP. The original response to the OP was simply asking for clarification. This entire thread wouldn't have gone off at the tangent it did if the OP had responded something such as, "oops - sorry my post wasn't clear. What I meant was...(then described the situation)". Instead she got combative right off the bat.

You can't actually say "I don't agree that you made people to believe that you had RN experience", because you're then speaking on behalf of everyone....and I, as well as several others, mistook the original intent of the post. I agree that may not have been the OPs intention, but nevertheless she did confuse several of us.

Again - wouldn't have been a big deal if his/her response had been a little less fiery. As it was, the OP got very snippy when asked for a simple clarification, and now the OPs attitude had become the focus of the thread rather than the original question.

A clear case, IMO, that you get more flies with honey...a little more humility and kindness and there would have been an entire thread of ideas to help. Instead we're posting about the OPs attitude.

Daniellern152 · Jan 1, 2018

Don't assume anything. You came on here to attack the people offering their opinions to the op and you are calling me rude. Why not just respond to the op, isn't that the point of this post.

Ummmm you are rude ? You think coming on here and telling someone to give up is the point of this post. Don't want you to be my nurse. Don't start attacking me because I am calling you out.

Daniellern152 · Jan 1, 2018

I'm glad you were able to understand what was meant - however, clearly several of us were confused by the OP. The original response to the OP was simply asking for clarification. This entire thread wouldn't have gone off at the tangent it did if the OP had responded something such as, "oops - sorry my post wasn't clear. What I meant was...(then described the situation)". Instead she got combative right off the bat.
You can't actually say "I don't agree that you made people to believe that you had RN experience", because you're then speaking on behalf of everyone....and I, as well as several others, mistook the original intent of the post. I agree that may not have been the OPs intention, but nevertheless she did confuse several of us.
Again - wouldn't have been a big deal if his/her response had been a little less fiery. As it was, the OP got very snippy when asked for a simple clarification, and now the OPs attitude had become the focus of the thread rather than the original question.
A clear case, IMO, that you get more flies with honey...a little more humility and kindness and there would have been an entire thread of ideas to help. Instead we're posting about the OPs attitude.

Please, this will be my last post about this. I am just trying to see things from both sides and from what I saw before the op could clarify, it was a little extreme. That is my opinion and I have my right to that. Like your whole post. The original post was "combative." That's very extreme. They actually stated right away the experience they needed to elaborate on. The op wrote right away they were a unit clerk or something. That's all the post said. After that I'm not talking about. That's why I was confused of why everyone was confused? I was not and guess what that's ok. I'm referring to people who think telling this person "to give up" "quit while your ahead" That is ridiculous and coming on here and making fun of the spelling, like it's so childish.